Everyone around me starts treating me badly ever since I gained weight?

[Anonymous]

my sister says my existence is disgusting and she randomly shouts at me and get annoyed from me

and i feel everyone loves me less now , or accept me

last month i tried losing weight bc i have a big event and i lost some weight but i did it in a wrong way (basically starving) and i gained all weight back when i started eating one or 2 meals a day and i usually binge then starve again and the cycle never ends

how do i feel great to get motivated when everyone around me make me feel bad about myself? it's really messing me up

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on the other side , i know a lot of overweight people who are liked and supported by their friends and they seem beautiful and give off warm vibes , is the problem from how i feel about myself? bc they definitely feel good about themselves while i keep judging myself and EVERYTHING on my mind is about dieting , i try a lot and they seem to be relaxed about their weight

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The problem is not only how you feel about yourself but the people you choose to surround yourself with. If you have to nearly starve yourself to be loved, I don’t think I need to tell you that’s a bad idea. If people decide they hate being around you bc you’re fat, don’t be around them. Be around the people who know you and not your body and care about what’s under the skin.

[evie56]

classic on how everyone starts treating you differently once you lose weight
i would suggest to work on yourself and what YOU want. People will always talk and give their unwanted opinion. What we do with those opinions is what matters. It is us who give other people’s words power. Also the next time you go on a weight loss journey, do it in a healthier way so that you can be even more proud and happy about it.

[Sonorous]

The motivation in my opinion should come from wanting to better your health. Best way in my opinion is to focus on small goals every week. It's what I do. For the past year I've been focusing on taking out the bad & bringing in the good in a way that my body doesn't mind. My saturated fat intake was high so I lowered it by cutting out high saturated fat foods. My sodium was high so I swapped the higher sodium foods with lower sodium foods & mainly salt my foods with potassium salt. I have an insane sweet tooth so I switched sugar out for artificial sweeteners like erythritol & allulose. The list goes on & on. Best way to start is to get a calorie tracking app & set little goals to hit everyday that keep your diet enjoyable but allow you to stay under a certain amount of calories everyday.

[Jeff51]

Maybe they are not your real friends

[Asker]

maybe , but i like to feel loved , but it's always under the condition of "i have to be pretty to be loved"

[Jeff51]

people should like and love you for you not the few lbs

[Asker]

not few , i usually lose a lot of weight when i starve but gain it back to where i was overweight bc of how fast i lose it, so i actually get fat

[slatyb]

Your sister is abusive. How old is she? Avoid her.

[Asker]

21,,,

[slatyb]

Seriously if she makes insulting remarks leave the room.