My boyfriend said he doesn't want to get married because he don't want that commitment. But I want to get married. What to do?

[Anonymous]

We already have a child together

[Anonymous]

You should have thought about that before having a kid. You should have made sure he married you before you had a child together. Now he has no reason to. Why would he? He has the wife experience for girlfriend prices. Now you just need to accept that he won’t marry you. Or leave him but that means ruining your childs family and that’s why you should have married (and just in general made sure you both want the same things in life) before having kids - because it’s easier then to leave if you don’t agree on big life choices. Too late for that now though.

[misfittoy]

he doesn't want a commitment? yet had a child with you? , smh, the logic of him, that is more of commitment then actual marriage. i would leave it alone for a while then have a talk about it

[JustinTheGreat]

Imagine having a whole child with someone but still being afraid of committing to them 😭 he got his shit backwards lmaooo

Anyways, if y’all aren’t on the same page about what you want from this relationship then you’ll probably always feel unfulfilled and unhappy.
i would say to move on and find someone who wants the same thing as you, but I get it’s not easy to just up and leave someone you have a kid with

[Anonymous]

Try honestly putting yourself in his shoes. Marriage today is a minefield for men. Half of marriage end in divorce, women file 80% of them and men almost always get screwed in divorce court and child custody settlements. Can you blame him?

[LazerBean]

Should have figured that out way before having a kid with him. Either suck it up or just leave him. You shouldn't marry anyone who doesn't want to marry you.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry 😞 I am totally in love and a year and half in and my boyfriend just told me he doesn’t ever want to get married. It’s hard but your boyfriend is young so maybe he will change his mind. I wouldn’t wait too long though

[Bethany22]

Read Steve Harvey's book Act Like a Lady think like a man. There's a passage in there specific to your situation

[AmandaYVR]

How old are you both?