So how important is eye contact when going up to a girl.

[Double_O_69]

If I look away and don't maintain eye contact, does it signal in a girls brain that I become unattractive or socially weird and she won't engage in the conversation.

Always maintain eye contact, don't look away until she looks away.

Eye contact a few times; look sometimes, but breakaway before she does.

[Anonymous]

Here's a "trick" - don't look at they eyes, focus on their forehead or nose or mouth when they speak, the distance between these parts of the fact is so small that I doubt they will perceive you're not staring them right in the eyes.

I actually tested this out with someone, I looked directly at their eyes and then at their mouth without telling them where I was looking that given moment and then asked them whether they could tell my eyes were moving from one area to the other and they said no. We did this both at close and relatively far range.

I have a REALLY tough time with making direct eye contact with ANYONE, especially guys I'm interested in, so I look at their mouth and "lip read" as I listen to them.

When you speak to a woman, look at her, it shows you acknowledge her presence and that you are interested in what is being said. I'm having this problem with a guy I'm into right now, he looks directly at me sometimes and other times he won't and it's SO confusing. But don't stare, obviously.

And just fyi, you're cute :)

[Opinion Owner]

Ugh, spelling mistakes! *their *face

[Double_O_69]

why thank you haha, & ingenious, ingenious, way of describing on ways to help the contact. Yeaha I am definitely going to try that. Sometimes they call it the traingular gaze if you look at their left eye to right to lips and back lol But that's more of advance thing which makes flirting even better. Thanks u.

[hellazo]

Maybe it won't make you unattractive,but it will make it look like you are shy or that you are not interested in her, It may be awkward . Personally for me,if a guy came up to me and wouldn't look me in the eyes, depends on how he talks, I would think that he's shy and wouldn't be so interested in him, or I would feel uncomfortable ,because his talking to me but looking somewhere else.That would be weird. Of course you should look away from time to time,like 90% looking in eyes and 10% away. Because just staring also can lead to awkward feeling.

But that's just my opinion :)

[Double_O_69]

excellent, excellent, I love how you said depends how he talks, another very important factor my dear

[madhatters4]

eye contact shows interest and also conveys honesty and intimacy. so eye contact is very important whether with a girl or guy. People don't generally make as deep a connection with someone who they don't look eye to eye. Someone said the eyes are the window to the soul, now whether or not you believe in people having souls or not I think there is definitely truth to the idea that looking into someone's eyes is like creating a window into who they are and having a better understanding and relationship with them

[Double_O_69]

great answer, spot on my man, I like the metaphor haha

[Distant]

It shows that you lack confidence unless you're very skilled socially.

[Double_O_69]

thanks man

[Anonymous]

Not quite. It just mean that you're not up for a conversation.

[Double_O_69]

very tru

[Anonymous]

It's really important

[Double_O_69]

thanks :)

[sudem]

sexy eye contact .. my favorite!

[Double_O_69]

lol I will definitely do it sexily

[sudem]

ahhah :D