Would you ever say something if the bride chose the ugliest dress for you to wear as a bridesmaid? What’s the most you would pay for an ugly dress?

[Wonderer89]

Say you’re a bridesmaid in a family wedding, so you don’t know her that well and the dress chosen is terrible. Would you try and steer her in another direction if you’re paying for the dress or go with the flow because it’s her wedding?
How much would you be willing to pay for said ugly dress?

*just a general question, it’s too late to change dresses 😂

[Anonymous]

I think best to do what the bride wants... She probably stressed already about the ceremony etc so it's the best to not add her stress. Right?
I was in this kind of situation but actually the dress was okay but really not fit in my body, can you imagine wear 2 size smaller dress? :( sad for me but i did the best to fix it.

[BellePepper]

I might try the “oh my gosh I feel so bad making you spend all this money on *your* big day when everyone should be focused on you! Maybe we find something that’s less about us and more about *you*”

[Wonderer89]

She isn’t spending anything though? We’ve paid for them

[BellePepper]

Daaaarnit. I guess it would just have to be attention angle then :/

[Wonderer89]

Lol would have been the best excuse otherwise 😉

[BellePepper]

NEXT time!!!

[Anonymous]

I had to wear a disgusting dress for my sisters wedding. I was maid of honour so I had to. But coz she was my big sister I told her it was fucking ugly and she paid for it for me 😂

[Paris13]

Silence is Golden.
I suppose I might pay for something in reason, For the Bride's own... Reason. It's her Special day, after all.
I probably would talk this over with her. xx

[JimRSmith]

I would have to plead that owing to my gender, this was one I would need to sit out, and leave it to the girls to sort out.

But if you're paying for it, then you might have slightly more away than if you're not. Although it is somebody else's big day.

Bit of a conundrum...

[Wonderer89]

You know I’ve only ever been in one wedding where I didn’t have to pay for the dress but I’ve seen a few times on here that in other countries it’s not common.
No conundrum for this one 😉 I’m going to look like a mulched flower garden regardless haha

[Cosytoasty]

You need the maid of honour on your side if you want to start making this kinds of requests and probably every other bridesmaid on board too 🤣.

I wouldn't pay a huge amount for an ugly suit, nothing over £200.

[Wonderer89]

The MOH is her sister and the only other bridesmaid is my sister in law 😉 no getting out of this one!
Are there really any bad suits though? These days

[Cosytoasty]

Oh yeah bad fit, bad patterns and weave textures. A cheap suit looks cheap.

How much are these dresses costing?

[Wonderer89]

$400 each + $15 for boxing 🙄 shipping was free

[Cosytoasty]

TY for MH!

[Kuraj]

If someone selected me as their bridesmaid... I would don their selection of an outfit with honor. :p

[Wonderer89]

Wear that potato sack with pride 😉

[Kuraj]

So, is that what you actually have to wear?
My condolences.

[Wonderer89]

It is indeed. Not as bad on a thin, leggy, tanned model but hideous on a 5’2 chunkster. At least one of the other bridesmaids is the same height and build so we can commiserate together, though I’m quietly hoping my belly will be huge by then and it won’t fit 😬
Condolences are appreciated. As are chocolates to help with the above plan

[Kuraj]

Hah, good luck with that.
It does, unfortunately, look like something a socialist Russia-made doll would wear.
Even the color is reminiscent of the layer of dirt that such a piece would collect, stashed away somewhere in the attic of my old house. :p

[Wonderer89]

You’re not helping 😂

[Kuraj]

👍👍👍👍👍
You can always depend on me.

[Bear41]

I am sorry if it was the hideous dress like that one I would have tp say something to my bride. I am sorry if you have to wear that.

[Wonderer89]

😂 thanks

[Cammy137]

I don't adhere to wedding traditions so id wear what I want. The last wedding I went to I wore a blue suit, a bright yellow batman bowtie and blue vans. Traditions are a waste of time, money and energy

[Wonderer89]

You were a groomsman and you wore what you wanted?

[Cammy137]

Literally all my friends know that if they get married I won't be their best man, I won't be forced to wear something, I won't give a speech and I won't buy them a present. If they don't like it then they know not to invite me to their wedding

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

I thought brides covered bridesmaid dresses. Aren't ugly bridesmaid dresses supposed to be ugly in order to make the bride look better by comparison? I would wear it but someone else is gonna have to front the bill.

[PureCinnamon]

I probably would be like giving her other suggestions saying it matches the wedding more or it makes you more of the focus

[BronzedAdonis]

I'm a male, this doesn't concern me and I don't know why I'm here

[Wonderer89]

Xper whore

[BronzedAdonis]

guilty

[Anonymous]

I'd try a diplomatic approach if I'm paying, but it is her wedding after all so if she really likes it then I'd just wear it since it's her photos she wants to keep forever etc, not mine.
But doesn't the farther of the bride pay for the dresses?

[Wonderer89]

Many couples pay for their own wedding, and in my country it’s common practise for the bridal party to pay for their own attire

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah couples pay for the majority of their wedding but their Parents contribute a small amount, hence why in my country the father pays for the bridesmaid dresses. In that case all you can do is have a diplomatic discussion on it if you're paying, but I'd say the bride gets the main vote since it's her day. You'll have the same luxury in yours if you haven't already (if you want to).

[Wonderer89]

Not the case here 😊 parents may contribute an amount but it’s not toward a culturally specified item, but something that would help take the burden off the couple.
As stated in the question it’s not specific to this wedding as the dresses are already purchased, just a general interest in what people would do themselves

[lilaqua]

Probably like 200. it's not really that hard to sell dresses online, especially through facebook.

[Wonderer89]

It is if they’re ugly

[lilaqua]

people have weird taste, by the way I like that dress you posted as a example picture.

[lordhossein]

its terrible i am glad that in our culture we choose the dress ourself but i would wear what she wanted honestly because i wanna make her happy

[axtonlead]

Why would a bridsemaid have to pay for dress for someone elses wedding? I wouldent

[Wonderer89]

That’s the social norm in my country. Everyone knows when saying yes to being in a bridal party you’re going to be paying

[axtonlead]

Huh. Ok

[gclark2708]

I didn't know this was a thing

[Apope16]

I wouldn't say anything but I am terrified that a girl I love will wear a dress I dont like.

[gclark2708]

Dunno if it's the model or something but that dress really doesn't look bad to me

[Clarke498]

Same here

[gclark2708]

High five my fellow Clark (e) lol

[Wonderer89]

On the model maybe, even that’s a stretch though 🙈

[Bassim]

No it is her decision and I don't like to interfer in her decision

[Anonymous]

I'd wear the dress, it's not my wedding so I don't get to choose the dresses, it's the bride and grooms night and if that's how they wanted it then I'd go along with it.

[Cursewords]

Fuck yes! I ain't wearing no ugly dress!

[WhereAmI]

Glad I'm a guy.

[WhereAmI]

So what's that? Maybe $200-300 total? $100 for a gift minimum to cover the price of the plate and $100-$200 for the dress?

I'd like my wedding to be on a warm beach! Maybe San Diego? I don't know

[Wonderer89]

Depends on the wedding type and your relationship to the couple, but here if you say yes to being in a bridal party you know you’re gonna be up for some decent money.
The lavender sack was $400, then shoes, hair, make up, the hens night and a gift will push it around $1000 plus whatever hubby incurs as a groomsmen. Just the way of it.

Beach weddings are nice in the right weather 😊 You still have to pay for it here though lol even on a public beach

[WhereAmI]

Wow. Forgot about shoes/hair.

Is it unusual if someone turns down be g a bridesmaid for not being able to afford it?

[WhereAmI]

Last wedding for me it was a little over $200 total for tux and gift. haha

[Wonderer89]

The joys of being a guy 😛
Unsure really, I had one bridesmaid I knew wouldn’t be able to afford it so we paid for everything, her flights to Aus, dress and getting ready. She bought a pair of shoes from home. It was made clear when I asked her if she could be a part of it, and offered to any of the other girls if they felt they couldn’t do it

[WhereAmI]

That was very sweet and generous of you! She must have been thrilled!

[fredrick89]

Nope, follow her lead, she's the queen for a day

[Wollu]

I wouldn’t pay for something I disagree with.

[VV3ZZY]

I pay no attention to it.

[Wonderer89]

... so you would wear an ugly dress if they requested it? 🤔

[VV3ZZY]

Oh. Sorry didn't read the whole thing. I would steer them away and say what you like.

[rachelle146]

I would wear it as I don't want her freak out more