What do you think of women that want an expensive engagement ring?
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I've seen a few social media posts (in a group I was added to quite some time ago) from women complaining about their engagement rings, and I found it to be in pretty poor taste. It isn't even about the ring, it is about the start of your life with that person, and the thought they put into proposing. I find it to be a huge red flag if the bride-to-be's main concern is how expensive/impressive her engagement ring is.
I actually saw a post of a woman who snooped and found the engagement ring her boyfriend was planning to propose with, and her first reaction was that the ring was from Kay and was "too cheap", and how "heartbroken and disappointed" she was. 🤦♀️ No excitement that her boyfriend was planning to propose, no gratitude that he went out of his way to pick out a ring he thought was special (and let's be honest, anyone who isn't into jewelry, myself included, can't tell a "cheap" Kay ring from anything else; I'm sure the boyfriend tried his best), nothing. That kind of thing would really rub me the wrong way if I was the boyfriend and found out (and especially if I found out she complained on social media about it!!!).
Perhaps I just don't understand the big deal about having a fancy, expensive ring, but it just seems very shallow to put so much importance on that little aspect.
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I think it has more to do with his income and what he spends on himself in general. If he goes and buys a 5000 dollar gaming computer but then gets me a 200 dollar ring, that would be hurtful. It'd suggest that he's putting himself over me, and thats not a good open to a marriage.
With my ex, I knew he didn't have a lot but when he would get money sometimes but he went out of his way to spend it on anyone but me; and especially himself. I didn't have a lot either, but whenever I did get anything I'd get him something nice. And if I knew he was having a hard time, id find ways to earn more or id make him something nice. He was my first, and so I wanted a promise ring; to make me feel more secure in our relationship... instead of getting me one, he went and bought himself an expensive ring. Then half a year later he tried to propose (less than a month after he'd just spent 4k on video games and systems and while i had just spent 1k on much needed house supplies) and i told him that if he didn't have a ring, don't bother. So he didn't. I said that with a last hope that he wouldn't let me down; but thats all he knew how to do.
If a man had average income and tried to get me a 10k ring, I would probably protest and feel weird about it. Its really not the worth of the ring, but the sacrifice it is to a man because he's showing you what you're worth. But you also don't want a man who is too lenient in his finances because thats just irresponsible also.
I will answer with a story , friends of mine , both with expensive car leases , clothes etc in Australia , good income , ( both ) but massive expenses , beach front apartment ( Only renting ) , no money ! no money whatsoever , spend what they get and then some , can't JUST blame her as he was just as bad.
Ring set , engagement / wedding total cost $84,000 Aud , they didn't have a house for fcks sake ! At the end of the day , its a financial union like it or not , you need to be responsible , not just irresponsibly crazy ! It doesn't work..
The wedding was the same in the Tropics of Qld , couldn't afford that either.
You also need to understand the industry and what you are actually buying , I have only purchased one , I have a friend who is a jewelry and diamond creator , wholesale , I got a picture of the ring she wanted , he selected a far better stone , custom made it for her and it cost me about 1/3 of what the flash store wanted for theirs , and people always commented on this ring.
Common sense , I dont think much of women ( or men ) who do not apply logic to any purchase , with the excuse " it only happens once " , utter rubbish.
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All I can say is make sure it's for real to happen, I had an ex-girlfriend who I engaged to her around Valentines Day, and before my Birthday, she wasn't showing up at the Partial Hospitalization Program we attended and I called her at her house and she proceeded
to tell me she wanted to break up with me, So I warned all people is to make sure things is for real when you ask someone to marry you cause she cost me money
but that happened like in 1995-1996 but never got back with her and that was the
best thing I have ever done.
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I think they care too much about social status.
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I think a woman who wants an expensive ring, especially in a normal tax bracket is wasteful. Rings can easily be misplaced and sometimes need to be resized. I would never expect my guy to spend several pay checks or huge lump sum of savings on a ring.
What important for me is that he picks it out himself. I hope it's relatively the same shape and color that I've hinted at. Additionally, it needs to be real because of my sensitive skin lol. But, he better bargain and get a good deal. Because, I myself don't pay full price for anything... I always need a discount or bargain. -
Bye-bye.
I was engaged before the girl I eventually married. I had a very limited income both then and with my wife. The one thing they had in common was that when I asked them I didn't have a ring and we went to buy it together. Neither my ex or my wife allowed me to look at rings above a certain price despite me not telling either of them how much I had. Both girls asked for the ring they loved and both times it was perfectly in what I could afford.
The ring is just a symbol. If she's interested in its price more than what it represents that's a red flag. -
They are the kind of women I would avoid. I'd immediately end the relationship if she wanted that. Any ring I'd get would be zircon, not a real diamond. Even jewelers can't tell the difference with their naked eye. Only a very greedy and selfish person would insist on an expensive one.
I had a friend that was dumb enough to get his wife a $6,000 ring and of course she only got him an $80 black wedding band. I'm not surprised that now they are divorced and their kids are growing up in a broken home. -
There are a three scenarios here:
1) She has a partner who both can, and wants to, offer her a high value engagement ring - in which case, that is a beautiful celebration of their love. More power to them.
2) She has a partner who comfortably can, but doesn't want to, offer her a high value engagement ring... in which case, this begs the question of why. They may have mismatches in their values, which signals incompatibility. Big red flag - for both partners.
3) She has a partner who cannot, but sincerely wants to, offer her a high value engagement ring. I think this could be quite a sweet scenario. Again, what she does here will signal their compatibility long term. This might be one of those "you stuck by me when I was a penniless student, and now look where we are" scenarios 10 years later. -
I think it's pretty normal.
Everyone has their own 'thing' that they want nice: whether it's a big ring, an open bar, fancy dress, huge guest list, live music, high quality food, or scenic/memorable venue.
There's no sense shaming someone for having different priorities. Big ring, second hand dress, catered buffet and cash bar after 2 drinks is OK for many folks.
If you're unwilling to compromise and you're dating someone who can't afford it, jokes on you, starting a marriage with debt ain't rainbows. -
I can somewhat see why she would want a ring like that.
I suppose it's to know how much she's worth to her significant other. An expensive ring might be a nice gesture of how much a person means to you.
It would be better for a woman NOT to ask for such a ring... but rather, wait to see if her significant other thinks she's worth it.
Take note, though. "Expensive" depends on that person's income! You might think that the ring they get you is "cheap," but if it's the BEST they can get, then you should probably value it based on the amount of time, money, blood and sweat that was spent trying to get it. -
Shallow bimbos who care more about bragging rights than their potential husband & future. If the guy had any brains he'd dump her ass on the curb and walk away.
Engagement & wedding rings mean nothing. They're jewelry. Irrelevant with respect to the actual marriage rapport. - 435 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.
Well there's a fine line. I don't think its commendable for a woman to accept a cracker jacks ring and say it doesn't matter. But if she's got to keep up with the joneses thats just gold digger shit there. I mean ever see some of these rich movie stars rings? So big and gaudy who would even wear that except some trashy person anyways?
in my opinion the 3 months salary rule is good with the caveat of never over $100k and never under $5k retail price. Now if you can get a bargain on used or alternative sources stones good for you. But i just mean general quality should be in that range. -
A man who thinks you're the biggest prize on earth will not buy you the cheapest ring at the shop. Be very careful about what kind of man you pick for a husband. And if he is too poor to buy you a decent ring, he is in no way shape or form able to support children.
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It's actually understandable at times. I think for most women, engagement/marriage is a one-time thing and they will not get a chance to do it again so they dream big.
If it only happens for the engagement ring (and wedding ring) - then I think it's ok. But if she wants expensive stuffs all the time - red flag. -
I don't think much of it. Everyone wants nice fancy cars, fancy house, an expensive ring is part and parcel of expectations.
Girls are always bragging and showing of their rings, comparing them with other girls, etc. I have seen this first hand over and over again.
You want to make your girl feel special, put in the effort to get her a good ring. Good means big with a good diamond (i. e. not yellow and not full of visible imperfections). -
Nothing one way or the other. I think it might be a bit unrealistic and some situations, but nothing wrong with wanting it.
The whole concept of having a specific percentage of salary for a wedding ring seems like a very dated reference that benefited some Diamond corporations back in the day.
Just like the diamonds last forever catchphrase -
She must really like "material" stuff, like the material girl song.
I think that an expensive ring is a waste of money and better put that money in investments unless she is rich or her husband is rich than why now?
if you can afford it go for it. -
I want a lot of things, can't get them all but nothing wrong with wanting them. If my woman wanted expensive not nice, I'd definitely try to talk her out of it and negotiate as that's the biggest most vain waste in the known world, but no judgement for wanting it. She can dream, she's just not getting it is all.
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I get wanting a nice, good-looking, well-made ring, but worrying a lot about the dollar value or carat count comes off as picky and materialistic, especially when there are so many high-quality yet affordable options available nowadays, like lab-grown diamonds or moissanite.
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Well if she wants a ring with a high dollar amount because she wants to tell everyone how much it costs than I would assume that such a woman is shallow, but if she likes a ring that costs a small fortune without knowing it's cost than I would say she has good taste
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They are magpies. They like shiny expensive things like some animals mating in the wild like bright shiny rocks. They also show off to their peers and make single women jealous (that's very important). Finally it represents another hurdle the man must cross to prove his worth as opposed to his love. It's a measure of his existing wealth or earning potential.
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It’s a bad sign if she openly says this.
If she secretly would like this that’s a bit different. But if she’s the type to expect this then the guy should just by no ring at all and call it quits. It’s a huge red flag of what kind of person she really is. -
First thing comes too my mind 'a gold digger'. Do you love the guy or his money? When inlove, materialistic things shouldn't matter. What if he can't afford the ring you want but still wants too marry you. Are u going too reject him and he's all u ever wanted in a man but he can't afford that diamond ring. Love him for who he is and not what he can give you ;)
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