How would you feel if you reached 40, 50, 60 or older and you were NEVER married, never had a child or two?

[Anonymous]

This kind...

Or this kind..

[BlueScorpio]

I guess somewhat sad cause I'm sure it can get lonely sometimes. I think for men and women who never got married can still be happy if they did have kids. One of my co workers never got married but she has tons of grandchildren and even a new grand baby that she sees a lot and that's probably enough to keep her happy and never feeling alone cause she has family.

[Asker]

Well the question stated no children either but okay. Thanks for your input.

[duttyjamagyal]

Sad and depressed but whatever

[Ill_made_Knight]

This is where I am. No kids was planned all along, and I'vebeen in long relationships that I'm happy to have been in, and in those marriage was never really a goal for either... it was discussed a few times... perfectly fine life, and wouldn't change anything about those decisions.

[Asker]

I'm glad you're happy and don't regret anything, particularly regarding this aspect of your life. I hope you continue to be happy and healthy. That's all we can really ask for.

[Ill_made_Knight]

Thanks, and I certainly wish you well also... I'm guessing you might know that this attitude that I now carry about the past has been washed and sifted by time... Things are never quite that simple as they unfold.
Thanks for the MHO as well.

[BubbaSparkx]

Anyone at this point, should just go to a strip club or a Brothel in Las Vegas, pay the $346 tip, smash and dash, you're free from ever thinking about it. No kids no responsibilities, ever, definitely no pets because of the last statement just mentioned.

[jennifer_bloom]

Your divorced with no kids

[Asker]

No, the question states 'SINGLE NEVER MARRIED' :-)

[TroyDT]

I would be perfectly fine with it. I've known for several years that I am sterile (CBAVD) so kids will never happen. And under current laws I would not consider marriage unless I were terminally ill and wanted to ensure that the girl I love (platonically) most on this planet, my best friend since kindergarten, could get my estate without having to pay inheritance taxes.

[nice-girl]

I would accept it as my fate and continue dating. I would see the positive side of it of having a lot of freedom and peace of mind. I would be no different from a divorced woman. And if I wanted I would consider adopting a child if possible as a single person.

[Haha456]

I don't expect on being married but I do expect on becoming a mother. Single women can have children. Single men can't have kids without wives.

[Asker]

Well honestly, that's not true. My ex was married at one point in his life and even procreated and had one son as a result. However, the ex wife is now remarried and her and her new husband have a 9 year old daughter together, making her my ex's son's half sibling.

Ex is a druggie with mental instability issues including anger and abuse so like yeah, even if he were to marry me, I think it wouldn't have been good. My parents forced me (physically) to stay away from him. Cops have been called to our house. He always usually made scenes of being high and strung out in public to where mall security gets on alert. Also, he was/is homeless. Don't know if he is still since I haven't heard from him in a while. He also has no job as of right now.

Yeah yeah, please don't judge lol.

[Haha456]

well your ex was married which was why he had the opportunity to have a kid. if he was never married, there's a likely chance he would never been able to have children.

Being a single mom is better than having to put up with a crazy abusive ex. Especially if the courts want you to deliver the kids to your ridiculous ex for monthly visits.

[Asker]

Hehe I am not so sure. You're dealing with new age type of people these days where some people/couples aren't even married yet have 5 or 6 kids with each other. It's upside down. Some people even DEGRADE the sanctity/sacredness of marriage, hence the 50% divorce rate (maybe higher I don't know). But no, in my opinion, you don't need to be married to have a child, male or female. You're talking in idealic situations.

And yeah, he believed in marriage and that is why he was going to marry me and have his second chance at a family life with me but unfortunately, he got deranged and abusive and for what, I don't know, I don't know if I will ever know unfortunately. Maybe he was just evil.

[Haha456]

@Asker

Vast majority of women aren't gonna have kids with a man who won't commit to her. So if a man cannot find a committed romantic relationship, its unlikely he will ever have kids in his life. But on the other hand, a single woman can have a child with just a trip to the sperm bank.

[Asker]

Again, not true. I've seen COUNTLESS of women who either accidentally got pregnant from a one-night stand or friends with benefits (Friends with Benefits). In fact, I can give you multiple examples right now of cases where the woman just gave the man a baby and didn't even ask for commitment.

User Hanrej is one great one that I just spoke with recently. He's a single dad with no desires for marriage.

And I am sure there's more examples. I think my neighbor Allison is one too. She had an accidental pregnancy with a guy she wasn't married to, but now she is married to a guy that's not her baby's father and she's happy (probably). My cousin BEA is also another example, she and her high school boyfriend had an accident, so her parents FORCED the marriage upon them when they were young. I am sure she's not the only example in history to have that stuff happen! And with dating sites and casual dating rampant.. you know, if one's not careful..

[Haha456]

Those are rare exceptions. Not the general rule for vast majority of society.
Reality is, vast majority of the time, single men do not have any one who would be willing to have their baby.
Women who get pregnant by accident or without planning tend to be ill valued, idiots or duds. But these women do not make up the vast majority of women.

The only way a single man can have a child is through adoption. Its not easy to find a dud who would be willing to have any random guy's baby.

[Haha456]

95% of the time when these idiotic ill valued women get pregnant through one-night stands, the men do not want or care for the baby. Because these guys who have one night stands tend to be ill valued, just like the women.

[Asker]

Hmm, interesting... this gives me hope..

Thnx.

[Haha456]

@Asker

By the time I am 34-35 and still single, I would just have a baby with a co parent. There is an app called modamily that connects men and women who want to have kids together without dating or marriage. Or you go visit the sperm bank. I really wouldn't suggest on being a single mother if you are struggling financially though.

Many women only want to wait until they find perfect prince charming. But reality is , 50% of all marriages eventually end up in divorce. So many kids grow up with mom while visiting dad once a month any ways. It really doesn't make a huge difference.

[exitseven]

I would be very lonely. I was always sort of a loner when I was a kid and I really did get too used to it. It caused a lot of friction in most of my relationships. Being married for 26 years has changed me and I am happy about it.

[rabbitzzz]

It's not good. But it's happier than having been in a marriage and have everything taken from you and left alone. So if you marry make sure it's a good one.

[Asker]

True, thanks. If only things and people were that simple.

[Babygirl_S]

It's not going to happen. I know this for sure because I won't rely on white men. They waste a lot of time and then don't even marry the women they date. Indian men are more traditional and seek wives.

[Googlemyahoo]

Usually they become teachers or professors and tell everyone else how to live.

[Asker]

Lol my teachers/professors, a good number of them, are married with a few kids.

[Anonymous]

i would be happy. I want zero kids and zero marriage. A long term girlfriend with who i cohabit would be perfect. We can treat each other just like husband and wife.

[Asker]

Interesting. Thank you.

[AsaKyo]

@Still-alive Will you get married and have kids? Pleaseeeeeee

[Still-alive]

with you? sure ;)

[AsaKyo]

@Still-alive Nooo, not me, silly lmaoo

[Hanrej]

I wouldn't want to be child less but never married seems like dodging a bullet.

[Asker]

Geez that's mean lol.

Aren't you at least thankful someone was attracted to you enough to GIVE you a progeny? Without her, you wouldn't even have your child. For most people it's hard for them to resist wanting to create a mini version of themselves well into their future, like an insurance policy. At least, that's what I think.

[Hanrej]

I am grateful. I took care of her during and well after the pregnancy and shoulder my responsibility towards my son. I just don't see why carrying and delivering a child is worth enslaving myself under marrital law.

[Asker]

Well if you think about it that way, I guess I can see why you'd say that. In a way, you ENSLAVED yourself (for at least 18 to 21 years) to raising this child of yours anyway.

Finding LOVE and having a LIFE PARTNER or WIFE/SPOUSE shouldn't feel like you are being TRAPPED or STUCK with someone you don't want, that's NEVER the goal of marriage. At least it shouldn't be and with that said, it's great that divorce isn't as taboo nowadays. But I still think, being married is a sign of stability but yeah, I guess I am just traditional as my parent's have been married since 1976 and couting. Thing is, I guess as long as you guy's parenting style/routine works, I guess it's better than having an absent parent? People after all, are always saying and complaining (DEMANDING) that a child needs two people to be raised well. Congrats on being able to reproduce your genes.

[Hanrej]

Thing is marrital law is all stacked against men. From the moment of marriage nothing I do will ever be for me as the woman I got stuck with could take it all in an instant. Also, as her husband I'm obligated to support her as if she's a second child and given my experiance with women no one goes into a marriage thinking to actually provide anything but instead be provided for. Even when you do, in ten years or less she will according to statistics in 80% of the case initiate a divorce and rob me of everything. So no, I'll never consider marriage as anything other than a bullet.

[Wise4myage]

Id probably be totally fine with that, because it was my decision.

[dustybiker]

Accomplished.

[Mia-Wallace]

That will not happen to me.

[Asker]

How can you be so sure? A Marriage takes at least two people. One doing the proposing and one being proposed to not to mention. A child, well, you can have a child through a one night stand, or just an agreed to casual fling, or IVF, IUI, adoption, etc. But you often have to have a considerable amount of $ to do that stuff. Pretty much ANYTHING you do, aside from breathing, usually requires some form of monetary compensation. Such is our society unfortunately.

[Jay3344]

As a man it’s not a big deal

[dolemite89]

i’d consider myself extremely lucky 😂

[Asker]

Really? ! Why is that?

[UdosUNDERDEVELOPMENT]

Me too , having kids is a huge responsibility that not everyone can handle , including myself. And romance is just nonsense to me.

[Mart10]

I would definitely adopt if not married so no idea

[Iron_Man]

It’s disappointing isn’t it

[Agape93]

Pleased

[skyee_727]

happy

[JohnK123]

Why lol

[skyee_727]

@JohnK123 cos peaceful

[JohnK123]

Hahaha true

[goodgirlsteven]

empty! like me.

[maximumpower]

Lucky.