Why do I feel so defeated and how do I stop feeling this way?

[Simslover92]

One of my librarian supervisors quit and I feel so gutted by it. He was an absolute joy to work with and one of the highlights of working at the university library. Now that he's gone, I don't know how I'm going to make it through this academic year. I feel so defeated.

[sage2021]

I'm curious, 🤔 are they going to replace him with someone else?
Not that it would be the same, but it might not feel like you're all alone there. And who knows what the replacement might be like?

I'm sorry that you have been thrown into such a big change when you are still pretty new there yourself.

Please keep us posted. Remember that we are all behind you, pulling for
you. 💐

[Simslover92]

I'm not entirely sure. I hope so. We need the help. But I hope whoever they bring in is just as good-hearted as he was. Thank you so much. 😊

[Melody90]

Hey, I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. It makes complete sense that you feel defeated when someone who brought so much joy to your work environment is no longer there. Sometimes, it’s not just about losing a colleague; it’s about losing the little things that made showing up every day worthwhile. Please give yourself time to process this change. You don’t have to figure out how you’re going to get through the entire academic year right now. Just take it one day at a time. The impact he had on you and the good memories you shared will always be there, even if things feel different for a while. I hope, with time, you find new reasons to look forward to going to work again. Be gentle with yourself. ❤️

[Simslover92]

Thank you so much for your kind words. I appreciate it so very much. ❤️

[Melody90]

You are so welcome! 😊

[ohsheeT]

It's a moment in time you feel like you're alone again write down what happened today for 30 days next month right down what happens each day and you will see there's a pattern every 17 days something happens and once you adjust to that you'll be golden

[Still-alive]

just try to take it one day at a time and keep reminding yourself of whatever goal you are trying to achieve working at this library. Are you trying to save money? just keep that goal in your mind and get there.

[Simslover92]

Thanks. I'll try my hardest to do that!

[Still-alive]

it's been getting me through my retail job just reminding myself about the extra money lol.

[Simslover92]

Haha that'll do it

[msc545]

I understand that you are grieving over this event and I don't blame you if you're very close to him. Perhaps reconnect with him outside of the library and try to be friends?

[Simslover92]

Thanks. I guess I could do that.

[msc545]

Well, it may be somewhat difficult to do this, but I want to suggest to you that you contact him. It seems like this is really important to you, and you got a lot out of this relationship. You probably get a lot more out of it going forward, but you're going to have to have contact with him to make that happen. Please do.

[Simslover92]

Ok I will. I have his number. I will keep in contact with him and try to set up a time that we can meet in person.

[CaptainSmartass]

You could try and go for his job if they advertise it.

Simples...

[Simslover92]

His job is the same as mine. He was just the head of it but still same title.

[PeterLegg91]

Never get attached to people you work with, it's hard I know

[Simslover92]

I know I shouldn't have but he was super nice and like a father figure.

[PeterLegg91]

Can't you keep in contact with him Elaine?

[Nikki1989]

People come and go. Might as well get used to it.

[Kvass]

He quit his job, didn't die. No need to be dramatic

[Anonymous]

[Jeff51]

Your gonna have to realize people come and go. Most things are not life long.

[Anonymous]

You need new friends