My boyfriend doesn't want to marry me but he loves me, and I want to get marry... what should I do?

[Anonymous]

[Nawlins34]

End this relationship.

I don't want you to focus on his WORDS.
I want you to focus on his ACTIONS.

He just declared (declaration, is an ACTION), he doesn't want to marry you, something you hold true to your heart. That automatically eliminates him.

Stand your ground and hold true to your values. I man who truly loves you, would be all about making a marriage happen at the appropriate time.

When a man's ACTIONS doesn't match his WORDS, you go by his actions.

The majority (please ask, don't take my word for it) who are married and happy, will tell you they knew they were getting married to their husband, before he even proposed, based on his ACTIONS.

Your boyfriend, invalidated what you want, which is reasonable.
Tell him to fuck off.

You will be hurt because you do have feelings for him and that's fine. But allow yourself to heal and move on from him. Honestly, thank him for making it obvious because as of now, only you can be responsible for wasting anymore time with him.

I hope I've helped. Remember: you're not asking a lot, a man who loves you will gladly pay that price to have you on his arm.

Be safe and good luck.

[bamesjond0069]

You have to decide. Will you risk being with someone else or is he worth giving up on this issue? I will tell you the pool of men willing to marry is much smaller than men who will date you. So it will be much harder with much less options.

Men dont change since we are logical the only way to change his mind is with logic and as a woman i doubt you will be able to pull that off or change the circumstances of his reasoning.

[Subarugirl]

Well that's kind of a big deal. If that is something you really want and he really doesn't. You two should sit down and have a serious talk about where to go from there. If this is a deal breaker he should know about it and you should compromise you goals for someone who isn't willing to do the same.

[LazerBean]

You shouldn't been more careful to begin with. Stop dating men who aren't looking for marriage

[Anonymous]

Keep in mind that most men are not interested in marriage today because marriage is a minefield for modern men. It's risky and has fewer benefits to men now. As a woman, you sex is responsible for 70% of divorces. Why would you expect a man to want to marry you?

[Anonymous]

i'm sorry but that would be a hard pass for me... like what are you still doing with him? i get it, you love him. but...

[Opinion Owner]

i mean, just him alone saying "i don't want to marry you" should have broken your heart enough to end this relationship.

[FunkyMonkee]

Gimmie a rock or I'm gonna walk!
If I don't see a ring, I don't wanna see your thing!

[AviatorTom]

Do you love him? If you do, then you can continue your not-married relationship. If you don't, then find another guy who's interested in marriage.

[cth2188]

If you want marriage and he doesn’t I wouldn’t continue on with the relationship.. I wouldn’t waste my time

[SnakeBoop]

either decide if you could deal without marriage, or breakup if its that big of a deal.

[BCRanger10]

You should break up with him and find a man who wants to marry you and raise a family with you.

[one1wild00]

If he loves you and you love him. stay with it, you may be able to wear him down to marry you.

[Asker]

but how long I should stay?

[one1wild00]

I forget the time frame but after awhile you will be in a "common law" marriage. Stay with him IF the love is there.

[Asker]

okay.. 😔

[one1wild00]

If he wants kids or things like that then either you have a good job with medical, or tell him he will have to marry you if he has the good insurance.

[Asker]

🤔 what if he has no insurance

[one1wild00]

then worrying about more than a common law marriage is a moot point. for insurance, ins, work benefits, or other thinks like that would be the only reason to worry about a "formal wedding"

[Asker]

oh...

[SignedAutographs]

Then you have a decision to make, stay unmarried, to a guy that doesn't want marriage, or find someone who does.

Guys are a dime a dozen

[Wise4myage]

Maybe wait a bit longer and see if you can change his mind?

[Iron_Man]

Put your foot down he is doing that so he can walk away easy without Alamoni