Does this sound like a stressful situation, or do I need to suck it up?

[Nicholas1302]

My aunt lives with me. She's had some trouble walking since she moved in. She's fallen a few times since, and I had to help her up. Well, today she went to go clean at her clients house for a half hour. She said her legs were wobbly, and on the drive there, she was all over the road. I was at my moms house checking on her dog while she was at work. My aunt calls, and says she's stuck in her car in my driveway, because her legs won't let her get up, so I came home to help her up, and to her room. About an hour ago she calls me from her room. She said she went to the bathroom. She couldn't get up from the toilet, so she crawled to her bed, and I had to lift her up on her bed. She said she doesn't know how she's gonna be able to go to the bathroom at night, so I called my mom, and she's staying the night to help us. Im afraid my aunt will fall, and break a bone, and need me to help her take showers, and stuff like that. So my mom talked to her, and told her that it stresses me out, and that im not a caregiver. I just overheard them talking. My aunt was like "well he didn't tell me that". I didn't tell her that because I dont want to hurt her feelings. I just don't think I can do this long term.

[Clear_Skies10]

Some old people don't wanna go into an old folks home, or long-term care facility. They would rather make their relatives go through this craziness. You shouldn't be showering your aunt.

[Nicholas1302]

She was able to go to the bathroom by herself last night, and didn't need any help. My mom and I left to go do some errands. We will be gone most of the day. I feel like it might be elder neglect for me to not be there in case she false. My mom said that if my aunt doesn't want to help herself then I can only do so much. What do you think?

[Nicholas1302]

My mom told her that if she falls then to call 911, and not me.

[Clear_Skies10]

I don't know your aunt personally, but I know some other old people that are not very nice people in a way. It annoys me that they don't take care of their health, they treat their families like crap, then they refuse to go live in a lodge or someplace where there's people that are paid to care for them, and there's easy access to health care facilities. They just expect their family to put their lives on hold and care for them in their old age. I'm not saying to neglect them, I'm saying to put them in an assisted living facility so they get proper care, and you get to actually have a life.

[Mariogirl09]

You have to tell her. Also suggest physical therapy

[Nicholas1302]

What good would telling her do?

[Mariogirl09]

Because she thinks she can rely on you and she can't

[Amy2004]

I would be honest and tell her.