Is therapy a waste of time?

[Anonymous]

Everyone here says "just work on yourself, be confident, nothing else matters" as advice for pretty much everything. Is therapy a scam since the solutions are that easy?

[MemeSupreme]

everyone knows the obvious shit but getting there is different

a therapist is there to point out things you likely didn't know about yourself like bad habits and help you work on them. also a safe place to vent and not have it be toxic for the other person bc they know how to handle it

[Asker]

Should therapists be allowed to report incels as Incels? The confidence laws seem way too convenient to protecting those assholes

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Therapy is the toolbox, not the fix-it man. Therapy is when someone gives you the best possible tools to solve your problem but they cannot fix it for you because you’re doing a DIY project. It only works if you make it work, no one else can do that work for you.

[Asker]

Basically anyone who goes to therapy and doesn't get better is a moral failure since they're refusing to simply do the thing?

[Asker]

If someone is given the best possible tools and still fails, should they be jailed or given capital punishment since they're a morally corrupt person not fit to be in society?

[Caroline91]

The solutions aren't necessarily that easy. It can take a great deal of intense and painful effort to receive the most out of therapy. It also takes a good match with your therapist. For me, it was life altering in a very positive way.

[Asker]

Isn't it that easy though? Therapy is for people too stupid to do the work themselves who need a person to hand hold through it is the impression that people give. In the end you have to do the work yourself and if you don't thats a moral failing

[Nikki1989]

You can give someone all the ingredients, but that won't necessarily make them a good cook.

Some people don't have it in them to make the right decisions.

[Asker]

Would you say people who get therapy but still struggle are simply bad people or defected beyond repair?