What RIGHTS should a husband have regarding his WIFE in marriage?

[KrakenAttackin]

Is sex a right? Does the wife have a moral right to withhold sex from her husband? The right to expect fidelity and right to expect any children born are biologically his?

What RIGHTS, relating to his wife, does a husband have?

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+1 y

As I suspected, there are no "rights" a husband has on marriage.

Ladies, do you realize that there are ZERO incentives for a man to get married?

[meetkitty123]

A RIGHT?
SEX IS A RIGHT TO NO ONE!

A husband is not a woman's property any more than a wife is a mans property. We (man or woman) are not slaves!

I believe his needs her needs by willard Harley explains it best. The needs of each need to be balanced to remain in harmony.

As far as fidelity and children born being biologically related to both wife and husband
Of course people desire this.

But its not to be called a right of a husband without being called a right of a wife as well. Neither man or woman should be having children with other people. Unless of course the choice is mutual for example adopting an embryo or using a donor egg or sperm

Not A husband nor a wife can take off party drink splurge the households funds leave the children to be attended to by the other and expect to come home and be greeted with open arms and harmonious.

In marriages not wife or husband have rights over the other person. A wife and a husband each have responsibilities and both need to be doing their part. When one doesn't carry their weight is when the marriage begins to far apart.

[KrakenAttackin]

@meetkitty123. So, why would any man want to get married?

[meetkitty123]

Are you implying a man only gets married to have rights over another person? No I doubt that.
No one is anyones property.
And
Sex isn't a right to anybody I doubt you believe such a thing deep down you are way too decent of a man to force yourself on a woman you love.
If a person refuses sex its for a reason.

If by chance it is how you claim some sort of power play on their spouse some sort of mental game then no one should blame the spouse whos being abused for wanting to end the marriage. Thats what we have rights to do! We have the right to walk away and find true love.

[KrakenAttackin]

@meetkitty123. I am simply demonstrating how men do not benefit at all from marriage.

[meetkitty123]

I do not understand your logic. How is marriage only beneficial if we expect to impose our will on another person? We can't do such a thing even if we aren't married. Anyone with the mindset that a marriage makes you a slave to another shouldn't wed. Life no longer works this way.

Besides

@KrakenAttackin you do not truly believe that as you yourself benefited quite well in marriage. Some people are just luckier than others to find a good companion. Besides I doubt you would force yourself on your wife if she was not in the mood for sex nor would you force her to bear you more children if she felt she couldn't do it.

[meetkitty123]

Listen Im sorry but not women or men have a right to demand sex from their spouses and not a woman or a man have a right to demand children. Such things should be discussed before being married and a number of children should be agreed on before hand. And it must be understood that things happen and certain factors may come into play that will prevent the couple from having more children. Neither spouse has the right to take it upon themselves to force a child to be created whether by tampering with birth control or by physically forcing themself on the other. Sex and bearing children is not a right. Its must be equally decided.
If a couple cannot see eye to eye then they should simply walk away from each others

[KrakenAttackin]

So WHAT is the point of marriage?

[meetkitty123]

For what you yourself married for. Companionship someone to help you out be your equal not to bring you down but to uplift you. A marriage is about funding your own other half. What would work for one person isn't going to work for the other. Its different for everyone. A good match will still have their up and downs but as long as both people in the marriage continue to meet the other persons main needs to relationship will stay strong. A coulple that keeps their partners love bank filled will not have problems with intimacy unless a physical condition prevents it but even then a compassionate couple will find other means to experience intimacy
In a healthy relationship the couple will work together will establish boundaries will understand how many children they can have and keep in mind not every person can physically have a child and if that is the case of strong couple will work around this also every couple is different not every couple wants children.

[meetkitty123]

But the point is to establish these things before you ever unite. I've had many hard times I am in no perfect relationship myself but I refuse to give up on the idea that love is accomplishable. I know that a marriage cannot last if one person is carrying all the weight. I know people don't deserve that either as you say we all deserve people who will be faithful and willing to fulfill our family wants the urges to have children. I had one partner who forced himself on me when I told him I had enough and I wanted to leave it was a horrendous night but he knew I was fertile he felt that by forcing a child on me he would keep me at his side it did not work. then I had another man the one I'm with now who splurged not only the house payment money not only did he sell property without informing me ap to gamble it he also spent the money we saved to have a child so I was left unfulfilled. Either way to be force into making a child or to have a child denied to you is an awful feeling... To have your trust broken by a partner is dreadful It is why both times I decided it is best to end things.
Everyone deserves a partner who will respect them and treat them as their equal

[KrakenAttackin]

@meetkitty123. Yes, but so many women bait -and -switch right after marriage. I don't know how many man can trust what was "sorted out" before marriage.

[meetkitty123]

Dear @KrakenAttackin women do not possess a force field we are not immune to bait -and -switch from men either guy gets full stories of such things happening to both men and women

[meetkitty123]

Sorry gag is full
Typo

[Bratsondanielle]

She has to be faithful and so does he. I'm not sure what you mean regarding the children thing. They are both parents' kids of course. Sex would usually be a part of marriage... but a right... I mean if Noone wants sex then it's not much of a marriage but it's obviously mutual consent

[OlderAndWiser]

In the absence of a written contract (prenuptial agreement,) a man can only expect to have those rights recognized by the law. There is no recognized right to sex upon demand. There is no enforceable right to fidelity (you can neither sue your spouse for their infedility nor have them arrested.) With some limited exceptions, upon divorce you have the right to receive one-half of the assets accumulated during the marriage. And even if she is otherwise averse to the idea, you have the right to receive oral sex on your birthday!

[hahahmm]

In this modern age... the rights should be that if there's a divorce he owes her zero support or cut of anything he earned. Anything he gives her should be voluntary. That's fair if men & women are equal, as feminists preach. If women don't like that they should think harder about who they marry & why. Also with kids, the man should get automatic custody of any male child. The woman should get custody of the female children.

[007kingifrit]

right isn't the right word to use here. a better question is; what responsibilities and duties should the wife have to her husband

. honesty
. sex
. keeping a home
. children
. to inspire his best attributes and lift him up

[KrakenAttackin]

@007kingifrit. I used the word 'right" to drive elicit an emotional response. Looks like I got it from the ladies ;)

[007kingifrit]

well it just isn't the right word

[Reaper1985]

Modern marriage is a joke and not worth it for a level headed man. Because he’s expected to do all the heavy lifting without getting rewarded for it. No point in risking his livelihood when she can cut off access to rewards for no reason.

[Lliam]

If you have to ask that question, you have no idea what a loving marriage looks like, in which there is mutual respect, admiration, adoration, and a desire to make each other happy.

It's not about "rights", demands, distrust and petulance.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Lliam. Fewer than 14% of married women say their marriage is "happy".

[Lliam]

And whose fault is that? Being married to guys who think they can make demands or who think marriage is transactional?

[KrakenAttackin]

@Lliam. Right, because men should have zero expectations in marriage...😒

[Lliam]

@KrakenAttackin. Poor, poor men. What victims. 😭

[Anonymous]

No sex is no right. You have the right to divorce your wife if you aren’t happy with the relationship. That’s about it.

[jahaims]

You don't own your wife so you aren't entitled to her. You have a social contract based on trust and that is pretty much it.

[worldscolide]

Basically marriage by today's leftist piece of shit feminist standards is meaningless.

[worldscolide]

Per your update. You're absolutely right, it's part of why men are less and less willing to get married. What's the pint when women just wipe their asses with the vows like they are toilet paper.

Thank God I married a small town conservative girl who actually values traditional marriage.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Sex and fidelity but that's mutual and expected in marriage anyways.

[Likes2drive]

Well if they expect children in the marriage then she can’t withhold sex so I think there are some expectations or don’t get married

[Likes2drive]

Yeah there really is no incentive anymore, makes me wonder why any guy gets married anymore

[KrakenAttackin]

@Likes2drive. Exactly right. A wife can not only deny her husband sex but she can also have him arrested for Rape or Domestic Violence with a phone call.

If men aren't even guaranteed sex, there is zero point in getting married.

[Likes2drive]

Unfortunately there is no guarantees with anything in life so you’re taking a big risk getting married and hope you get what you were getting before it. More than half of marriages fail and end up in divorce so it’s just like that comedian said can you imagine if that said that on a parachute that it was more than half likely to fail would you still use that parachute?

[Blackcosmo]

No one is entitled to sex because you don't own anyone. That's all there is to it.

[Blackcosmo]

Only people who are entitled will disagree. Coward.

[888theGreat]

A husband can divorce his wife if she refuses to have sex with him and she can with him if he doesn't have sex with her. That is biblical

[Deathraider]

I mean some financial stuff, but otherwise not really.

[Tornado92]

Not allowed to talk to white people!!!

[Liuz02]

To take out the bin