Does love come before marriage or after marriage?

[kenan1001]

before

after

[t-8900]

depends on the dynamic and the culture. Some people are arranged but oddly enough their marriages and love seem to last while here in the west half basically fail LOL. Who's laughing now I guess? We bash these traditional cultures and yet you dont see the same out of wedlock births, infidelity, or divorces... so much for modern sensibilities, eh? lol

[smølf]

It's a complicated and loaded question, depending on cultures and circumstances.

If instance if you get married because you are in love, but do not know one another very well, the answer is; After.

If you have known each other for years, maybe even living together and have children, etc, the answer is; Before.

So it all depends on what the circumstances are, with no clear and definitive answer.

[user1516]

I believe it happens before and then after you marry the love just ends up increasing more and more. Love isn’t always puppy love keep that in mind. Love comes in many different shapes and forms.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Generally, the reason two people wanna get married is because they fell in love with each other first.

[hahahmm]

A woman can love you in the morning & change her mind at noon. Repeat every day. Don't get hung up on 'love'. It's a word used to manipulate people. Which is why it has 50+ definitions. You may find my article On Needing Women & Love in the Modern Age useful.

[BCRanger10]

Both. It ought to be there before and it should grow, deepen, mature, and become more perfect after marriage.

[AviatorTom]

Both. Partners live each other before marriage. That's one of the reasons they get married. Then that love grows through their married life together..

[NathanDavis]

why would you marry someone you're not in love with?

[Jessica405]

Before. No point in getting married and then finding out you don't love your wife.

[Jersey2]

Sometimes it is after. Because you don’t really know what love is yet. And then after years of marriage it grabs a hold of you beyond anything you ever thought.

[KrisPW]

I believe it probably CAN come after marriage, but I think that's a big risk to take.

[Soleil8000]

The important part is to grow mamal-close naturally. 8t isn't love. It is 'first your darling feels like a pet to you, then a bigger pet, then a child, then you get intimate to make a baby'

[sheikalana]

ideally before but on arranged marriages probably after.

[koolbrz]

so, the second is better?

[sheikalana]

@koolbrz read my response once again.

[koolbrz]

yes, hence the question

[jshm2]

Yeah well, it's not going to last long if it's after,

[PAcc92]

Marriage is just a way for women to steal half a man's wealth, love comes first, then financial rape.

Never marry.

[exitseven]

Before. What if you get married and it never happens?

[sufys12]

If arranged yes. Otherwise absolutely not... you have to love someone before you get married in the West.

[Jamie05rhs]

Before, of course! Otherwise why would you marry them?

[Cubus]

Before. Love is a chemistry, and lasts only for some time after you meet your second half.

[Iron_Man]

Before marriage and that What makes you get married

[Shiningtempest]

@kenan1001 If love came after marriage, then marriage is doomed to fail.

[Anonymous]

It would have to be before for me since I will never get married.

[RobT312]

Before. Won’t get married without the love

[Heartache0405]

I wouldn't know because live is bs