When I get married I plan to keep my name or if their name is short enough hyphenate our names. You don't have to change your name to respect your husband or the marriage not to mention the whole name changing process is a hassle and pricey sometimes.
Yes I would because I want to become someone new, I don't want to be the old me anymore that my family treated like a dumb person who didn't know anything from anything. I wanted to become a more confident person who valued herself.
I'm not a lady but here's my input - any woman who refuses to take her husband's last name after marriage is disrespectful to him and quite likely to be an extreme feminist. Also I never trust any woman whose name involves hyphens.
Not an opinion. It's a basic element of culture. Funny how (the most vocal) women complain only about duties, but never complain about how in a marriage almost always it's the man who pays for everything, fixes everything, organizes everything.
If such a little thing as a surname already is too big of a deal for you - don't marry, it tells a lot about you. You will save some poor lad from a life of misery.
Meh, I'm cool with it. I don't particularly like or dislike my last name, I'm kinda indifferent. I think I'd wanna change it 'cause I'd want our kids to have the same family name. I mean, we could hyphenate but his name is already double barrelled and I don't wanna force three surnames on the poor kids :P
I love my boyfriend's surname.. it would fit really well with my first name.. but I also really love my own surname. I have an "x" in my first name, second name and surname so I'd be sad to give up my 3 "x's"
... Maybe we could flip a few coins when we get to that stage in our lives but I don't think we could do a double barrel because his surname is Portuguese and mine is Scottish, it would just sound retarded!
I won't. If you get divorced you have to decide if you wanna keep it as well.. I hate double names. I mean the last name I got is from my family.. so why would I change it? Simply 'cause I marry into a new one.. yeah no. In the current age you can keep your own I'll happily do that.
No, I probably wouldn't. Whilst I think its a romantic notion, I love my family name. I also just can't be bothered changing everything.
I know a lot of woman who haven't changed their last name, especially women with successful careers (just to prove you don't have to be a bitter 'feminist' to want to keep it).
The kids can have his surname, but I'd like to keep my own.
When I was a kid it didn't make sense to me to take another man's name unless his was nicer sounding than mine and I can't honestly say my opinion has changed.
I would only change it if his sounded better but otherwise I feel more inclined to keep my name as it is.
No. I really like my last name. It goes perfectly with my first lol. If I married a Nigerian guy, I'd be more likely to take his last name because my name is Nigerian. If he's from another country in Africa, maybe. Knowing myself though, I'll probably marry an Asian or Hispanic guy and I don't like the idea of my name reflecting 2 different ethnic groups.
Sure I will take his last name but we are naming our girl after my birthmother or giving one of the kids my bio mothers last name and it's not a bad one either. It would actually mean a lot to me to name one of my children after the woman who gave me life.
My mother's first name was Nadia. I would use her last name (and once mine also) as the child's middle name not the first. That would be odd to have a child with my old last name as the first. I like her first name more though. I just want my mother to live on in some way. It's also a nice name.
One of my uncles got married, and his wife refused to take his last name. As a consequence, he doesn't wear his wedding ring. Seems like a fair trade to me.
You take his last name or you don't marry him it's been like this forever who the fuck are you to change that lmao
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I have no preference, it's just a name. Although if they have some awful last name that would make my whole name sound like a curse word or something super dirty I'd be less interested in taking their name. Otherwise I feel it's not a big deal, I can take their name, they can take my name, we could take both names or both of us could keep our own separate names, whatever.
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I think I'd actually want my future wife's surname because I hate my father.
If I wanted to get married, I wouldn't take my husband's last name. I hate my last name, but I don't want to feel like I'm his property. I might love him, I might want to be him with him, but I'm still an individual.
@Prof_Don LOL feminist brainwashing I'm not even American... What's the part of there will be no marriage that you don't understand? And since when I have to get married?
Any woman who doesn't agree with them is a feminist. They never met any modern feminist I guess. I myself have been called a feminist on this site, while I'm more a traditionalist type lol the things you can learn about yourself from strangers online
@Ceins "Any woman who doesn't agree with them is a feminist. " - That's true. And they're obsessed with feminists. Yeah, it's funny how they know more about you, than yourself.
You don't have to change your name but your husband name would be infront of it like your official identity but people can still call you your name sometimes
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When I get married I plan to keep my name or if their name is short enough hyphenate our names. You don't have to change your name to respect your husband or the marriage not to mention the whole name changing process is a hassle and pricey sometimes.
Yes I would because I want to become someone new, I don't want to be the old me anymore that my family treated like a dumb person who didn't know anything from anything. I wanted to become a more confident person who valued herself.
I'm not a lady but here's my input - any woman who refuses to take her husband's last name after marriage is disrespectful to him and quite likely to be an extreme feminist. Also I never trust any woman whose name involves hyphens.
It's disrespectful for a woman to have an opinion of her own on the name that appears on her own ID and she has to live with? That's just bizarre.
Not an opinion. It's a basic element of culture. Funny how (the most vocal) women complain only about duties, but never complain about how in a marriage almost always it's the man who pays for everything, fixes everything, organizes everything.
If such a little thing as a surname already is too big of a deal for you - don't marry, it tells a lot about you. You will save some poor lad from a life of misery.
Meh, I'm cool with it. I don't particularly like or dislike my last name, I'm kinda indifferent. I think I'd wanna change it 'cause I'd want our kids to have the same family name. I mean, we could hyphenate but his name is already double barrelled and I don't wanna force three surnames on the poor kids :P
I love my boyfriend's surname.. it would fit really well with my first name.. but I also really love my own surname. I have an "x" in my first name, second name and surname so I'd be sad to give up my 3 "x's"
... Maybe we could flip a few coins when we get to that stage in our lives but I don't think we could do a double barrel because his surname is Portuguese and mine is Scottish, it would just sound retarded!
Gaah! It's tough being an adult, eh?
I won't. If you get divorced you have to decide if you wanna keep it as well.. I hate double names. I mean the last name I got is from my family.. so why would I change it? Simply 'cause I marry into a new one.. yeah no. In the current age you can keep your own I'll happily do that.
I must say I find it simply amusing how some guys get offended by this and downvote all the girls who say the wouldn't.
No, I probably wouldn't. Whilst I think its a romantic notion, I love my family name. I also just can't be bothered changing everything.
I know a lot of woman who haven't changed their last name, especially women with successful careers (just to prove you don't have to be a bitter 'feminist' to want to keep it).
The kids can have his surname, but I'd like to keep my own.
I'm not completely sure.
When I was a kid it didn't make sense to me to take another man's name unless his was nicer sounding than mine and I can't honestly say my opinion has changed.
I would only change it if his sounded better but otherwise I feel more inclined to keep my name as it is.
No. I really like my last name. It goes perfectly with my first lol. If I married a Nigerian guy, I'd be more likely to take his last name because my name is Nigerian. If he's from another country in Africa, maybe. Knowing myself though, I'll probably marry an Asian or Hispanic guy and I don't like the idea of my name reflecting 2 different ethnic groups.
Lol you're overthinking this way too much!
U could hyphenate his last name with his, ex. "Williams-Lee"
Yeah that's what I would do. But I wouldn't take his and abandon my own. Imagine someone named Chiamaka Smith or Ugonna Park. It's just weird to me.
Plus I don't want to lose the meaning of my name. That's why I'm so attached to it.
Sure I will take his last name but we are naming our girl after my birthmother or giving one of the kids my bio mothers last name and it's not a bad one either. It would actually mean a lot to me to name one of my children after the woman who gave me life.
Hopefully there's a sperm bank near your home for you to do that 👍🏾
Whats wrong with wanting to name my child after the woman who let me live?
Most men that get married, want the children and his wife to have the same last name as him.
You wanting to change the last name of the child, is something most traditional men won't go for.
I think you need to read what I said again. You have that all wrong.
So if your mother's last name was Olson, you want the child's first name to be Olson in memory of your mother?
@Prof_Don
My mother's first name was Nadia. I would use her last name (and once mine also) as the child's middle name not the first. That would be odd to have a child with my old last name as the first. I like her first name more though. I just want my mother to live on in some way. It's also a nice name.
Oh I misunderstood! Sorry :)
@Prof_Don
It's alright it happens.
One of my uncles got married, and his wife refused to take his last name. As a consequence, he doesn't wear his wedding ring. Seems like a fair trade to me.
Look at the down votes. 🤣 triggered some nerves I guess. Lmfaso...
It's true, though. My uncle hasn't worn his wedding ring since he's gotten married (before I was born).
Honestly, I think that was a genius move on my uncle's part. If she won't keep with tradition, why should he have to?
I would be willing to take a girls last name upon marrying.
You take his last name or you don't marry him it's been like this forever who the fuck are you to change that lmao
I have no preference, it's just a name. Although if they have some awful last name that would make my whole name sound like a curse word or something super dirty I'd be less interested in taking their name. Otherwise I feel it's not a big deal, I can take their name, they can take my name, we could take both names or both of us could keep our own separate names, whatever.
I think I'd actually want my future wife's surname because I hate my father.
My girl is published under her present name, so she'd be destroying her 'brand' if she changed it, at least as far as academic purposes go.
I would expect her to use my name for social purposes, though.
If I wanted to get married, I wouldn't take my husband's last name. I hate my last name, but I don't want to feel like I'm his property.
I might love him, I might want to be him with him, but I'm still an individual.
I don't think that marriage would last
I agree, that marriage would be doomed.
@AlphaStyles @Prof_Don It won't last anyways, because it will never happen. And I'm sorry if I don't want to become a man's property.
OMG that feminist brainwashing is deep! Stop thinking you're being oppressed in a marriage when you would not be! :(
She's gone bro no need she's gone
@Prof_Don LOL feminist brainwashing
I'm not even American...
What's the part of there will be no marriage that you don't understand? And since when I have to get married?
@AlphaStyles LOOOOL
Guys here are going crazy, so many dislikes...
@Ceins I know and I was expecting that. That's because women who don't do what they want are frowned upon.
They're ridiculous!
And to them I'm a crazy feminist. I'm a woman doesn't respect men and who hates them. It's crazy Lol
Any woman who doesn't agree with them is a feminist. They never met any modern feminist I guess. I myself have been called a feminist on this site, while I'm more a traditionalist type lol the things you can learn about yourself from strangers online
@Ceins "Any woman who doesn't agree with them is a feminist. " - That's true. And they're obsessed with feminists.
Yeah, it's funny how they know more about you, than yourself.
I love my last name. It would be sad parting with it 😢 ... But I answered yes on your poll cause love is about sacrifices lol.
You don't have to change your name but your husband name would be infront of it like your official identity but people can still call you your name sometimes
You could hyphenate your last name with his, ex. "Freeman-Sanchez"
@AlphaStyles
@AlphaStyles I've thought of that. I might just make my last name my middle name.
@Prof_Don I've considered that but the short answers easier
Good 👍👍👍
I don't want to. If having a single family name is so important to my future husband, he can take mine.
Tradition isn't a good enough reason for me to do something that I don't want to do.
I really don't care. She doesn't have to take it if she doesn't want to
yeah, and watch her divorce your ass soon.
@J-Rock Seems you have experience