What is your take on arranged marriages?

[Daniii101]

What are the advantages and disadvantages? What are some good and bad experiences people have had?

[Guy13]

great idea to input parent wisdom and knowledge into process.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If someone arranged a marriage for me with a perfect match. I'd take it.

If its not a perfect match, I'm not interested.

[ShiftingMonke]

I personally object to the idea, on the grounds that they seem to start earlier on in life than what I would consider ideal; our brains aren't done growing until 26 or so, so that's a lot of room to turn into a person drastically different than when they were a teenager. Speaking as someone who married at 18. I also think it's shirking of responsibility; if it's arranged, you lose out on the trial and error process of dating and figuring out who people are versus who they pretend to be. And if the marriage ends up bad, then you will likely feel deceived and dejected as you've been let down by those close to you. It just seems like a bad idea. Not to mention the roots of using people as property and contractual obligations, which I also find barbaric. Consent matters, and I don't think a 16 year old can truly consent to much anything that will alter the rest of their life forever. Sometimes arranged marriages work, sometimes they don't, but its certainly not a risk I'd even consider imposing on my children. They will love whoever they wish.

[Wise4myage]

Arranged marriages are barbaric and should be illegal in every country.

[Jamie05rhs]

I do not agree with that practice.

[LemiaOfThunder]

Not really but welcome back