How many bridesmaids are too many?

[t_time]

I just got engaged last night. Is one maid of honor and 5 bridesmaids too many? Plus my Neice as a flower girl

[BeeNee]

Pick as many as you'd like. Bridesmaids are typically your best friends and/or your family members and if you have a lot of them, then you do. It's not about what everyone else thinks, it's about who you are comfortable with and want by your side on your big day.

[kylee2437]

This is something only you could answer because my preference is quite different but would be too few for some people

[Guy13]

When I crash a country club wedding I like a very nice and plentiful selection. Don’t worry I’m not going to eat your shrimp 🦐 on ice. But, deep sea diving is expected. 😎

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Is it your first wedding?

2. How big is the church or venue where you are getting married?

3. Who is paying the cost of the wedding?

[AydenHazor]

There's no such thing as too few or too many bridesmaids. Just have the conversation with your fiance as he will need to be looking for an equal number of groomsmen. I was in a wedding last year as one of six groomsmen, matching the six bridesmaids, it's definitely manageable.

[loveslongnails]

Have as many as you want - it's your wedding. Just remember that they're the ones shelling out money for a dress and accessories they'll wear once in their life. I've never understood that custom, like "hey, you're one of my best friends. Honor me by being a bridesmaid, and by the way, it will cost you several hundred dollars probably." LOL

[DizzyDesii]

If the bride is buying her own dress and shoes why can't they? If they can't afford it, they can sit on the side with the other guests. Heck most of the brides are paying for the wedding, everyones food and their own ring. You can't depend on parents or the dude to buy that stuff

[loveslongnails]

@DizzyDesii On the other hand, why "should" they buy their own stuff if they're being accorded the "honor" of being a bridesmaid, especially if the bride knows it would be a hardship on them? I don't know what folks you do who are getting married where the bride is buying her own ring?

I'm not the guy to ask about this because I think the whole wedding thing is just a money grabbing scam in the first place. All those thousands and thousands of dollars could get the couple started on a home. If you have wealthy parents and they can foot the whole bill without blinking, that's another story. Then it becomes "their" party as well. Anyway, that's my 2 cents. LOL

PS> I was asked to be a best man at my friends wedding and he didn't require any special tuxedos or anything costly, just show up in a suit. The money I didn't have to spend on that rental went to him and his wife as a larger gift - a far better use of dollars in my opinion.

[DizzyDesii]

Im not materialistic but with whatever i do but, i have expensive taste. The people i hang with either have their own money or i’d buy their stuff on occasion if they didn't. If they can't afford a dress then they didn't need to be in the wedding

[loveslongnails]

@DizzyDesii You both agree with and kinda miss my point all at once, but thanks for the reply. Your position is clear.

[BCRanger10]

Congratulations!

And this is just my personal opinion, one maid of honor and five bridesmaids is okay, but that's probably where you should cut it off. I used to work in menswear and tux rentals for weddings were always a nightmare.

[DizzyDesii]

There was a time i wouldve had over 10. Now i wouldn't want anyone behind me despite still having about 4 options. I dont trust those hoes. They’d be lucky to even be a guest at the wedding

[DizzyDesii]

27 dresses movie had way too many bridesmaids.

[DizzyDesii]

[t_time]

Fair enough haha. All mine would be sisters and cousins. Then My 2 best friends

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i think you have a good amount. Initially mine wouldve been my sis, my 2 female cousins, my 2 female friends, and then the guy i was with at the time agreed to let my 3 best friend guys stand on his side. But a lot has happened and now i can't stand any of my now former friends nor my now ex lol. So yea I’ll happily stand alone with whoever my future groom will be as long as my mom, sis and grandparents are there to witness it. I still want a nice outdoor ceremony and a tented reception. But my wedding is just small now. I used to have 176 guests on my side alone. I've cut off a lot of people and have less than 20 on my side now

[spartan55]

I'm thinking a Las Vegas wedding would be perfect for you (when that day comes)

[DizzyDesii]

@spartan55 thats where i was supposed to marry in 2019... i’d likely do florida panhandle now

[_Just_A_girl_]

yep.

[TrueConfection]

Congratulations on your engagement!!!

12 (total) is a larger bridal party to me, but I think it will be lovely and definitely will not be too many.

[KittyKat90210]

No, that's not too many. It's your wedding, you should do it however you want. And congratulations! :)

[matchrestore]

5 is getting to be too much. If you've got a lot of sisters, its more acceptable to have more.

[pewter_moon]

Congratulations!! Do what you want within your means. And be happy! This is a great time in your life.

[wittymilf]

Congrats! And yeah 5 is too many! Even 4 is a handful

[weysally]

the number is what you want, its your day, do what you want

[WellGreetingsISay]

Doesn't sound like too many to me! You and your partner are in charge, so however many you want to have.

[Danny_dan92]

Congratulations!!! Mm honestly you can have as many as you want. From what I’ve seen, I’ve seen women have 2-8 typically they select their bridesmaids from sister’s and friends

[aoihewgf]

When the groom has to start having groomsmen he wouldn't have chosen but had to so there could be equal number of bridesmaids to groomsmen

[Anonymous]

It is your wedding. Only matters to you and the groom and whoever is footing the bill.

[shortster]

8. 5 plus the maid of honor isn't out of the ordinary.

[dinojames22]

I do not have am opinion. Just reading this for fun

[QuietRunner]

sounds like a good number

no more than 8

[jamesgoldman]

Well my parents ended up with 17

[exitseven]

Seems OK with me. Congratulations

[Jamie05rhs]

Congratulations, T-time! 😀🥰