Why do women complain about men no longer willing to get married when modern women lack the commitment to be good wives?

[Anonymous]

Please no bitter butthurt comments.

[vonasaurus]

as women, we're told "don't ever talk to your man about commitment because you'll frighten him away" and we're labelled "crazy" if we even hint that we're interested in marriage.

i finally met a guy i like enough to want to marry; he's said that it's pretty much an eventuality, and i'm still afraid to bring it up, for fear of scaring him away~ social conditioning for the win. /sarc.

however, i think that the issue you mentioned stems from the fact that this is the age of instant gratification, and it's a problem for both genders. we're so used to this cycle of swiping, Liking, and fucking that online dating has afforded us, and we're attracted to the novelty of it all~ people are merely objects, and we upgrade them on a whim to something shinier and newer, when the old one could have sufficed, with a little effort and tlc; we live in a world where we love things and use people, instead of the other way around.

if there's one thing i've learned from all of the divorces in my family, it's that i'm going to get married once, and i'm going to do it right. a good wedding and a good marriage are not the same thing, and my parents (among various other relatives) screwed it up, so that i don't have to.

back in my grandparents' day, when something was broken, they fixed it; they didn't throw it away. <3

[Abtraction]

funny when it's women who have a problem with commitment. 75% of divorces are initiated by the wife. Men are not scared of commitment, they are scared of divorce rape, and they have been schooled by all the previous generations dads, brothers, uncles, and friends.

[Anonymous]

You're talking in terms of older marriage. Modern day marriage is 50/50 in ALL areas. Both work, so both should cook and clean. Men expect women to still do all the cooking and cleaning and child rearing despite the fact that we work just as much as men do. Men expect women to have a low number of sexual partners and preform like pornstars in bed, like how anal is now just expected. Men expect us to just magically not age and then complain about the things we do to prevent it.
And P. S., if marriage is so awful, DON'T GET MARRIED. I'm so tired of the "nagging wife and exasperated husband" trope.

[peachblossomluck]

I think there is an overall bad attitude and lack of. priorities in society today. It's like we are afraid our kindness will be taken for weakness and for granted.

[BlackDynamite83]

I often explain this to a lot of the single ladies I work with. Too many women want the big wedding but forget completely about the marriage. The truth is that modern men are now more picky about who they marry these days and are thinking with their heads as opposed to anything else. Its not that they are unwilling to get married its just they have high standards that a lot of women fail to meet and will judge each woman's ability to be a good wife objectively and consider what she may bring to a potential marriage rather than letting love alone be the deciding factor. Men are just looking at marriage more like the way women do but rest assured that if a man finds the right woman he will marry her until then he will enjoy being single.

[serious]

@BlackDynamite83. Very well said!!

[TripleAce]

When you find the right person... and im guessing you haven't. All this nonsense wouldn't even cross your mind

Youd just live happy, be thinking about the future snd how your on cloud 9. Thats all that would matter. Youd want to marry her and shed be a great wife. Point finale

[Anonymous]

They have been told they can have their cake and eat it too and are finding out they can't. I don't blame them for wanting what they want but there were bound to be consequences.

[Asker]

Well said my man. Men have the right to choose how they live their lives just like women. I think thats the beauty of feminism and the sexual revolution it frees men up up from the burden and responsibilities of marriage.

[Octavius]

Why do you care? No one is making you get married.

[Asker]

Feel like every woman I know expects it somehow lol.

[Squidward]

I don't understand why so many men are afraid of women. It's pathetic.

[Asker]

Exactly if dont want to get married just say no.

[peachblossomluck]

We are probably more scared of you men.

[Squidward]

@peachblossomluck precisely

@ asker no, that wasn't my point was. My point is that men are scared of marriage and commitment cause they are afraid of women.

[Abtraction]

A man should be scared of Marriage, It's just a contract to ruin a mans life and enrich a women. Men are not scared of commitment Women are, they file over 75% of the divorces. A woman can ruin a man's life Married or not, false rape, false sexual harassment, if a man is not careful when around a woman he's an idiot. Never be in a room alone at work with a woman. The military even has regulations for it.

[Kelly6]

swiming pool pic is a fact