Ooo... This is a good one lmao! I've done both. I've been married three times, don't judge me lol, and I've proposed many different ways. My first wife I proposed just between me and her. I was in the military at the time and in the middle of a hectic training schedule and decided, "why not?", right? So she said yes, and eventually we got married in front of a justice of the peace in Dallas Texas. I was terrified and a bit sad. The reason why I was sad was because my sisters had big weddings. The ones with cakes, dances, me and a band I was in got to play at my oldest sisters wedding lol, all that good stuff, and here I am, in my uniform, her in a sun dress, in front of a judge. I hated it.
Wife number 2 was, well, non-traditional in every sense of the word lol. Initially it was for citizenship. I whole heartedly admit that, but we began to actually like each other. I sort of proposed to her the night I showed her my little Quest VR setup lol. We had fun that night. It was sweet if I'm being honest. No one had tried to understand my love of video games, or weird taste in anime before lmao! Next thing I knew the VA ends up taking half of my disability away because they "think" I'm working full time at my janitorial job, which I wasn't, I was only part-time, and I ended up losing my car, my apartment, and my cheap motorcycle, and had to move back home to my parents. I was mortified. We had gotten married in the justice court and we had to have it annulled. I couldn't support her and her dreams. I was so ashamed I couldn't tell her myself. I just let her hate me. She was wonderful though.
My last marriage was done VERY publicly. I was damned and determined that this was going to be IT. This was my last marriage, and come hell or high water I was going to make this bastard WORK!! I got a ring and I spoke to her son's baseball coach. We had this plan where she would be on the field to help her son catch, or hit, and I would catch the ring, or have the ring in my hand while behind the plate, I don't remember, it was baseball okay lol. Anywho, EVERYONE was there, and they saw me propose to her. It was a big ordeal.
After that we had our home life and I admit I was bad off on drugs. Didn't matter what it was, I would take it. I had, and still have, a lot of demons from my past, including my time in the military. I had been trying for sobriety, but unbeknownst to me, she had a bit of a drug issue as well. I found out she had been taking from my own stash, and when there just wasn't enough to keep us both going she would throw these HORRIBLE fits. She would run into the bathroom, slam the doors, and begin to do what I call "scream-crying". It was extremely loud and scared me half to death. Her 2 kids would freak out as well, but only showed it by shaking a little bit. So I would have to console them. It was just a mess man. Anyway, after a while of that, and it not getting any better, also her parents were being real assholes, I got my stuff and left. I was done.
So, to answer your question. "Do you like big proposals, or private proposals", I say both. I mean it's not really about the proposal anyway, right? Yeah, they are flashy at times, heartfelt in that moment, but what really matters is the grit and determination afterwards. In the REAL part of the relationship. Either that part is magical, amazing, and forgiving, or its an utter train wreck. Proposals are nice, but they aren't even the tip of the ice burg. Take care, I hope this opinion entertained you!!
I like the more private proposals, or small ones. I wouldn’t mind if maybe 5 people saw it, but I would prefer if those people were family members or friends from a distance.
I don’t want a proposal where people start clapping or staring. My ideal proposal would be just me and my boyfriend, a family or friend to capture the moment, and somewhere in a outdoor space or special place for us. I really don’t want a big deal of it. I don’t want a big wedding either 🤷🏻♀️
It helped that his target bride worked for a TV station as a reporter and when he had a quiet word they were only too willing to lay on the helicopter so long as they could put it on the evening news. Anyway they engineered her onto the helicopter. I don't know what the work excuse was, without her being any the wiser. She was landed on the beach just as the aeroplane sign writer completed "WILL YOU MARRY ME" and he awaited her on bended knee proffering a ring.
Obviously she was under pressure and it would have been bad TV if she had have said NO! F off. But fortunately she did mean Yes when she said Yes.
Its hard to top your proposal being on TV.
My own was the direct opposite being entirely private on the Grande Canal in Venice where I had whisked her off too. It was a work trip for me and hence tax deductible by the way. The Gondelier couldn't speak English so he had no idea, Couldn't be more private. My target bride wasn't expecting and indeed a bit surprised.
After we berthed she charged off to the jewelry shops so I took that as a Yes
When my now husband proposed to me it was during the intermission of a musical in the theatre lobby. I’m not sure if his plan was for a lot of people to notice, but that’s what happened. It was really unsettling to have a lot of strangers applaud when I said “yes” and accepted his proposal. I wasn’t sure at that moment if I wanted to kiss him or kill him.
I think I would want a private proposal.. I don’t know I just feel like having everyone there witnessing it doesn’t feel sincere to me.
I’d want it to be in a foreign country (preferably Italy or something) where he’d take me somewhere during the afternoon to see the city from on top of somewhere and just ask me there. Have a glass of wine enjoy the moment and take pictures with each other and keep that moment to ourselves and not tell anyone until we get back or the next day or something.
Private. I hate all the eyes being on me. What if he proposes too soon so you say no. The crowd will glare at you like you're a villain, but they don't know our relationship, our private life. They can only judge on what they see, and they will. Fuck that. I told my partner this too if he ever thinks about proposing, it has to be in private. If he does it in public I will say no. I hate that everything needs to be a spectacle, a show. Do it for the likes. Yeah no.
Definitely private. I would love to be proposed to in a beautiful nature setting, on a cliff over the water or in the forest. Maybe on vacation somewhere beautiful. I'd want to have a private loving moment where my boyfriend could tell me all his true thoughts and feelings without anyone watching.
I proposed to my ex wife in a 5 star restaurant everyone applauded when she actually accepted not no where near as unnerving as it was for me asking her father the night before for permission to marry her I definitely needed a drink afterwards just to calm my nerves lol
I sincerely think public proposals are too embarrassing, they’re for people who like the theatre stage and want clapping spectators. I’d prefer a private proposal, maybe in a romantic location or with a suggestive view.
I would always prefer a private place. But not to avoid the embarrassment if she says no. No, it is not that. But I would like to feel it special and just us only.
I don't mind either way. Both would have the same affirmative answer. The fact that he's proposing would mean a lot to me. For the meantime I still have hopes that gate would be open and I get in.
I never really proposed to my wife. After a few weeks we both knew how it was going to end up. I thought that was pretty cool how we were so in tune with each other. Now I sort of wish I made a bigger deal about it.
I want a Disney proposal so the controversy can have it televised world wide. Maybe get a refund on the admittance and that day's cost could be used for the wedding.8)
I bought my x a fake velvet rose. I handed it to her all suave like. It was awkward because it was obvious it wasn't real and there where some perplexed looks from the group when I said that phony rose was expensive. She then took a closer look and it had a hatch that contained the ring. She was so fascinated at the hidden hatch it took time to realize what was happening.
My friend asked me to help him propose. So we bought a package of 6 toy rings vacuumed sealed to a princess background image. We swapped one with the real ring and he pocketed the toy.
At the event we attended he said. "Ha look what I found in these pockets." and pulled out the clearly toy ring. He showed it to her and mockingly slid it on her finger. She posed exaggeratedly as she showed it off. She giggled with the far away dream on her mind. He then said. "Wow that looks horrible. choose one that is not so gaudy from the rest of the package. " She playfully did saying "lets see which one is more my style?" and then got serious. Only he and I knew what she was seeing. My girlfriend at the time said "here let me ha... Oh My GOD! Is that a real ring"
No one knew I helped him with this. We agreed to keep it that way. And he was a hit and I was so happy for them.
Point is its really nice to see everyone reaction.
my husband proposed to me privately on an empty beach at night. I thought it was perfect with just the two of us, I feel like proposing in front of a big crowd is kinda awkward
I’d personally prefer something more private and personal and not with people around. Nothing big either.
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I proposed to my significant other numerous times in private never got an answer always left hanging without a response. Even a couple of weeks ago I proposed again in private and never got a response once again left hanging without an answer
the original ring was a.50ct VVS1 E color 14k white gold and the side stones were SI1-SI2 G-H color. the upgraded stone was a.70ct VVS1 E color 14k white gold and the side stones were SI1-SI2 G-H color Both were GIA certified
I have very bad anxiety so rn no I would prefer a beach or a picnic. But yea I see the appel it is so nice to see people in love 💙
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Private I feel like people watching would make it seem forced or something, but it can still be big with it being public so I would like that kind of one. (Im probably the one who is gonna propose so I would especially like it to be private).
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