Don’t say that “there aren’t any women worth marrying”. There are plenty of women who are wife material- but a lot of guys seem to just say “it’s just a piece of paper”
Why don’t guys want to get married nowadays?
It really just boils down to compatibility. Finding compatible people is quite hard. What we define as "wife material" is subjective. What one woman thinks makes her "wife material" may not be the same as what I think. Perceptions vary among men as well. Just look up questions here regarding what makes an ideal partner and you'll see various (and conflicting) opinions on each person's ideal. Some of the things that make my girlfriend "wife material" to me for example, are things not many people like.
I suspect there is a general disparity between what men consider "wife material" and what women consider "husband material". I think that in a significant number of cases; each gender's views are in conflict with the other when it comes to desired qualities.
So for example; if I believe that prioritizing one's partner is essential in a potential spouse, I'm not going to be keen on dating a workaholic, even if she, and many people consider that to be a positive factor in her "worth" as a partner. In this case; a clingy waitress is more "wife material" than a distant CEO. The CEO too will probably expect a potential spouse to give her lots of space to focus on work.
Another point (as someone has already suggested) is that too often, people get arrogant when they acquire a high perception of their worth (real or not). Men do this too, but not so much when it comes to relationships (I think). Achievements and confidence are all great. But when we start thinking that it makes us better than others, that arrogance turns off anyone who has a decent perception of their own worth.
I intend to get married, many men do as well. But they are each looking for their definition of a "wife material" woman, as I'm sure you are also looking for your definition of a husband material" man.
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You said it. Look here's the facts,
Half of marriages end in divorce, with about 70% of those started by the wife, out of that a man risks losing everything including his pension and to top it off anybody can just get up one morning and decide that they want a divorce for no reason than being bored.
Marriage is expensive and according to you there are plenty of women out there who are wife material, well here's the kicker that's only according to you and what makes one woman wife material to one woman makes here a whore to another man, sadly you don't get to decide who men marry but men and they alone get to decide what they want not you.
So therefore your ideas about marriage are shot because your looking at marriage from a female perspective and trying to see the other side for which you can never do.
If marriage were such a good thing then explain to me why it's mostly women who are fighting to have the rights to walk away from marriage not men, if it were such a good thing then explain why the marriage day is such a big cost and celebration surely if being married is more important than the celebration then it can be done for a few dollars why the excessive cost that in truth most men are still paying for after the ink has dried in the divorce papers.
I think this is kind of all across the board and I do think it has to do with age as well. People are getting married and having kids later than they used to. An aspect of not wanting to settle down is that our dating culture has shifted. Online dating has made it really shallow and people are always looking for the next best thing rather than being happy where they're at and who they're with.
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What I believe is the problem is how available sex is. It used to be that for a guy to have sex he basically had to get married. Now sex is so available that a guy sees all the choices and doesn't want to commit. I think its a big problem that everything now a days is about sex. I can't say I am not part of the problem but still.
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... First of all, no there's not. So many of you are obese and disgusting. Maybe spend the 30 minutes it takes you to cake on makeup going for a run instead. You're body shape is that of a bowling pin. Then there's the sluttiness... you've got a higher sperm count than me!
And really, even if there's some pretty virgin out there you're still not worth it.
My grandfather and uncle got the chaste christians, and now they're bossed around by fat bitches and treated like complete trash while they worked themselves to the bone providing them a wonderful life. My father gets cheated on and divorced, loses half his life's savings for no good reason at all. She was just bored.
And to be honest, I've never met a woman who kept me good company. So self-absorbed, boring, and uninteresting. Women who aren't complete slugs just soak up attention from groups of men and make you compete instead of just trying to be your friend.
It's fairly clear women don't particularly care for men as people. You look at us more as an accessory or tool, like a purse or hairdryer. Men are constantly involved in women's issues but women just whine how unfair men treat them. During times of war men must go overseas to get blown to pieces, how privileged, while women sit back and shame men who try to get out of it.
I've got my friends, I've got porn, and both of those will satisfy me more than any women ever could.
The only reason women were ever relevant to men was because there was nothing better to do. Even now you're only good for busting a quick nut, and most of you aren't even good for that. -
No fault divorce
Biased child support and alimony laws
Family court
Becoming a cuck
Never seeing you guy friends
The end of sex
Basically in today a society a man hands over all his power and a loaded gun she can use in shape of big daddy government.
And its not that ,, im not that kind of woman I wouldn't do that,,
Its that you have the potential to at any time.
Easy sex gives a lot less inventive to marry
Because take sex out of it and a man Dosnt need women.
As a guy I can't think of any benefits to me.
The juice isn't worth the squeeze.
Some guys the dumb ones would day go marry the one they love.
Let me put it like this, if 65% of people playing a game lose, you wouldn't play it. And another 15% keep playing because the have to. Leaving only what? 10_20% of winners?
80% of divorces are filed by women. Marriage has become a contract, a game where a man stands to lose everything and become a financial slave. -
“it’s just a piece of paper”
It *is* just a piece of paper. I would enjoy a personalized wedding / bonding ritual, but I'm fine with a purely cultural marriage over a legal marriage. It's weird that women want the paper. I don't believe they generally intend to use divorce to rob men, but at the same time I don't see why it would be so important other that to rob men. Weird.
“there aren’t any women worth marrying”
Loads of women are too fixated on the "strong independent woman" archetype and don't set themselves up as desirable wife material. That and similar attitudes that are prevalent in modern female culture are also detrimental to their personalities. There's excessive arrogance, pride and a demand that men serve their needs, but without yielding ground themselves.
This relates to the phenomenon that women's demands and expectations increases exponentially with their own self-perceived worth. Whereas that's not so much the case for men. Many women try to flaunt degrees or careers and make demands on men to have those things. But I don't care about women having that stuff, so the female CEO and waitress are competing on the same level. So then, even when I can meet all their demands, the waitress is the one that isn't bitching at me about this stuff and isn't being demanding. Yet, so many woman are like "look at my career, look at my education, why can't I find a guy?" and what they seem to not get is that those things they are looking at are simply the wrong things. I don't care about that and so shoving it in my face is unattractive.
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Plenty of women that are WIFE material? Having premarital sex, wanting to hop from guy to guy if not happy, no godly standards or desire to have a marriage.
Manu of these women are NOT STABLE. they're told to play the field having premarital sex. That's why women like me who do have those values, and is a virgin they don't want me now because top manu women playing games. On top of that, so many people DON'T talk about this before dating they just date have sex, build pipedreams, shack up, have kids, already playing house. Why should they marry when you give them everything they want and don't set a standard? They can't trust anymore no different can I trust men on those levels beyond friendship anymore. I don't blame some of them.
They're are guys who Do desire marriage but hard to find that one partner to keep for life. And actually mean it. These days everybody have options. It was not like that back in the day. -
What is the upside for men? We get married, and like most, it isn't a good relationship, but for some stupid reason, we do. three years later, divorcing, and he get's screwed over, paying alimony?
Why? I don't see an upside for guys!! Ladies, please tell me why this it good for men, and don't say 'LOVE' or 'sex' because that stops with the ring!
There are a lot of wonderful women, amazing, women that I know, and like a lot!! Why can't we just be together, and just love each other, as we do, without some legal bond, that, in the end, seems to FCK the guy? -
I hate to say this but I've heard women say the same thing i think it has to do more with the fear of commitment men and women hear the statistics on marriage, domestic violence, a friend who says they just want to control you (mind you a person who says this may have their own motive this is a form of control threw fear), all women are gold diggers or just the product of seeing parents go threw a bad marriage and divorce there are good and bad men and women in the world unfortunately but we can't live in fear blaming one gender as a whole for the actions on one individual
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Men often think short-term, and therefore have a hard time avoiding divorce. And many men are willing to marry, you just won't meet them in clubs. Start telling potential suitors you intend to abstain from sex until marriage, it'll weed out all but the serious.
Another reason is marriage often has a religious component. Few men are truly devout, but they used to pretend so they could get laid. Now they no longer have to pretend any belief. Don't get too discouraged, I'm not the only man today who wants something serious. -
Many people, especially in the west, have been raised without the timeless wisdom that used to be common, also many are truly deficient inside themselves and are not marriage material themselves, and many are also carrying many fears and disappointments that make it hard to trust. My advice is first be best friends, without sex, for about 3-5 years, through some hardships, and even live together for at least a year, without sex, first. Then if both truly want to marry, and not just to unlock the nookie level, then it's marriage time and may their union be blessed. It may sound like a lot of trouble, but believe me, it's worth it. Marriage is sacred, treat it that way.
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Because this generation is waking up to how pointless marriage is as we all have access to the history of how modern marriage came to exist vs what marriage once was.
Look up “Adam ruins everything, marriage”.
He explains it with some humor. Makes it less boring. -
Probably because we don't want to lose half our stuff every time she decides to divorce us! Marriage is SUPPOSED to be a forever thing and most people today don't seem to know what "forever" means. They get married on a whim and, a few years, months, weeks or even days later, they don't want it anymore and end it, then go off to find someone else to marry for a few weeks.
They meet, they fuck, they get married and a few months later they break up! You're SUPPOSED to DATE someone steady for several months, if not a couple years, to find out if that's the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and THEN, if they are, marry them!
Today it's, "I think you're very pretty, I like your pussy, lets get married and THEN they start finding out if that's the right person! -
This conversation is in my opinion, bigger than what was stated. It is also unfair that it is generalized down to just men not wanting to get married. I want to get married and have kids. Yet my wife is now divorcing me after being with her for 10 years, and all she has told me was we grew apart. After this it will be near impossible for me to want to marry again. This is one instance of hundreds of possible scenarios and simplifying this subject is unfair to both genders and anyone who becomes cautious of wanting to get married. Also what is wrong with taking your time to make sure the person you are with will want to be with you forever?
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Nothing protects the man if the wife decides to leave him for someone else. Men can get destroyed in divorce settlements, and western women are increasingly raised to view relationships as changeable and temporary, they want the big wedding but don't take the vows as seriously. Thats why I see a lot of men asking each other where the "wife material" girls are, and the answer is usually "head east". Feminism and women's lib has reduced marriage to a largely symbolic display, yet those same women can just up-end the marriage on a whim and walk away everything. Show me a man going through a divorce, 9 times out of 10 there's a ruthless ex-wife clawing for every scrap he owns, even his own kids. Society even encourages this because of the "protect all females" messaging. Marriage would mean more to men if it meant more to women. You can thank feminism for 50+ years of anti-marriage, anti-family, anti-male sloganeering and virtue-bullying.
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Too much to lose honestly. Watched my dad get worked in the child support system to the tune of 200k from so called "good women" lol fuck that if we can't leave with what we came with on the off chance it doesn't work I'm not interested. Statistically women are more likely to get the kids and any money's regardless of her ability to financially care for them. Child support alimony naw I'm cool. I'm simple if things don't work out we just should part ways but seen too many vindictive acts with courts n shit
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I'm a strange one. I've always loved the idea of getting married to the girl I love. I've been planning a proposal since I was a kid in high school because I want to show her that the kind of guy she's marrying is fun, creative and imaginative, but can also be serious and passionate. Now my girlfriend shares my passion for it and although we're far away from being able to afford a wedding that we want, we've been planning it for fun for about a year constantly now, always adding new ideas to our brainstorm.
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Because women don’t really, act as if they want to get married. They might say they do, want a huge 30k wedding bash, but then they go out fck a few more to get their body count up and they do not need a man anyways. Maslow’s basic life needs are summarized as self-actualization, esteem, belongingness-and-love needs, safety needs, physiological needs (food, water, air, sex…) from least important to most. So according to Maslow, love is a need. If a woman believes she doesn’t need a man then she should just stay away from them except for a bang. >90% of women in the West are not fit for relationships let alone marriage.
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But there aren't any, It's an endless sea of jewish princesses and nagging lunatics. Even if there were I would wonder why someone would retire from a life of drinking freely and connoisseuring hentai to become what has been played up as Homer Simpson for that persons entire life.
Furthermore consider that judicial cases concerning divorce, custody and related matters is ruled with an at least noticable bias for the woman according to most men.
Conclusively you just might say that most men prefer not to get married because the negatives seem to outweigh the positives. Is what I've gathered by interacting with my own gender enough. -
There are plenty I just seem to find women that are in it for financial gain. I went into my marriage debt free she convinced me to take out loans to renovate the house we bought together. After the renovations were complete she told me she's having an affair.. Only 4 years later was the divorce finalised. We were only married for 3. With me still stuck with the remainder of the loans.
I dated someone recently who even expected me to buy her household groceries because we were dating. Not even seriously. She admitted she didn't even have any feelings for me.
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I've observed that American women tend to approach marriage as a milestone and a status symbol more than anything else. The potential husband is then viewed as little more than a prop, and women try to secure the most impressive prop they can find to show off in front of their friends and family. It's worth noting that I don't have a problem with any of these motives, in principle, but on the timescale of marriage? Forget about it!!!
And what's in it for the husband? Not much really, at least not insofar as you could experience the same benefits in a committed relationship outside of legal marriage. Sure, married men statistically have more sex than unmarried men, but there's no guarantee and celibacy is orders of magnitude more tolerable when single than married. And let's not forget that married men also live longer statistically... but where is the logic in prolonging an unfavorable situation for the sake of prolongation? LOL -
Several reasons. First, the number of women who would make great wives is very low. Most women either have different priorities or they’re so picky that no guy is good enough. Add to that the divorce laws and family court system, which are heavily biased in favor of women, usually at men’s expense. Every man knows deep down that his wife can leave him whenever she wants, for any reason she chooses, and she can ruin him financially and prevent him from seeing his kids. Long story short, the risks of marriage far outweigh the benefits. It’s not worth it.
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Women are mostly not worth marrying. With my grandparents and before them there was the expectation that the woman would be a virgin, never divorce, and would prioritize raising the kids.
(Most) women nowadays will more likely not be pure for their husband (he should be as well but it's expected even more so of women), they can easily divorce him and take half or more of everything he's worked for including the kids, and women generally don't respect their man as much.
I want to marry and have kids but women benefit far more from marriage than men, especially in the long term. She has to be perfect or else I'm playing a losing game.
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