Am I wrong for getting emotional and crying nearly everyday for not losing the weight fast enough?

[Anonymous]

I have only lost 28lbs so far in less than 2 months and up until 5 days ago, was losing consistently but now my weight has stalled and I have been crying nearly everyday since seeing the stall.

I've been working out hard and eating in a calorie deficit consistently like under 1000 calories a day.

Should I be sad or should I just suck it up and just keep going?

I mean I am going to keep going regardless but I can't help but be emotional when I don't see any change on the scale after how hard I've been working to get the weight off.

I have over 100lbs to lose.

[sage2021]

Have you ever heard of a medical condition called Insulin Resistance?

I just Googled it and it might be worth it to research it for yourself.

I believe that's what I have. I eat like a bird, and yet my weight is stalled out and I just can't lose any weight.

I am overweight for the first time in my life. I was wearing size 16 little girl jeans and dresses when I was in my 40's, and always around 100 lbs. throughout my growing up years. I was tiny.

Now I am probably 50 lbs overweight. I hardly ever eat, and I just can't lose weight.

But I believe you are on the right track and hopefully you will reach your goal.

When you said you are staying at the same weight, that caught my eye, which made me think of Insulin resistance.

Please don't cry over this. You have lost some weight so you are doing great so far. But crying over this and beating yourself up over it, well, that's not necessary and it's not in the weight loss program either. 🙂

[Asker]

Thank you and I have heard of it and think that might be the case. I'm going to go to my doctor in November and hopefully get some blood work done to see if that truly is the case. Thanks again!

[sage2021]

I hope you get the answers you need once and for all.
The best of luck to you.🙂

[Asker]

Thanks! :)

[sage2021]

@Asker
You're Welcome! And please don't be hard on yourself! No need to add another problem when there isn't one, right? You're okay!! 👍

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO ❣️

[Asker]

You're welcome

[ohsheeT]

Check your thyroid gland
Quit drinking. making sugar waters, drink lots of water and not bottled water bottled water has so much chemicals in it. It's unreal

Instead of working out walk for 30 minutes a day at a very fast pace for 30 days. Try that and see what it does it will work. I don't know if that, but it will tone your body up and shape it. But you have to walk fast and you have to do it every day. And if you can do two sets of thirty minutes a day that's even better

And also, queer to crying and c***Just be happy. You have to be free spirit. Be happy. Let it happen if you're holding all that c*** inside of you. They're all ten step relaxed , let your body just go blatant

Be happy and totally relax and let it go

[curiousandhonest]

Wow. You are doing fantastic! Keep at it. You won't lose the same amount each week.
Not sure why you are getting emotional cos surely you are acheiving what you have set for yourself.
What is your target amount of weight to lose?

[Asker]

Thank you! 169lbs to lose to be 125lbs.

[curiousandhonest]

As in you are currently 169lbs? Or that's the amount you would like to lose?

[Asker]

That's the amount I would like to lose.

[curiousandhonest]

So a realistic goal could be 10lbs a month perhaps. Keep doing what you are doing and don't worry if you don't lose 10lbs in a month cos as long as you have lost even 1lb then you are going in the right direction. Don't aim to lose all the weight in 6 months. Either say you will lose it in 2 years. Or better yet, just focus on the current month. One month at a time and forget about a final date.
I am going to start exercising and dieting to lose weight. I am considering recording me showing how I look and perhaps twice a week do a new video with updated weight lose, diet, exercise.
It would help so many people and I'm sure once I lose my weight then I won't be bothered about showing how my body was so I would post all the videos on YouTube and not charge or make financial gain from the viewer.
Blimey, I got side tracked.

[Asker]

Right. I'll do just that! Even if I don't lose 10 in a month, just losing 1lb or 2lbs like you said is better than nothing and I am going in the right direction! Thank you!

[curiousandhonest]

You're welcome. I wish you all the best and don't let anyone else's negativity get in your head

[Asker]

Ok I won't!

[Sonorous]

What is your current weight, height, & age? I'll calculate your tdee more accurately than most calculators & I'll give you calorie amounts to aim for at certain weights in order to not plateau. Because usually ~18lbs lost is ~100cal reduction from our maintenance calories. Many don't take this into account as they're losing.

Also, best not to rely on scale weight for emotional stability. For instance, last week I had days where I woke up weighing 158lbs. I didn't stress though because I knew that it was just water weight from carbs, sodium, inflammation, etc. Now I've lowered my sodium & am at a glycogen depleted weight so I'm waking up at 153lbs & dropping until I do another re-feed.

[Asker]

240lbs, 5'6 and 30.

[Sonorous]

• Your current maintenance calories are likely ~2,400cal/day.
• Your highest healthy weight (based on bmi) is ~155lbs with a maintenance intake of 1,880cal/day.
• I recommend your maximum deficit being a rate of weight-loss that is ~.64% of any given weight. For your current weight, this would be ~800cals from your current maintenance intake of 2,400cals. The result being no less than ~1,600cal/day. And then for instance, once you lose ~50lbs, the same rate would mean that your calories would need to be only 600cals below that weights maintenance (2,100cal/day) resulting in a 1,500cal daily intake.
• The reason I recommend eating 1,600cal/day at the lowest right now is because this will allow you to lose weight at a good pace while not harming your health. Extremely deep deficits are not good for long-term weight-loss & they only usually increase goal weight's time-frame by a negligible amount making it not worth it. That's if someone can even stick to it for long enough to lose the weight. So better off taking the slower approach so that you'll be able to make this your lifestyle & also learn healthy lifestyle additions. Didn't put the weight on fast because fat gain is a slow process. Better to follow the same logic when losing it.

[Sonorous]

• With a total fat-loss amount of ~85lbs to lose & metabolisms difference in these weights by ~500cals, this means that you metabolism will slow by 100cals every ~17lbs. So in order to stay on pace relative to your preferred rate of weight-loss, you'll have to reduce calories by ~100cals (based on your preferred rate of weight-loss) every ~17-18lbs lost otherwise plateaus will occur.
• By following these logics, you'll be able to get to your goal weight in around 1.3years in mid feb 2027.
• I also recommend not working out so much for fat-loss. The best type of movement is walking tbh. Anything above that will likely cause your body to more-so tap into the adaptive range (via lowering EAT & NEAT levels) to compensate for the higher output & recovery demand. It happened to me with higher intensity movement. Unless I bypassed my adaptive range of 350-400cals, my metabolism stayed the same. I haven't tested this out with lower intensity movement but it may operate similar ot maybe not at all. So yeah, only do moderate to high intensity exercise for health, muscle growth, vanity, etc & never long-term fat-loss because it's not effective for that.

Best of luck! Let me know if you want any other tips especially when it comes to approaching the dieting part. There are many things to consider that make it easier or harder. Trust me on this because I'm basically shredded right now to some degree & have mastered dieting for myself.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Sonorous]

No prob! I know someone very close to your stats & I always tell them to take the slow approach. And that if they need to, to vary their calories but stay within certain guaranteed ranges that will get hem results. I'm currently in deficits myself so based on my maintenance calories & the fact that I want to lose weight by at least around.8-1.2lbs per week, this means that my intake can be anywhere from 1,600cals to 1,800cals per day on average. If I'm training one day I might even eat 1,900cals & then compensate by just eating less on a recovery day. This approach works the best for me & is ensures that my dieting is easier since it goes based on what I know my body can thrive off of long-term despite my stomach acting like it can't sometimes lol.

[genericname85]

wtf 28 lbs in less then 2 month is crazy. crazy to the point where i'm concerned about your health. like that's too fast to be healthy. just like it's not healthy to be below 1000 calories. you're litterally starving yourself, that's why your body has switched to emergency mode, getting into high efficiency mode to burn less calories. look it up that's a thing that happens.

so what you should do is aim at a modest 500-1000 calorie "deficite" a day. while not getting beneath your BMR (find a calculator to calculate your bmr). so you effectively should lose maybe one pound a week, not much more. that's healthy. that's realisitc.

you should be proud of what you did untill now but probably switch to more healthy ways that go slower. by the way: the closer you get to your ideal weight, the slower the progress will be. that's normal and expected. accept that and adjust your expectations.

[Shiprex]

You're reaching a plateau because the work and intake are balancing which should be good. Your loss is top class and really fast. That should be a celebration for you. It will never keep dropping at the same rate the closer you get to a sustainable and healthy weight.

[exitseven]

getting emotional will not help. Look at your diet and see if there is an adjustment you can make and don't skip the gym.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes but it’s how you are choosing to process a lack of results. You will keep going and not give up tho

[Asker]

Right. I won't!

[BarryLiverstone]

Then why ask the question?

[seeyounexttuesday]

Lol, what? You lost 30 lbs in 2 months and you’re upset about it? You should be jumping up and down

[Asker]

No I was upset that I haven't lost more than that but you're right, I should be excited that I lost that much in almost 2 months.

[jahaims]

You aren't mentally stable

[Anonymous]

Yes, I believe you are.