My opinion is mostly influenced by my sister who married just before being 19 years old.
She lived the dream, moved away, twice even, then got suspicious of her husband's loyalty, snooped a bit and found out he was flirting online with other women, they had an argument, lived apart for a while, then got back together only for a couple years before officially divorced.
And it doesn't stop there.
The place she was living at got caught in an earthquake so she lived with her ex for a while, looking for another place to live. She then got pregnant. Her ex was already dating someone and even married that person a couple months before the baby was born. It didn't took more than a couple weeks (after the baby had health issues) for him to divorce her current wife.
It's been 8 years since then, my sister lost her job when she was pregnant and had to move back with our parents. Her ex is now dating another woman (the fourth one), and while he does love his son, he barely shows up.
I wouldn't choose to because I think it's rather early, and ultimately you've got your life to get married. But by the same token grab life and do things whilst you can. Personally I'd want to get married when it felt right, and natural and nothiwas being rushed
Getting married at any age can cause problems if you are not in a secure job and have your finances in order. Few have that in their 20's. Seeing as most marriages fail in the first 5 years it is best to get your shit together first. Some make the mistake of buying a new house, furniture for the house and maybe a new car when they get married. That on top of spending thousands on a wedding. That all is just the recipe for failure.
I technically got married when I was still a teen at 19 and have no regrets about it. My husband is the best thing that's ever happened to me and I'm very happy with my choice to get married at that age. Everyone has a different path so I dont judge anyone who gets married later on in life but for me personally that would have been too late.
I'd like to be married before I'm done with my 20s. Its not mandatory for me, but it just seems about the right time to get it knocked out. Mid to late 20s does anyways.
There is no magic number with marriage, granted should teens be getting married? Probably not, but it’s not like you’re going to convince them otherwise. Got to find out on their own.
I was 24 when I got married wife was turning 30 on our wedding day. We had been living together for almost 3 years, engaged for about a year and a half it was time. Plus we lived hundreds of miles from my closed family member so it was prudent too. If I got hurt or seriously ill, there would be no one that really knew my wishes at that point that could legally make medical decisions for me.
Plus if I died she got nothing unless I made a will. Marriage fixed all that. It’s worked out so far, so again it’s not age it’s where the relationship is and are both people ready for marriage or not.
As a general rule it's a horrible idea for most people. Good idea for a choice few. Shitty to say but I remember as I was graduating and looked at all the long-term relationships, new relationships, engagements and so on.
I went down the line and called out the ones that would breakup, the ones that would marry and divorce, and the ones that would marry and still be married. So far over 10 years later I've been 100% correct on all my picks.
I like to make bets lol. But yea, too many people marry for the wrong reasons. Marry the wrong person. Marry when they're not fit to be a wife or husband yet. Marry when they don't have the tools yet to have a healthy marriage.
For that reason, at least today. Most new marriages in the 20s will end in divorce.
I got married when I was 24. Best decision I've ever made lol
My husband and I met in middle school and were high school sweethearts who got engaged in college and married after graduation. We were together for 7 years before we got married so... we were done waiting 😂
I did too! I had known him for 5 years (HS) and married him because he is my best friend and I didn't want to wait anymore. I love him and he loves me. We got married at 20
For all recorded human history except for most of the last century, women married and had children while in their teens. And, almost certainly in the 2 million years prior to recorded history, women mated and had children at that age or earlier. In fact, for most of recorded human history, marriages were more stable than they are at this time where, in the Western countries, few women marry prior to their 20's.
During that time, human civilizations have made amazing advances. Therefore, if history is a guide and I believe it is, waiting until you are out of your 20's to marry offers no advantages compared to the disadvantages.
Pretty normal. It is mainly only people growing up in today's times that think it is some far out there thing to marry in your 20's. That is the prime pair bonding age... the prime child bearing age.
Wanting to wait until your 30's or 40's that is actually odd and against biology.
Marriage is against biology not waiting to get married till you know it’s the right person and right time.
Unmarried cohabitation is a must, dating only lets you get to know someone in snippets. Living with them let’s you see them all the time good and bad, ups and downs.
I got married at 17. We had a very good marriage, up untill the last few years. We just drifted apart. We've been divorced for 3 years now. My advice is marry when you feel like it. There's no ser guidelines or rules. Even though my marriage did eventually fail, I wouldn't trade my time with my ex for anything, nor is there a person I would have rather been with
I'd like to get married when I finish college, and find a stable job, preferably w very good income, so she doesn't have to work as well, and could be a housewife :D So yeah, that's kinda hard to accomplish in 20's, but if I do, then why not :D It's good to get married young
I wanted to be married at 19! Got engaged at 26 but it didn't work because of her attitude the things I did for her wasn't good enough. Never dated since, which I really regret because there are good ones somewhere, maybe their hiding in the bushes from me, seriously be warned the years go quicker than you think.
20s is way too early to be getting married. 30 years old is when i think its somewhat rational to consider marriage, when youve had life experience. but no way would i ever consider younger than that
Oops I meant to vote A when I’m 22 it’ll be four years that me and my boyfriend are together and he’ll be 26 so I wouldn’t mind getting married I actually want that actually a lot I really want to move out with him so that I don’t have to miss him and I want to be able to wake up next to him everyday.
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I think it’s fine just as long as your not in school just because I feel like it would be hard to balance a marriage and schooling. I’m 20 and I graduate in a couple of years i want to wait till I get out of school, if I didn’t go to school maybe id think differently.
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But at the same time you’re an adult so you should decide for yourself if you think it’s right then go for it
I wanted a girl I was into as a teenager at 21 - would have been happy had that turned out into children/family. (I think my foster parents sabotaged me into being perceived by her as a guy who wouldn't commit to her, maybe to help me, or to marry me into a rich house)
yes of course you wouldn't want to marry in your 20's. Thats what whores today do. First you whore yourselves into oblivion and once your pretty face fades out in your 30's and you're replaced by the new generations of fresh young sluts then you start bitching and complaining about marriage and how you "had your fun" and try to find other ways to lock down a man since your cute face and vagina alone can't achieve this goal. Modern women are fuckin disgusting. Marriage should be abolished.
I got married to a 16 year old girl when I was 23. The only thing I would have done different was not getting her pregnant after only 5 months of marriage. I wish we had waited for a couple of years before having a kid.
shrugs i would. But ya know feels better to do it when money is saved up and living stable, and kinda leaving it to be something to look forward too. Rather than rushing it.
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