As a married woman, is it weird that I would like to take separate vacations?

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Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

I'd say it is unusual to a degree.
Did you marry a man who is into doing that or is this going to cause strife in your marriage... resentment that will form a crack that can grow and fester over the years?

Also, what kind of vacations? Like "I want to go take 2-3 days with some girlfriends to go on some wine tours... something you have zero interest in"

Or "I know you've dreamed of spending of 3 weeks traveling through Europe but I think I want to blow 7,000 dollars of out family budget and go see it by myself and I want you to stay here"

Are these short trips... doing things, visiting places he has no interest in or are these big trips... dream vacations... Iceland, Paris, Venice, Hawaii, Tahiti, Spain, expensive trips that he'd love to do and that will be many days apart?

How long?
How expensive?
Where to?
Who is going? You alone? You and a girlfriend? You and a guy friend?
How does hubby feel about it? No big deal he is on board and supportive? He feels slighted, he thinks its shady, he wants to go with you and he will resent you for it?

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

it doesn't have to be...

it's just vacations that you want to experience on your own, if you can afford it, and the two of you can arrange that, then it does not have to be weird...

it can be a great thing, when you live your life as you want to leave it and to be a lot less worried about how things can be seen by many other people that are not you or your partner

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

As long as your husband is okay with it and it doesn't cause issues in your marriage, that's all that matters, not what anyone else thinks... I think that's part of the problem with relationships that's days, people trust their partners less and less and so make doing things separate automatically must mean cheating. When I was younger, guys could have a guy's night out and the women would have a woman's night out... Or men would go on fishing or hunting trips. My father went hunting every year with his male relatives, it was never an issue..
My husband due to his dialysis schedule, couldn't go on a trip I took with my sister and her girlfriend. There wasn't no worry of cheating because my hubby knew he could trust me...

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

It makes sense, people asked Dolly Parton how her marriage has lasted so long and her response is they spend a lot of time apart and that prevents them from getting sick of each other, many couples have broken up during the pandemic because lockdowns force them to hang out with each other for 24 hours a day, but I also know couples who cheated and broke up when they spent too much time apart so it’s a balance and varies from person to person

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I would be extremely suspicious if my wife wanted to go somewhere without me on vacation. Most people don't get married so they can do things separately.

GhostMochi · Answer

If you're just doing it to get some space and detox, then that's fine. If you're doing it to make plans to find some guy elsewhere and cheat on your husband, then yes, it's weird and definitely not good.

I doubt that you want to go for the later though, so it's all good.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Nope not at all.

I did exactly this with my ex wife (not connected to the ex bit lol), I’ve also done similar with long term gfs.

you live together 24/7 365 days of the year and then have a holiday together, bugger all wrong with doing your own thing.

I have a number of friends where they have holidays separately personally it’s a good thing.

trust is that thing though.

bowenw · Answer

Most couples I know go together, but there are a few that have different interests and don't always. For example, one couple I know the wife loves tropical beach vacations, which he doesn't, and he loves going to car races, which she doesn't, so they have some separate vacations.

Apple1996 · Answer

It is very strange in my opinion I wouldn't go on a vacation without my hubby if he was home. I've gone places while he was deployed but that's only cause he was gone. When he is home and has to work I also stay home so we can get as much time together as possible.

ohshee · Answer

Do I think sometimes everybody needs a break and to get away by yourself and just breathe I think it's good for everybody at least try it once where do you usually go well that was kind of a stupid question like you're going to tell me where have you been how about that one

humanearth · Answer

I dont know. Like me and my wife (almost 30 years) we do major trips together as a family. But there are rare times where we had to take trips apart from each other and they are not vacations.

I see it this way, if you have to have a trip apart from each other. Then something is not right in the realationship. Like them are times where you have the chance to increase your bond together as a couple.

Thats my opinion like it or not

VikingWarLord · Answer

You are NOT a monogamous creature, eventually you're gonna get tired of the muthafuccka you're married to and want to do your own thing and even have sex with other people. Most people cannot suppress their 'nature' long enough to go a whole lifetime with one person, hence the divorce rates and infidelity rates being off the charts. Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan.

Surely · Answer

If you really wanted to do something and your spouse would not like what you like. Then if the trust is there. Both of you will have a better time separately.

Greg1987 · Answer

no , I've seen my mother go on 7 day vacations with a couple of friends while my dad stayed home...   a little time for yourself , can be good , for both parties.

dustybiker · Answer

I would hope a married couple would want to spend their free time together. It makes me wonder why they wouldn’t? Sounds unusual. Unless there is a good reason/situation that calls for it..

Lowiu · Answer

Like if you're going to totally different locations itsn ot that weird but if you're like both going to just different beaches than Id say its realy weird

Kabluie · Answer

I think it's great! It's like a sabbatical in a sense and you can come back together recharged.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, unless you have a reason you don't want him around.

AydenHazor · Answer

If you and your husband have different interests, go for it. You do you and don't let anyone say nay.

Massageman · Answer

It's not the most common arrangement I wouldn't think, but if you each have a very diverse set of interests, and are OK with the plan, then go have fun!

Paris13 · Answer

Not really. Alone, Yes, If you are having Issues with your Soulmate. With a Girl Friend? Not At All. As Long As it's Not for Looking nor Hooking. xxoo

Andres77 · Answer

If my wife ever suggested that I'd be afraid for my marriage.

worldscolide · Answer

If you're doing it so you can cheat on him, not cool.. Any other reason it's fine.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes, huge red flag. Couples should enjoy the same hobbies and want to spend time together.

clampfan101 · Answer

Some alone time now and then is healthy. It’s all about finding good balance between alone time and together time.

convo_king89 · Answer

it it’s a girl weekend out i could happen, but by your self what’s the reason are you cheating?

dolemite89 · Answer

it reminds of me of this old joke where the guy says me and my wife keep our marriage strong by having a nice, candle light dinner every week. she has hers on Tuesday and he has his on Friday 🤣🤣

OnTheLevel · Answer

To each their own, but if my wife wanted separate vacations, I'd be wondering why.

Wise4myage · Answer

I've heard of this happening. Couples who do that must have an abundance of trust in each other.

Shy_Steve · Answer

It depends on how long you have been together what you like so it could be good for both of you.

sattii2607 · Answer

Solo trips are your wish, being married is a relationship status, that doesn't change the person in you.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Yes, but if both husband and wife are open to such ideas, it's cool

karaspara · Answer

No we all need a break from life sometimes

Charliefretz329 · Answer

It’s ok to take personal time! It’s healthy too!

In_Trance · Answer

It depends why you want to

Hanrej · Answer

No. Alone time is important.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No absence makes the heart grow fonder

FilmGuy93 · Answer

That sounds pretty weird, yeah...

ChuckD6381 · Answer

Nah, a great vacation is about a break

Cnlngler · Answer

Only for the right reasons.

Anonymous · Answer

That means you have yours eyes on another man

Deku2009 · Answer

Not weird at all

es20490446e · Answer

How long?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes...

CuriousAZ · Answer

Seems weird

EaterPeter · Answer

Nope

Julious0202 · Answer

Very very strange

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