You are describing a hot mess of a situation. This is exactly the reason to leave sex out of the mix until you are dating and exclusive. It just creates the opportunity for disappointment when you put the cart before the horse.
Relationships are about an emotional attachment. It takes time to build that. So, let me break this down for you:
1. Office flirting-means next to nothing.
2. One night stand (yes, that is what you had)-casual sex means next to nothing. Only sex in a relationship with someone you have a mutual emotional attachment with means anything more than...sex.
3. Now you want to tell her how you feel after a whole lot of nothing between you two AND her new found distance from you?
So, don't do it. Don't tell her how you feel. She is obviously uncomfortable with what happened. If you two were drinking, even one drink on her part, your one night stand was probably a big mistake in her book that she regrets. As you said, she is seeing someone else. She may be concerned this will get out. She is probably guilty.
Going from fun flirting to a regretful night of sex rarely results in a fixable situation that can go back to the start and possibly progress to a relationship. She now sees you and associates you with something she feels badly about. I would suggest you let this go, do your best to move on and forget about flirting or doing anything to get her interest back. Instead, be nice, not very chatty, definitely not flirty and just show her you are cool with her but that is it. If she wants to extend an olive branch to you or change things up, that is up to her. Good luck.
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That would annoy her for sure! You have to tell yourself this is a girl that you work with so don't let your personal life affect your work life. Don't give her the cold treatment just be how you were before. I can understand why you were annoyed with her tbf, but that's not your fault. And hey, she hooked up with you even though she was seeing someone at the time... She can't be THAT serious about the other guy then?
What kind of girl is she generally? Tree carefully. And be careful not to get your heart broken, it's the crappiest emotion a person could ever feel.
If she has a boyfriend, then telling her probably won't help you. And personally I think the cold shoulder thing would just make her annoyed and cause more tension. I'd try to remain friendly, wait and see if she is happy with her boyfriend. If she is, you know it wasn't meant to be. If she isn't, be there for her AND IF she breaks up with him, you'll be in a good position. Basically, don't try to ruin your relationship with her, or her relationship with her boyfriend. Because that won't make you look good.
You'd assume they do.
Bad idea going for a girl who is already seeing someone, though. Especially one that's willing to hook up with other people while she's seeing someone else.
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Given a girl the cold shoulder after having sex with her , Is never good .
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