What are your thoughts on marriage before 25?
Reality is, when you marry way too early in life, you tend to get divorced in their 30s. I've seen countless divorcees in their 30s who married very young (under 25). They all tell me that they married out of impulsivity.
The reason is that young people go through a lot of changes through their 20s. It is a very developmental stage of life. You might be a completely different person at age 21 than at age 30. 20s is really a period where individuals are still exploring life and developing into fully mature adults.
And I highly do not recommend marriage before 25 also because you completely lose your freedom right at the beginning of life. Realize that after you get married, you cannot make any male friends, cannot go out to dinner with friends twice a week because your husband has cooked dinner to be enjoyed by the both of you. Any debt that your husband takes on, will also be your problem.
If you are still in college, you will no longer have the luxury of your parents paying all your bills, doing your laundry for you. You and your husband will be solely responsible for earning your own living, paying bills, as a married couple. You will be working full time while you attend college part time.
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Like with many things, it depends.
Some marriages at that age work out and last a lifetime. Others don't. Just like at any age.
However, I can say that as someone turning 25 this year, it wouldn't be for me. I don't feel anywhere near ready for that stage in my life yet and am not even in a relationship (or even looking for one).
I think it really depends if it was rushed into, the "love" is actually infatuation or is forced because one or both people don't want to be alone and one or both are settling, etc. Unfortunately, I do notice that people around my age tend to be more guilty of this.
In most cases this is a very bad idea. Odds are that, before 25, both men and women are not fully stable financially and do not have much life experience, both of which are crucial to a successful relationship. Marriage is the most sacred vow a person can make and it has severe consequences if it goes wrong. I am 26 going on 27 and I am still single. Not saying a young marriage CAN'T work, but it does take way more commitment and wisdom than most people at that age possess.
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Hey Potato, nice to see you're still here.
As for the question, I wouldn't recommend it. I was married at 21, and I wasn't ready, nor did I know anyone my age who really was. You might think you're ready, and there are exceptions to all rules, but yeah- I'd hold off.
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Great idea in my opinion. You know some people would say...
'bad idea, you would be too immature, not ready for such a commitment.. explore the world etc etc'
One question, are there not immature people still in their 30's and 40's?
in my opinion, it is circumstances that force one to become mature not time. Hell, I know many people that were immature until they got married. There was no choice to be immature anymore. They had more responsibilities. There was no more room for just 'me' but it was replaced by 'we'. Not 'mine' but 'ours'. -
If you're very young there a set of problems you're going to stumble upon that older, more experienced people will have fewer of in general: money problems, child rearing problems, job problems, housing problems. You can still have loads of love for each other. Some people are ready for that earlier than others. But often, people who marry very young don't know what they're going to be or do and this might pull them apart, despite love, children. Sometimes they grow together and become stronger. I guess it's about who you are when you marry, what personal and family resources you have. What kind of support from outside of yourselves. Any partnering can be successful with the right circumstances. Take you time though. Be as ready as possible.
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it is not a good idea to marry when your young like under 40 for you do not know much about anything when your young like - when to have children , saving up for your old age and such ! it is best to wait until you know for sure what you want in an opposite sex partner and the children you want to have or do not want to have before you plunge into marriage ! thanks
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Although it does help as far as a person being older and wiser (if you wil), if a couple has good friends and good family that only wants the best for them and that they trust their opinions and guidance, then the age ia not that big of a deal. It may actually be best to marry young, and grow together rather than divorce at an old age only to find yourself alone in your Golden Years.
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I wouldn't say shameful, but I definitely would say bad idea. People change so much in their 20s that there is no guarantee your spouse will be the same person they were when you met them. Thats okay, and good! That's the part your life when you're figuring shit out.
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I wouldn't do that. For every magical success story of "married at 18, four children, died together in bed 120 years later" there are ten divorce cases leaving children traumatized. You wanna get married? Found your one and only? Good for you both! Spend a few years together, make double and triple sure.
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I've seen many people marrying before 25, some live happily while a majority eventually divorce. But then there's this fear, that no one will ever propose if you reject this one now. Yet, I think its best to think about building a family once you've got a stable job and place. By then, you'll have no worries and you'll be able to pay more attention to your family.
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At that point you're still in development, mostly mentally and emotionally. You can see why that is more risky than waiting until after you're out of that developmental stage.
It is obviously also a case by case thing, it might work out perfectly for some and not work out at all for others. -
taters were often hitched by 20 when i was a mere chip of a lad
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I think in the right circumstances it could be great. Had things worked out with my first girlfriend--particularly had we ended up going to the same college--there's a reasonable chance at least that we may have ended up getting married shortly after college (if we made it through college still together) and if that had happened there's a reasonably good chance that would've been a great outcome.
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I'm not sure. I suppose it's up to the potatoes involved. If they're truly ready for it, then go on and potato to your hearts' content, you know?
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I want🙋♂️ marriage after 25. 🥴 Will get an apartment in Singapore. With stable job income.
The Right Person Will Come Into my Life At The Right Time. I'm ready for them 😊 -
I don't know really it all depends I guess
I think I'd wait till 27 28. After I got things going... my job and saving up sum $$ obviously need that..
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I think is romantic, yet too idealistic these days for a middle class working person. Unless you want to depend on your parents, in my opinion is a bad idea.
Yet If you were both financially very stable, is different. -
Depends on the reasons why you got married really.
Long time ago people used to get married in there teens. But that was mostly due to people dying by 40s or 50s. -
Experts say you should wait until 25 and I agree. So much can and will likely change in your life, but by then, most have that figured out pretty much. You should also get to know someone really well before marriage, and that takes time. Years, not days/months.
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I think the majority of humans, once it's all said and done, will feel that marriage is a mistake at any age.
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It's a bad idea. People don't have enough maturity, aren't financially stable, haven't seen the world. Without all this marriage becomes just chaos.
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I think it depends on the circumstances and people involved to be honest. For some it'd be a bad idea for others it wouldn't be.
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I think you should wait until you know everything there is to know about that person. That will never happen, so now you know how I feel about marriage. I'm against it.
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