I am working as a software engineer and I have a handsome salary. But the issue is my wife spends more money than I earn. What is your opinion?

[Anonymous]

She is neither a working woman nor a good homemaker. She is uneducated, lazy and less productive. She spends more money on shopping and online food ordering. She doesn't cook food. Cooking food is a big issue for us, we fight on this issue. She is a pain in the ass.

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My advice to all married couples earn more money, spend less and save more. Tell your wife to cook food at home if she is a homemaker. If she is a working woman and can't handle household chores then hire maid and order food online. If your wife has health issues then order online. If you are super rich then hire maids, chefs or order online. If you are working class don't spend more money, save it for your kids. 😊

[Anonymous]

Let’s not judge here because I don't know if it’s me or it’s my brain. I did everything on my own before I asked him for money at all. Even now I don’t ask for money. It’s not my strong independency either but I work at home anyhow now. I start my journey towards medical school in August. Try talking to her about depression? A lot of people have their own point of view towards living lavishly but I don’t really care for it honestly. I spend things with my money instead of his. we don’t hire maids because I am Molly the maid. try marriage counseling?

[Emiliamazing]

Maybe you need to sit down with her and show her some credit card statements and then show her your deposit stubs/statements. It’s pretty simple math and if she likes the life you provide she should do her best to support you and your efforts to support a family

[Asker]

I have done that.

[Emiliamazing]

That is just unbelievably crude. Sorry. That was the best advice I had.

[Asker]

She says she lived a boring life in her parents home before marriage and now she wants to enjoy her second half.

[jshm2]

You are an idiot, then.

Part of the prequel to marriage is having "the talk" on finances, roles, savings, goals family etc.

You just looked at pussy on tap and are now paying the price for it.

If you don't lay down boundaries, then you cannot bitch when other people trample over your stuff.

[Asker]

I would have done that if it was love marriage. It's an arranged marriage forced by parents and relatives. We just met 4-5 times before the marriage.

[BarryLiverstone]

She is acting like a child so treat her like one. Give her an allowance, give her chores and if she doesn’t complete them then have punishments. Aside from that seek some counseling. A divorce should be one of the last options

[Asker]

I agree, I don't like divorce, for me divorce is a last option. We don't have kids yet. I know after having kids It will be difficult to run the house. Forget about punishment, if I punished her she will refuse to have sex. She's is taking advantage of it.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. If you punish her she will learn and improve. You can’t let her hold sex as power over you. If she isn’t meeting your needs then do that on your own

[Asker]

Ok, I'll try.

[random_girl95]

If you discuss it with her and tell your problem you will see what she tells you.

[Asker]

She said she wants to live a lavish lifestyle. I'm thinking of divorcing her, I will marry a educated working woman. It was an arranged marriage forced by my parents.

[random_girl95]

I see. Then you do what you think is best for you.

[Asker]

Yes thanks😊

[random_girl95]

You are welcome

[random_girl95]

By the way you mentioned being a software engineer. Did you get a bachelor's degree in computer science to work in that field?

[Asker]

I have done MSc. Are you educated?

[random_girl95]

I haven't pursued a degree yet, I am interested in the technology field and I wanted to ask from which degree to start to pursue a career in a technological field.

[Asker]

Ok, you obviously need a computer science degree. Right? Bachelor's of engineering in CS.

[random_girl95]

Probably yes, thanks for the coordination!

[random_girl95]

Also do you believe a good knowledge of maths is essential for succeeding in a technology oriantated job?

[Asker]

I wish you good luck in your studies. 😊

[random_girl95]

Thank you! Good luck with your personal life as well!

[Asker]

My pleasure😊

[linka_pat307]

Just make her understand how hard you are trying
Or just tell how stupid she is behaving even after knowing about ur hard work

[Asker]

Yes I told her that I'm working hard. I have control over my expenses but she can't do it. I have seen many people like my wife who can't control. Even though I earn so much I can lead a simple life without spending. I still don't know how to handle her? We are not able to save money. I would have saved more money if I was single.

[linka_pat307]

Just divorce (a joke)
Okie give her to friends or professionals to give a try on life

[Asker]

Yes I'm trying. This is going on since 2 years. I was silent for a year, I thought she will understand. We started quarreling after a year. How friends can teach her? She is not a kid anymore.

[Anonymous]

Why are you with her?
There's no shame or anything wrong with separation of it's not working out.

[Asker]

Bcoz it's an arranged marriage done by my parents and relatives. I will not tolerate anymore I will divorce her after discussing with family, relatives and friends. Enough is enough.

[Opinion Owner]

I think you're from my part of the world hahah. Do what is best for you, it's hard to make everyone else happy, focus on yourself first.

[Asker]

Yes exactly, we all are not same. Everyone is different. You can't make everyone happy.

[BeMuse]

Sounds like you fucked up dummy.

[exitseven]

If she is not hot I would broom her.

[TheFlak38]

that's what happens when you get married.