Improving myself? Do you think I will ever change for the better?

[Dancer102]

I’m not going to lie and post the same questions over and over again and actually get some mental help. I want people to like me so I can have loving relationship. You think I will have a loving relationship one day or it’s not possible? No one would want to deal with me?

[ohsheeT]

I think THIS question is the start of you finding yourself or improving yourself because you're acknowledging something and that's a powerful start is acknowledging something
Only time will tell

You also changed your name from anonymous to dancer

So in your own way you're owning Who You Are and accepting what comes with it

Change doesn't come overnight depending on what you're trying to change it takes a lot of time sometime

And with this type of subject it's going to be difficult but I think you can do anything that you want to do it's your choice

[bowenw]

It is totally possible. You seem to be a very passionate, interesting, and intelligent person. Those are very good qualities to have in a loving relationship.

[Dancer102]

Thank you so much!! So why are people bullying me on here calling me mentally ill?

[bowenw]

Only they know the answer to that. Try to focus on yourself and not what they think.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[Friendlybro79]

I believe anyone can have a living relationship if you don't try too hard to force it to happen. I would suggest therapy to help yourself work on you. I say this not because I'm judging you or saying there's something wrong with you, but I think many people can benefit from therapy. It's a way to work out the stuff you're trying to work out here with an actual professional that knows how to help you.

People will like you but if you overwhelm an avg person with your own hang ups, it can become burdensome because we all have our issues to deal with.

A real friend will be there for you in tough times but if you burn them out with drama, legit or not, most people will feel that a relationship with you is too draining or possibly toxic.

It seems like that would never be your intention but good intentions don't make it ok to wear other people out with what seems (not sure) like a lot of anxiety.

Deep inside there's a version of you that is your best. We all have this version within ourselves. The version where you're happy and content with yourself and your environment around you.

This brings me back to my original point. I'm not a therapist so I can't really help you, but it seems like you'd benefit greatly and that's nothing to be ashamed of. Go and get some for yourself and make that be step 1 in this new chapter of your life that allows you the things you're looking for. That requires the ability to receive feedback and implement change within yourself. Good luck.

[lightbulb27]

to have a loving relationship is possible, but you really need to love yourself first. Healing the damaged inner child is #1 priority. Problem is at your age, #1 priority is find mate, find love and make offspring. That's hormonal. So you have to work in the first #1.

yes, it may take time. the healthier you are the easier it is to find a decent person. if you are a wounded person, probability is high you will not only draw but fall into with trouble and then you'll work through those problems.

All humans are damaged or complex in some manner.

It's hard work to change and work on yourself, but it's the best work there is. Starts with recognizing, exploring and being willing to evolve.

[Dancer102]

What about my past questions and people name calling me there? Look at the answers

[Anonymous]

I honestly think you can change for the better. ❤️ The fact that you’re able to look at yourself honestly and admit that you want help already says a lot. People aren’t permanently stuck as the person they are during their hardest periods.

And please don’t think you have to become “perfect” before someone can love you. A healthy relationship isn’t about finding someone who has no problems; it’s about two people who are willing to grow, communicate, and treat each other with care.

Getting some mental health support isn’t something to be ashamed of either. You’re not doing it because you’re unlovable. You’re doing it because you deserve to understand yourself better and have a happier life. 🌷

So yes, I absolutely think you can have a loving relationship someday. Just try not to make being loved the only reason you work on yourself. Do it for you first. The rest can come naturally. ❤️

[Dancer102]

Aww thank you!! Did you see my past posts?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I did

[WhitneySnow]

Date a guy like really date him not asking if he wants to hook up. You will be pleasantly surprised.

[WhitneySnow]

Or a girl if you’re bi

[Dancer102]

I’m into guys I’m straight

[WhitneySnow]

Then defo find a cute guy to date and explore your sexuality with just him

[Kvass]

At least you admitted that you’re a liar. That’s a good start, I guess. Keep swimming.

[Dancer102]

I was a liar now I will stick to my truth and not ask the same sex questions anymore so my relationships won’t be affected! No one even wants to get with me anymore wonder why?

[Dancer102]

Not going to be a liar anymore it’s bad

[Anonymous]

I’d start by learning to love yourself. Sounds cliche but if you love who you are you feel better overall, more confident, better relationships w people.

[Anonymous]

No matter who you are, someone is your type and you theirs. But you probably need people who are similar to you and understand you best.

[Dancer102]

Why does it have to be similar to me?

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn't HAVE to but those are the people who can understand you best

[Dancer102]

Yeah that’s true

[dudeinohio]

Absolutely you can, and will. Just believe in yourself.

[duntoldya]

Sure. You can do it

[Paige2006]

Yes you can

[AgentG111]

Yes you can