Can someone give me some advice about helping my sister to lose weight, physically and emotionally?

[Anonymous]

A couple of days ago my older sister came to me, really mad, yelling at me because some guy that she liked had asked me out. And then suddenly she went from shouting to crying. She told that she's unhappy with her weight (she's a bit overweight about 200lbs) and that she thinks it's unfair we've always been eating the same but I'm normal weight.

So I offered we could work out together everyday and lose weight together

Now we may eat similar but I've always done sport, while she has done nothing. I thought running was thing to start but she could only go through with it for about 20 min.

So what is good workouts for beginners? I though about swimming, water polo or surfing, be she doesn't want to be seen in bathing suit.

We go to USC, so there's a beach in the area and mountains are not that far either. Any suggestions for good beginner workouts?

Our college also has a lot of great clubs but she doesn't want to go, because she's afraid to embarrass herself.

Quite obviously she's very insecure too, so is there anything I can do to help her with that? So maybe she will go to one of those clubs and it will make it easier for her

Sorry, kinda long story, but I'd really appreciate any help.

thanks in advance

[Darkfairie17]

I would say walking is a good start. It's something that is easy that she can do. Start her doing 45 minutes and then keep her going on that until she finds it easy. Once she does bump it up to 60 minutes, till she can finally walk for 90 minutes. Once she starts walking, running will get easier for her.

Get her to lift some weights as well. No it won't bulk her up, trust me on this one. I know guys who have been trying to bulk up for over a year and they eat so much protein and other crap, I don't even know, but they are no where near bulky. Lifting weights will help her burn fat and sculpt her body.

Pilates is also a good workout, it's almost like yoga but faster and more intense. It's great because you can do it at home and it also helps burn fat.

Most of all tell her not to give up. Weight loss is not going to happen immediately, she has to work for it. It will happen, it just takes time.

Also work on her diet. She should be eating fresh foods, nothing fried or processed. Lean proteins like chicken and fish, and whole grains. Also have her drink lots of water to keep hydrated.

Hope this helps!

[myty420]

little bit at a time little bit at a time...soon that 20 min will extend into an hour and she will drop lbs..running is very boring also...it takes a certain person to enjoy running. she may appreciate team sports like softball or soccer. she's going to have to get over being seen as over weight. she has to accept that fact before you are going to see any improvements! and I WOULD start with swimming because swimming is a well rounded cardio vascular activity! with a little arobics...and give her space with the time. 20 min is hard even for me (and I'm not overweight) but because I have not worked out for extended periods of time in a long while!

[Jager66]

she should just do a 30-60 min walk every day depending how long she feels like going for.

[shotou]

Doing something your good at

is a good way to build up confidence

in yourself =)

also remember to complement her

if she's doing a great job =)

[Anonymous]

best if she join a weight loss class so she can have support of others in the same boats she's in. nothing to be embarrassed about since they're all in the same boat