Before. Why would you make a life time commitment with someone you don’t initially love? That’s a little weird to me. Anyone that says love comes after, is in love with the feeling of being married.
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I don't know who you talked to, but love should come before marriage.
After marriage is how you both are put to the test in showing/displaying/giving that love to your spouse. It may come in the form of cooking their meal, cleaning the house, doing dishes, vacuuming, taking care of the car, or checking that "noise" in the middle of the night. It may be in just holding her/him. Listening. Offering GOOD advice, FORGIVENESS (something too many couples ignore). These (and MANY more ideas), are all possible ways to show them how much you love them.
Complaining, being selfish, wanting your way, are all examples of NOT showing love.
True love is when you know you are committed and you know that despite differences or minor dislikes, you make it work and keep it going. THAT love only comes AFTER you are commited.
It is to be hoped that people are in love BEFORE they commit their lives to each other.
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It usually comes before marriage
I was deeply in love before marriage.
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