I know exactly what you're going through, I'm kind of in the same situation. I do not want to be a stay at home mom and do nothing, and I say so, and then he says "Are you saying my mom does nothing?" No, I'm not, but volunteering at church and planting a garden are not things that are going to keep me happy. We're just seeing how it goes for now I guess. I'm 20 by the way, he's 22, and we've been dating for 2 years. Maybe we won't have kids for a while and I can work and stuff, and then by the time we have kids I'll be OK with staying home.
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Considering your only 18 a lot will change (considering after college and getting a steady job you will be 23ish earliest?) between now and the time your going to be getting married. Personally I would establish a career first then think about marriage. This topic between you and your current boyfriend is actually a ways of and does not need to be exactly planed out at this time even if you do wind up marrying him.
It sounds like the two of you have life goals that are not in alignment with each other. If you can't get him to agree to some kind of compromise on this issue or see it your way I think you'll have to move on with life without him and find a man who shares your values on this.
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You're still young to think about those things. Enjoy your youthfulness and strive to attain success. If you want to be at the top of your financial success, then strive to get there.
You should only think about marriage once you've achieved all your dreams.I have this crazy idea. Why not work from home OR get a job when your children are 5 or so and use your extra income to hire a professional to watch your children during the day?
sorry to say, it seems like you two are incompatible on this fundamental issue. it may be best for you each to find partners who share your beliefs and spare yourself this stress
Tell him you can't compromise your values that way.
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