Is it reasonable to ask your boyfriend to help pay for birth control?

[hunnybunny81105]

Honestly, I think it's fair and I don't understand how it isn't. I mean each couple should decide what they feel is best for them, but how is it wrong if you ask your man to help pay for birth control? It can be pricey! Nuvaring is about $44 a month. Why should the woman pay $44 a month (which adds up quickly) to basically pay to be able to have worry-free sex?

Yes, it is okay to ask

No, it's not fair!

[jdcpa]

Umm, what guy said it's NOT fair?

I suppose the ONLY situation where it's NOT fair is if the guy splits the bill, but the girl decides to have a baby whenever she feels like it: link

But, you can always contract around that: "(Man) agrees to pay for 50% of the cost of birth control for (Woman), so long as (Man) and (Woman) continue to be in a voluntarily sexually intimate relationship, as consideration for and in exchange for the consideration of (Woman)'s promise to take said birth control as directed by the manufacture of the medication, and (Woman) agrees to indemnify (Man) for any court-ordered support for any child that is biologically related to both (Man) and (Woman). Neither party may terminate this agreement. However, either party may waive their "rights" or release the other party's "obligations or duties" under this agreement at any time in a writing signed by both (Man) and (Woman) and two unrelated, uninterested, and unbiased witnesses. Such release or waiver shall become effective only when acknowledged before a Notary Public or Attorney licensed to practice law within the state of (Whatever)."

But yes, it's perfectly fair.

[EZlats]

It's okay to ask IF he doesn't use condoms at all.

And if he does, you would need to buy/have condoms too. Just in case.

Maybe also depends how often you have sex. If it's rarely, I think that he should be more inclined to pay part of it

[Skittles_lover]

Hmm? I don't know I kind of feel stuck in the middle with this one but I'm leaning more towards a no. I don't know maybe its because my BC is wayy cheaper than that so I don't see it as a big deal. But in your case still like you said every couple should decide what they feel is best for them, did you and your boyfriend come to a mutual agreement? If you just got what you were the most comfortable with then yeah you should be paying it alone, if not ask him to chip in. Maybe you can also consider changing to a different BC one that isn't as expensive.

[anony84]

every couple is different and every one who is answering here probably has a relationship that has a different dynamic and background as yours. If you feel like he should be paying for half of the cost of the pills, then just talk about it with him.

[SkinnyG]

If your boyfriend pays for meals and entertainment when you go out, I would say no. But if you split stuff 50/50, then I think it's OK to ask.

[hunnybunny81105]

When we go out we usually pay for ourselves. Once in a while he'll treat me or I'll treat him. We also take turns using our cars with far drives.

[SkinnyG]

Then I say there's no harm in asking him to share the cost.

[AustinMan]

It is not only okay: he should be thrilled to chip in. He's getting the benefits so he has to help pay the piper. However, my good friend makes a good point: anal is free if that's something you both enjoy.

[selfishstars]

I think it's completely reasonable. Contraception and safe sex are both people's responsibility. So whether it's birth control, condoms, spermicide, or whatever people choose to use, I think it's fair to share the cost.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

It isn't unreasonable to ask him to do that. He's benefitting from it too, so if it is too expensive for you then ask him to chip in. if he says no, then don't have sex with him anymore

[anonymous17]

I think its fair. Birth control is expensive. If he says he is not going to help you I would reevaluate dating him. Because if my boyfriend asked me to help pay for condoms I would.

[gotc147]

Why should the man have to wear a condom and have the feeling in his penis be watered down to have worry-free sex?

[hunnybunny81105]

This doesn't make sense to me. Well, that's why there's birth control. If hate condoms and would like your girl to use birth control, why make her pay for all of it for the rest of the year? $44 a month or more can easily add up to over $500 a year.

[gotc147]

Most women want the man to wear a condom during sex whether she's on birth control or not.

If you can't afford $50/month for something like birth control, smart guys wouldn't have sex with you anyway.

[lottierose]

Nothing works all the time, so it's probably be better to have both, whether or not it "waters down" the feeling of it. Girls already have more worries in this than guys (it's the girl who get pregnant and the guy can choose not to be involved, the girl can't ) I think if it's the only control being used, then yeah it should be split. (same with any birth control)

[gotc147]

Of course you do, you want the man to pay for your meals, pay for your entertainment, pay for the roof over your head, maybe even pay for the car you drive, why not make him pay for the birth control too? You women just can't keep your hands out of mens pockets can you?

And no, the man does not have a choice as the girl can bring him to court and force child support, also the girl can get an abortion even if the guy wants to keep the baby, it is not a level playing field.

[nicenthic]

I would totally do it. As long as you're decently good looking. Otherwise, to hell with it! nah, I kid, I kid :D

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I think it's fair to ask to help pay, but if he gets condoms, you gonna help pay for his? Most women never do -_-

[G-Daz]

I think that's fair enough, can't see why there is anything there for him to complain about if you ask him its justified! he shouldn't have a problem

[mshaker]

Of course its fair. I used to give my ex money even when she didn't ask for it LOL

[sweet_18]

If he refuses to use a condom then he sure as hell better pay for it. All of it. And this is only because I would prefer not to be on birth control at all -just as a personal preference

[jimmy217]

thats like a $1.50 a day...do you split the cost for condoms?

[Anonymous]

Sure it can be fair. But have you helped pay for condoms until now? Because if yoi haven't then yes your request becomes unfair...

[Caustic_Fox]

If my girlfriend couldn't affrd 50 bucks a month I wouldn't be dating her

[sweet_18]

Are you serious? You're 21. Which means you're going to be dating in that age range. And that age range consists mostly of people who are in college, who can't afford very much. I personally can't afford birth control and I would write any guy off as an a**hole if that was his reason for not wanting to date me.

[Caustic_Fox]

600 dollars is less than half a months paycheck for me. Unless she's making less than minimum wage I can't see 600 dollars a year to not get pregnate as to much money

[Anonymous]

Are you splitting all other costs in the relationship?

[kheserthorpe]

Anal is free.

[SkinnyG]

I see you're developing a nice sense of humor. :)

[AustinMan]

Amen to that! Good one.