Thoughts on getting married in your 20s?

[ButterflyHope]

Just curious on other peoples thoughts about this! :) Personally I wouldn’t want to marry in my 20s, but later on.

I wouldn’t mind getting married in my 20s

I wouldn’t want to marry in my 20s, I’d wait till I was older (30+)

[JoeyRock]

My opinion is mostly influenced by my sister who married just before being 19 years old.

She lived the dream, moved away, twice even, then got suspicious of her husband's loyalty, snooped a bit and found out he was flirting online with other women, they had an argument, lived apart for a while, then got back together only for a couple years before officially divorced.

And it doesn't stop there.

The place she was living at got caught in an earthquake so she lived with her ex for a while, looking for another place to live. She then got pregnant. Her ex was already dating someone and even married that person a couple months before the baby was born. It didn't took more than a couple weeks (after the baby had health issues) for him to divorce her current wife.

It's been 8 years since then, my sister lost her job when she was pregnant and had to move back with our parents. Her ex is now dating another woman (the fourth one), and while he does love his son, he barely shows up.

So yeah. I'm not following that path.

[Prideful]

It always happen when things get too quick folks.

[HighHithom]

I wouldn't choose to because I think it's rather early, and ultimately you've got your life to get married. But by the same token grab life and do things whilst you can. Personally I'd want to get married when it felt right, and natural and nothiwas being rushed

[Daniela1982]

Getting married at any age can cause problems if you are not in a secure job and have your finances in order. Few have that in their 20's. Seeing as most marriages fail in the first 5 years it is best to get your shit together first. Some make the mistake of buying a new house, furniture for the house and maybe a new car when they get married. That on top of spending thousands on a wedding. That all is just the recipe for failure.

[Apple1996]

I technically got married when I was still a teen at 19 and have no regrets about it. My husband is the best thing that's ever happened to me and I'm very happy with my choice to get married at that age. Everyone has a different path so I dont judge anyone who gets married later on in life but for me personally that would have been too late.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. At what age do you want to get married?

2. How long after the wedding will you wait to start having children?

3. How many children do you want and spread how far apart?

4. Assuming that everything goes according to your schedule, how old will you be when the youngest finishes college?

[yourbabygirl921]

at least 22-23! 🥰
5-7 years after the marriage
I want 2 sons 🥰 they'll have 2 year gap
I'll be 40-50 😭

[OlderAndWiser]

@yourbabygirl921 Check your math!

Yo said you wouldn't want tp be married in your 20s but later. So let's assume you get married at age 30

Married... 30
First child 6 years later... 36
Second child 2 years later... 38
Second child finishes college at age 22 ... 60

That isn't anywhere close to 40-50.

[yourbabygirl921]

Bruh I am married at 22 + 6
28 30 two sons
22 college tf I'm 52

[OlderAndWiser]

@yourbabygirl921 Oh, you are not the asker on this question. Why did you reply to me instead of posting your own response?

[CherryRoseChampange]

I'd like to be married before I'm done with my 20s. Its not mandatory for me, but it just seems about the right time to get it knocked out. Mid to late 20s does anyways.

[YOLOIFIC]

There is no magic number with marriage, granted should teens be getting married? Probably not, but it’s not like you’re going to convince them otherwise. Got to find out on their own.


I was 24 when I got married wife was turning 30 on our wedding day. We had been living together for almost 3 years, engaged for about a year and a half it was time. Plus we lived hundreds of miles from my closed family member so it was prudent too. If I got hurt or seriously ill, there would be no one that really knew my wishes at that point that could legally make medical decisions for me.


Plus if I died she got nothing unless I made a will. Marriage fixed all that. It’s worked out so far, so again it’s not age it’s where the relationship is and are both people ready for marriage or not.

[rjroy3]

As a general rule it's a horrible idea for most people. Good idea for a choice few. Shitty to say but I remember as I was graduating and looked at all the long-term relationships, new relationships, engagements and so on.

I went down the line and called out the ones that would breakup, the ones that would marry and divorce, and the ones that would marry and still be married. So far over 10 years later I've been 100% correct on all my picks.

I like to make bets lol. But yea, too many people marry for the wrong reasons. Marry the wrong person. Marry when they're not fit to be a wife or husband yet. Marry when they don't have the tools yet to have a healthy marriage.

For that reason, at least today. Most new marriages in the 20s will end in divorce.

[Prettygurl12]

I got married when I was 24. Best decision I've ever made lol

My husband and I met in middle school and were high school sweethearts who got engaged in college and married after graduation. We were together for 7 years before we got married so... we were done waiting 😂

[Becky316]

I did too! I had known him for 5 years (HS) and married him because he is my best friend and I didn't want to wait anymore. I love him and he loves me. We got married at 20

[DWornock]

For all recorded human history except for most of the last century, women married and had children while in their teens. And, almost certainly in the 2 million years prior to recorded history, women mated and had children at that age or earlier. In fact,
for most of recorded human history, marriages were more stable than they are at this time where, in the Western countries, few women marry prior to their 20's.

During that time, human civilizations have made amazing advances. Therefore, if history is a guide and I believe it is, waiting until you are out of your 20's to marry offers no advantages compared to the disadvantages.

[Miristheiss]

Pretty normal. It is mainly only people growing up in today's times that think it is some far out there thing to marry in your 20's. That is the prime pair bonding age... the prime child bearing age.

Wanting to wait until your 30's or 40's that is actually odd and against biology.

[YOLOIFIC]

Marriage is against biology not waiting to get married till you know it’s the right person and right time.

Unmarried cohabitation is a must, dating only lets you get to know someone in snippets. Living with them let’s you see them all the time good and bad, ups and downs.

[scentoflavender]

I got married at 17. We had a very good marriage, up untill the last few years. We just drifted apart. We've been divorced for 3 years now. My advice is marry when you feel like it. There's no ser guidelines or rules. Even though my marriage did eventually fail, I wouldn't trade my time with my ex for anything, nor is there a person I would have rather been with

[Nikola321]

I'd like to get married when I finish college, and find a stable job, preferably w very good income, so she doesn't have to work as well, and could be a housewife :D
So yeah, that's kinda hard to accomplish in 20's, but if I do, then why not :D
It's good to get married young

[IDontBelieveIt]

I wanted to be married at 19! Got engaged at 26 but it didn't work because of her attitude the things I did for her wasn't good enough. Never dated since, which I really regret because there are good ones somewhere, maybe their hiding in the bushes from me, seriously be warned the years go quicker than you think.

[hughmathews]

20s is way too early to be getting married. 30 years old is when i think its somewhat rational to consider marriage, when youve had life experience. but no way would i ever consider younger than that

[pink_and_inlove]

Oops I meant to vote A when I’m 22 it’ll be four years that me and my boyfriend are together and he’ll be 26 so I wouldn’t mind getting married I actually want that actually a lot I really want to move out with him so that I don’t have to miss him and I want to be able to wake up next to him everyday.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s fine just as long as your not in school just because I feel like it would be hard to balance a marriage and schooling. I’m 20 and I graduate in a couple of years i want to wait till I get out of school, if I didn’t go to school maybe id think differently.

[Opinion Owner]

But at the same time you’re an adult so you should decide for yourself if you think it’s right then go for it

[EmbraceThePain]

Depends on your life situation at the time of marriage. How mature do you feel? Are you financially stable? Other questions.

[NoLookingAtSoleil]

I wanted a girl I was into as a teenager at 21 - would have been happy had that turned out into children/family.
(I think my foster parents sabotaged me into being perceived by her as a guy who wouldn't commit to her, maybe to help me, or to marry me into a rich house)

[MrNameless]

I'm already past that age, but there's nothin wrong with being married in your 20s and having kids earlier.

I would get education and career first personally before getting settled (or at least before having kids).

[TheFlak38]

yes of course you wouldn't want to marry in your 20's. Thats what whores today do. First you whore yourselves into oblivion and once your pretty face fades out in your 30's and you're replaced by the new generations of fresh young sluts then you start bitching and complaining about marriage and how you "had your fun" and try to find other ways to lock down a man since your cute face and vagina alone can't achieve this goal. Modern women are fuckin disgusting. Marriage should be abolished.

[iseekpinetrees]

Men age different than women for sure. Maturity wise they don't got their shit together til 30.

[Gomezaddam51]

I got married to a 16 year old girl when I was 23. The only thing I would have done different was not getting her pregnant after only 5 months of marriage. I wish we had waited for a couple of years before having a kid.

[Kaneki05]

shrugs i would. But ya know feels better to do it when money is saved up and living stable, and kinda leaving it to be something to look forward too. Rather than rushing it.

[Janani23]

I think marriage doesn't matters with the age. When u find ur soulmate and ur stable to live this world with the person u love nd thn u can think about mrg. Mrg is just to show the u & person are engaged to the world. So i think howerver the mrg ends at age 30 or early 20's u will be happy when ur with the person u love. Choosing a age for a mrg is diff frm choosing ur soulmate

[Pyrofox]

Unless you are a genius in some field and got a job making 100K a month marrying at 20 years old is an absolute worst thing you can do.

[WolfKvlt]

There is no benefit for a Man to be married to a woman.

[EmmaMary]

I got married at twenty five, it's by far the best decision I've ever made.

[Anonymous]

I’m know I’m going to get married young. Probably in my early twenties. I don’t see a problem with it. I think that marrying young aligns with a lot of my moral values.

[A_Bell]

So no one is going to comment on that guy's hand. What is that?

[Mia-Wallace]

Women marry in their early 20's in my family. I am for it.

[Yourfriend2021]

It seems easier to get married in your 20s but harder later, but there are so many divorces these days, you have reconsider getting married in the first place.

[Kaamraj]

For men, it's best to never get married as the laws do not favor nor protect them.

[Anonymous]

I'll never get married as, I'm against marriage myself
It's just a piece of paper and very overrated in my opinion

[exitseven]

I was 25. I think it was a good age for both me and my wife.

[hellacray]

I don't care. You can have a planned marriage when you're a kid for all I care.

[Starwitch23]

No, I can't handle myself and I've to take care of my husband. That is too much for me

[OddBeMe]

They’re adults and divorces are easy to get. I’d say try to wait but I met my wife in my early 20s and married.

[bamesjond0069]

If you're a girl you're nuts if you wait till your 30s

[KrakenAttackin]

With marriage rates at 100 year lows you will be lucky to get married at all.

[YOLOIFIC]

Those marriages are lasting though, better to have people waiting till they know they’re ready than like my parents generation rushing into it and getting divorced 2 or 3 or more times.

Both my younger brothers learned that lesson the hard way. I waiting till I was ready, we lived together for 3 years. I’m the only still on marriage numero uno.

Granted anecdotal evidence holds not true value scientifically but I don’t think it’s coincidence either.

[AlongCameCindy]

I would of liked too, but never met right person and don't think i will.

[dolemite89]

extremely dumb decision especially if you are a guy

[yyyuuuiii]

For women getting married in your 20s what you want to do. However for men, 35 at least

[anonyni]

I would want to get married in my 20s but the minimum would be 25.

[Anonymous]

Newsflash for you, but no guy wants to marry a girl that is 30+ years old. If you wait that long you will have shit for options.

[ButterflyHope]

that’s simply not true. I don’t understand why a guy wouldn’t someone solely based on their age.

[Opinion Owner]

It is true. Men want young attractive women to marry, not old spent ones.

[ButterflyHope]

Sounds like paedophile behaviour if you ask me. & news flash, women are human, they are bond to age like everyone else. They won’t stay young forever.
Also, you can’t speak for all men. For some men that may be true & they want younger. But for other men, they may want to simply marry/date someone in their own age range or even older.
It’s really a personal preference in the end.

[Opinion Owner]

Nope that is what is called a Straw Man logical fallacy, you are attacking a weakened version of the argument. There is also a fair amount of ad hominem in that statement, so I will be reporting you for that as well. It is perfectly reasonable to want a woman that is of age but not an old hag.
The fact that they will age is not relevant, by the time they have aged so will the man, so it will matter less for him.
And actually yes, I can speak for all men that are of that kind of quality. The only men you see marrying women their age or older are the ones that can't do any better. Saying it is a "preference" is an excuse to hide the fact they can't do better. Its like saying you prefer living in a tar paper shack and driving an economy car rather than living in a mansion and having a Rolls Royce, its not a preference, its a lack of wealth.

[Opinion Owner]

You are going to wait too long and then you will be complaining that the only guys that want to get married are either divorced with kids, or have no money and no prospects, or are immature, or have criminal backgrounds etc.

[ButterflyHope]

Are you comparing literal objects to women? Jesus. Anyways, have fun reporting me whatever your going on about

[Opinion Owner]

People are a market like everything else, there is nothing special about women or men that make them immune from market forces.

[Opinion Owner]

No wonder then, you need therapy.

[Avicenna]

It’s advisable, especially for women

[jgibsonian1986]

People in their 20s are too poor to get married

[ohshee]

I I would say you are a very wise and smart girl

[Inexpensivefurniture]

It would have to be my late 20s but sure.

[Iron_Man]

I think that’s too young for a man

[Joshua0213]

If I found the right person defintely woulf

[Twalli]

I don't have a choice

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Good idea. Getting married young is good.

[EaterPeter]

At or after mid 20s is better.

[monstertruckgamer393]

my parents married in their teen so its normal

[shydude1991]

Why hands of different colors?

[Sweetener_]

Too young.

[WowwGirl]

I was too busy

[stuntbrain]

Don't

[Wise4myage]

Maybe late 20's.

[Adam_West]

great stupidity.

[JesseJayNeak]

I wouldn't mind

[Hotboy_booblover]

Earlier the better..