Never been a fan of them
I'm aware that not all arranged marriages are forced, but there is a lot of pressure on both the sides to make a decision. In many conservative families, even the "courtship" period is not there. I think South Asian parents should respect their child's decision on whether they want arranged marriages or not.
Why does it even exist? I thought the "caste" system was abolished in India? Unless it is for "upholding" familial "status", arranged marriages are largely unnecessary. The only reason they are successful is because divorce is stigmatized in South Asian cultures. It is frowned upon and well, couples are mechanical and are just married to satisfy their families. Are most of them even in love on their wedding day?
It's perfectly fine for those who want arranged marriages or unsuccessful in the dating arena, but other than that, I don't like the idea of pressurizing them into marrying someone the family wants.
We don't know what goes behind closed doors, but I guess a lot of those couples put on a "happily married for over (enter the number of years)" farce
Then again, many people enter into an arranged marriage with low expectations, but those "partner shocks" are still there. You don't know the true colors of your partner until you've married them which is also a huge con.. so besides satisfying your conservative family's wishes, I don't really see any pros here.
The core concept of arranged marriages is similar to blind dates, but rooted in deep racism and casteism which I abhor. Besides, sexual compatibility also plays a huge role. How would they know if their partner is sexually compatible with them? Sex spices up marriage and is essential for a healthy one.
Arranged marriages are simply not suitable for most, in this day and age.
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I really believe only me who can recognize if this person really fits me sexually, physically, financially, emotionally not beased on my parents' tastes , because they have undergone different experience, we have different body , diff sexual mechanism, etc. I dint believe , love will follow if friends have lived togwther although no feeling at first. Thats totally weird. Maybe some women can feel that as they are emotional based humans but me as a tomboy girl, i really knows who i want since we meet for the 1st time, no one can give you conclusion when you have put a period at the beginning. You are the masterpiece of your own not your own parents
Very risky but sometimes I feel like it saves a lot of trouble. 'test driving a car before you buy it' and stuff like that creates lot of confusion among people who want to enjoy their lives yet expect to get married/escalate to something serious.
Getting too close in relationships without marriage have many a times resulted in divorces. Dunno what's the specific reason behind it but it has happened a lot.
Lastly, relationships, even the most serious ones are always open to end without work like divorce. Makes people think it's easier to be in a relationship and leave than marry and divorce in case you don't get along too well. As good as it might be but it also leads partners to leave each other on very smallest mistakes/matters of incompatibility.
But then again, these are just my thoughts and what I learnt. I still don't think arrange marriage could work for me but I don't think it's as bad as people make it.
Here in the US, arranged marriages are NOT common at all. I've known people from other cultures where it is common. But really don't see any reason for it. I don't see any real happiness in it. From the looks of it, it is just fulfilling the desires of the parents on each side, without regard to how the man and woman feel about each other. There are exceptions, but they are rare. Overall I see it as an unhappy arrangement.
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I've given up on love marriage after having my heart broken. Arranged marriage is my only option. Its only bad if its forced. Its ok as long as its myself being introduced to my potential spouse and getting to know her and ultimately deciding if we wish to go ahead it with. Obvs my parents want the best me. Its just an ordeal I'll have to go through. If we vibe, we vibe. Simple as that.
Might work for awkward people, one less thing for them to try to solve. It's really about the attitude you enter a relationship that tells how good it will be.
I volunteer in a women's shelter we get a lot of girls fleeing arranged marraiges or from being forced into an arranged marraige usually to a cousin.
Call it by what it is, Forced Marriages. And of course I don't agree with them.
Yes, this is how things are there. Why don’t you get to a Western location? What’s your skill set?
Seemed to work society was better. And women didn't complain about can't find a good man.
I think they can work sometimes, but the vast majority of time they do not work very well
I don't like at all love is better we can understand eachother at good level.
In India, Pakistan and Arab countries, the arranged marriage is considered most successful, and it is true also
Arrangement marriages are wrong. I also know a person must respect the costumes of the country.
Well... If you're gonna have your life ruined you may at least chose who gets to wreck it.
In mine country we have mostly Arranged Marriages
All marriages are detestable, in my opinion
Sometimes its good, usually it isn't
The concept is disgusting.
I've seen more arranged divorces!
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