I'm not sure that most men want marriage. But many do. I'd say it's roughly 40%. If you break down the demographics, it's 20% for "men" under 25 and 50% for men over 25. (However, of the men who want marriage, only 80% of them want committed marriage for life. There is always the 20% that wants to divorce and upgrade later on.)
My fiancée has a career just as I do. She doesn’t need to change that when married. i don’t think women won’t jobs are a turn off but women with careers are a turn on for me
Working, better to have two sources of income, reduce risk for the family economy. Why put everything on one person, it can go seriously wrong. Better to have both doing less time if you don't need all the money.
I look at it like this if I'm with the girl and I love her did I can do whatever I want for her with her and if she wants to stay home so you can stay home if she wants to work she but that's completely up to her
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At this point I just see women as parasites anymore when it comes to permanent relationships. I mean I have enough to be satisfied for the rest of my life. Why would I want someone in my life telling me it's not enough. No thank you I'm happy now.
I´d go for working. Firstly I´m not sure I want kids (sorry), secondly because her earning money would mean that we also share the financial responsibility. For me that would take stress away
Late to the party but here's my answer: Do I want Marriage? Yes Do I want her to be a SAHM? also yes Does that mean I want her to only have our children to take care of? Not necessarily What I want when I think of a SAHM is a woman who puts her children first, but if she can have a business on the side or work a part time job from home then that's very much welcome, I just want to make it so she's not obligated (or thinks so anyway) to leave the house to have a desk job.
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I didn't answer the poll because I won't be getting married. I like the concept of marriage, but not the reality of it today. For men, marriage offers fewer benefits now than marriage of the past, and it is also more risky and costly today. A simple cost/benefit analysis quickly reveals that marriage is a very unwise choice for men now.
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My take on it is if marriage happens, it happens. I think it'd be cool, but if it doesn't happen it's not the end of the world either. In terms of whether she works or not, I'm not hugely fussed one way or the other. Really, whatever makes her happy is fine with me. I'd rather she not work and have good positive energy than work at something that makes her unhappy and miserable. Her work ambition or lack thereof isn't hugely important. Other characteristics matter much more.
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I would only marry a childfree businesswoman or career lady. (I am not broke, I am ambitious myself). If everything works out serendipitous, we may build an empire and never be broke [again].
Housewives, I'm sorry but housewives are not for me.
In general id like her to have her own career or do something she likes. I also think it's healthy to have some form of independence in a relationship.
First f*ck being married in todays modern standards (courts suck for men should it go wrong) but if I did she'd have to contribute 50 equality in everything.
The hell, it more her choice no.. I think breaks are sort of fine, even long ones. But a life forever at home feels maybe a little boring. Especially if you don't have much to do
Uhhh. what's the incentive for men to get married these days? Aside from getting screwed in the divorce No Thanks, I'd rather stay single And perhaps goto a strip club from time to time
1. Marriage is something men do for women. It offers men nothing. 2. Yes, a woman with no ambition to work is a big turn off. Why should I have to support a woman's early retirement?
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 it offers them security and status. Women deeply desire to feel "picked." That's why the wedding day is the bride's day to be princess. Women also want to be able to say to other women that they were picked. They also want security--and in the USA women initiate most divorces, get almost all alimony, and can literally cheat on the guy and still come out ahead after divorce.
Security? What kind of security? Finantial? Women have jobs, they don't need to marry for that. Status? Unless she is marrying a celebrity she gains none. Aka most marriages. The wedding day is for the groom too. I say this already having been one. Yes they iniciate most divorces. 40% of marriages fail and 70% by women. So you have 28% chaces after getting married she will divorce you. Not a lot. If she cheats the court will not go easy on her.
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 1. In the USA women who cheat don't have anything to worry about from divorce courts. I'm in Legal, so no this isn't my opinionn, it's the opinion of the family law attorneys I have met. 2. Yes, status. Women want to be married and picked. It's a female thing. 3. Of course women have jobs. And they want a guy who earns at least as much or preferably more than them. They also frequently want to be stay at home moms once they have kids. 4. The groom is a featured character in the wedding. The Bride is the star. 5. Women can divorce on a whim and in most states get 50% of the community property, which since women marry up, is typically an increase. Alimony also strongly favors women.
1. I heard from people here saying otherwise. 2. What status? What status they gain? Also everyone wants to be picked. No one wants to be alone. 3. Today women don't want to just be stay at home mothers. They don't throw their careers away for their kids. 4. As if! 5. But is supposed for each partner to have 50% of what they both had. They both worked for it they both get half. Today in about 1/3 relationships women make more. Add the ones where the man makes just a little more and you will see this 50% splits don't benefit them that much.
Ones who can afford it don't care or prefer it. My guy and me made a agreement I wouldn't work till our daughters in school because we don't want other people raising her.
If you mean she doesn't want to work outside the home, that might be OK if she is willing to work until there are kids.
If she wants to sit on the sofa and eat bon-bons all day, forget it.
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Yes. If she doesn't want to stay home with the kids then I will. Little to no ambition doesn't bother me. Even if you have a good job it still sucks. As ambitious as I am; I still get how soul crushing work can be.
I insisted that my wife take 4 years off to raise our daughter. We had a big fight over it. She wanted to work. Later she admitted that I was right and she appreciated that I insisted. And she will say. it was the only right thing I ever did.
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Most men do want marriage. There is a gap between what men and women want from each other and what both are willing to offer.
Pffft you crazy marriage is worthless as the woman you're dumb enough to trust with it.
I'm not sure that most men want marriage. But many do. I'd say it's roughly 40%. If you break down the demographics, it's 20% for "men" under 25 and 50% for men over 25. (However, of the men who want marriage, only 80% of them want committed marriage for life. There is always the 20% that wants to divorce and upgrade later on.)
How did you come up with those figures?
@MzAsh Anecdotal evidence. Just what I have perceived from observing society and individual men and men as a whole.
My fiancée has a career just as I do. She doesn’t need to change that when married.
i don’t think women won’t jobs are a turn off but women with careers are a turn on for me
Working, better to have two sources of income, reduce risk for the family economy. Why put everything on one person, it can go seriously wrong. Better to have both doing less time if you don't need all the money.
I look at it like this if I'm with the girl and I love her did I can do whatever I want for her with her and if she wants to stay home so you can stay home if she wants to work she but that's completely up to her
At this point I just see women as parasites anymore when it comes to permanent relationships. I mean I have enough to be satisfied for the rest of my life. Why would I want someone in my life telling me it's not enough. No thank you I'm happy now.
Parasites wow lol
I´d go for working. Firstly I´m not sure I want kids (sorry), secondly because her earning money would mean that we also share the financial responsibility. For me that would take stress away
Late to the party but here's my answer:
Do I want Marriage? Yes
Do I want her to be a SAHM? also yes
Does that mean I want her to only have our children to take care of? Not necessarily
What I want when I think of a SAHM is a woman who puts her children first, but if she can have a business on the side or work a part time job from home then that's very much welcome, I just want to make it so she's not obligated (or thinks so anyway) to leave the house to have a desk job.
I didn't answer the poll because I won't be getting married. I like the concept of marriage, but not the reality of it today. For men, marriage offers fewer benefits now than marriage of the past, and it is also more risky and costly today. A simple cost/benefit analysis quickly reveals that marriage is a very unwise choice for men now.
My take on it is if marriage happens, it happens. I think it'd be cool, but if it doesn't happen it's not the end of the world either. In terms of whether she works or not, I'm not hugely fussed one way or the other. Really, whatever makes her happy is fine with me. I'd rather she not work and have good positive energy than work at something that makes her unhappy and miserable. Her work ambition or lack thereof isn't hugely important. Other characteristics matter much more.
I would only marry a childfree businesswoman or career lady. (I am not broke, I am ambitious myself). If everything works out serendipitous, we may build an empire and never be broke [again].
Housewives, I'm sorry but housewives are not for me.
In general id like her to have her own career or do something she likes. I also think it's healthy to have some form of independence in a relationship.
First f*ck being married in todays modern standards (courts suck for men should it go wrong) but if I did she'd have to contribute 50 equality in everything.
The hell, it more her choice no.. I think breaks are sort of fine, even long ones. But a life forever at home feels maybe a little boring. Especially if you don't have much to do
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Uhhh. what's the incentive for men to get married these days?
Aside from getting screwed in the divorce
No Thanks, I'd rather stay single
And perhaps goto a strip club from time to time
1. Marriage is something men do for women. It offers men nothing.
2. Yes, a woman with no ambition to work is a big turn off. Why should I have to support a woman's early retirement?
And what it doesn't offer men that it offers women?
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 It offers men nothing at all.
And what it offers women?
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 it offers them security and status. Women deeply desire to feel "picked." That's why the wedding day is the bride's day to be princess. Women also want to be able to say to other women that they were picked. They also want security--and in the USA women initiate most divorces, get almost all alimony, and can literally cheat on the guy and still come out ahead after divorce.
Security? What kind of security? Finantial? Women have jobs, they don't need to marry for that.
Status? Unless she is marrying a celebrity she gains none. Aka most marriages.
The wedding day is for the groom too. I say this already having been one.
Yes they iniciate most divorces. 40% of marriages fail and 70% by women. So you have 28% chaces after getting married she will divorce you. Not a lot.
If she cheats the court will not go easy on her.
@This_Is_My_Opinion8
1. In the USA women who cheat don't have anything to worry about from divorce courts. I'm in Legal, so no this isn't my opinionn, it's the opinion of the family law attorneys I have met.
2. Yes, status. Women want to be married and picked. It's a female thing.
3. Of course women have jobs. And they want a guy who earns at least as much or preferably more than them. They also frequently want to be stay at home moms once they have kids.
4. The groom is a featured character in the wedding. The Bride is the star.
5. Women can divorce on a whim and in most states get 50% of the community property, which since women marry up, is typically an increase. Alimony also strongly favors women.
1. I heard from people here saying otherwise.
2. What status? What status they gain? Also everyone wants to be picked. No one wants to be alone.
3. Today women don't want to just be stay at home mothers. They don't throw their careers away for their kids.
4. As if!
5. But is supposed for each partner to have 50% of what they both had. They both worked for it they both get half. Today in about 1/3 relationships women make more. Add the ones where the man makes just a little more and you will see this 50% splits don't benefit them that much.
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 Bud I didn't go to your opinion, you're the one obsessed with me. Google it.
Obsessed is a very strong word for someone debating your views.
Honestly, I don't care... wouldn't mind being a stay at home dad while she worked either or some give and take arrangement somewhere in between.
Yeah... I wouldn't like to stay at home. I'd get bored out of my mind. Does that make me hypocrite haha?
Ones who can afford it don't care or prefer it. My guy and me made a agreement I wouldn't work till our daughters in school because we don't want other people raising her.
If you mean she doesn't want to work outside the home, that might be OK if she is willing to work until there are kids.
If she wants to sit on the sofa and eat bon-bons all day, forget it.
Yes. If she doesn't want to stay home with the kids then I will. Little to no ambition doesn't bother me. Even if you have a good job it still sucks. As ambitious as I am; I still get how soul crushing work can be.
I insisted that my wife take 4 years off to raise our daughter. We had a big fight over it. She wanted to work. Later she admitted that I was right and she appreciated that I insisted. And she will say. it was the only right thing I ever did.