What do you think about arranged marriages? Could you do it?

[Simslover92]

What do you think about arranged marriages? Could you do an arranged marriage set up by parents or through skilled matchmakers or relationship experts like on Married at First Sight?

[HawkPerception]

I used to hate the idea of it. Someone choosing my partner for me? I have no say in who it is? That idea has been disgusting in my head for so long. But when you look at nowadays divorce rates and girls that decide they don't want a man in their life, it changes your perspective.

People nowadays feel like if any little negative things happens in a relationship, they're out. And that's because they know they can be with someone else at the swipe of their finger. The attention spans are so low due to social media and dating apps. You swipe up, down, left, and right if the first 2 seconds don't captivate you.

Back in the day, men only had to compete with one Joe a city away. Now because of dating apps and social media and all the attention seeking girls posting their daily life every day, we have to compete with every Joe named Joe in the area.

Arranged marriage, while not ideal, at least set you up to expect your future and know who you're spending the rest of life with. Relationships aren't perfect. There are going to be many bumps along the way and many things you learn about your partner that you dislike. But throwing in the towel from one punch is ridiculous and that seems to be the mentality everyone has nowadays.

So my opinion has definitely changed and I'm not completely against itbut I still don't like the idea of it.

[MrOracle]

People have this idea that "arranged marriages" meant that you have no input on it. I'm sure there are examples of that being true, but it's not the norm. Rather, the norm is that parents would get together and thoroughly vet the other family, including the proposed couple, and if they were satisfied that their morals, values, and life-goals were aligned, they would set up dates for the couple to get to know each other, with the intention of marriage. The potential couple had much more grounded and realistic expectations about marriage than the "Disney Princess" fantasy that's currently common in the west that has little foundation in reality, and so arranged marriages tend to be FAR more successful overall compared to the western counterpart.

I'm not necessarily saying that arranged marriages are how things should be, but you'll have a hard time arguing about a 72% success rate (married until death) compared to, say, the US, where that's only 26% today (and that's only counting the ones who actually married, and ignores the huge population that never did).

[Candi0000]

I don't believe in arranged marriages honestly. I could not go through with it. Many gals I know went through arranged marriages that were forced. They never divorced because that would make the parents feel horrible. I have no problem with being introduced to say a guy that is looking for something leading to marriage but not an arranged nor forced marriage. Arranged marriages are often I find done in many Middle Eastern and Asian cultures. But I feel they are less and less done now in the West by people with those origins as the new generation won't accept that.

[Justneedtokno]

Honestly, I don’t think I minded at this point in life I think when I was younger, I thought my parents were going to do that. No idea how the world really worked but I was also a kid and I probably prefer married at first sight versus Love 🖤 love is blind because you’re building a connection with someone but they could be building a connection with somebody else versus this person is specifically chosen for you and you’re working to figure out what makes this for you

[Simslover92]

I prefer married at first sight over Love is Blind myself for the exact same reason.

[Justneedtokno]

Yes, not that I’m territorial but sometimes what is for me? Seems nice or sweeter. And it’s also being on the same level or Playing field

[Justneedtokno]

Plus the couple that you chose was the worst example just saying they are not that great.

[Anonymous]

When I was younger I would have said no. But based on the choices society makes in the western world and the results we've ended up with maybe there's something to that.🤣 I mean as long as it's not done from a point purely of consolidating wealth and assets. The people who love you and care about you would probably be pretty good at determining who is a good match for you.

And since I pretty much don't want to date ANY woman anymore. At this point picking one at random is probably about as good as trying to find a match.🤣 I just mean if I marry at this point I can't see it being for love anymore anyways.

[Lliam]

I wouldn't marry someone unless I knew we were compatible, including sexually compatible.

Besides parents who arrange marriages usually choose mates based on money and/or status. They may want what's best for their child, but a child has to grow up sooner or later and decide for themselves what they want in life.

I wouldn't have accepted an arranged marriage. I wasn't my parents, wasn't tied to their apron strings, and made my own decisions, regardless of what they wanted.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

I would never want to have my marriage arranged for me.

But on the other hand, I live in America. Everyone picks his/her own spouse in America, and the divorce rate is sky-high.

I think most of us aren't very good at choosing who we should marry. Arranged marriages probably wouldn't be any better, but I doubt it would be a whole lot worse.

[Anonymous]

I’m 38 and I want a family and it seems no man is interested in me by this time I’m so sad I would probably accept an arranged marriage if it guaranteed I’d have a family. I want babies and love I’m scared to lose the opportunity.. as long as it’s not a wife beater I don’t want a horrible life. I want to fall in love and have a family.

[Babygirl_S]

Never! The only version I'm okay with is people suggesting me matches and then dating those guys to find who is right for me. This is what most urban people do in my country right now. Gone are the days when parents used to decide who was going to be your life partner.

[Serkee]

An arranged marriage? Absolutely not. Would I date someone my parents wanted me to meet? I might give it a try. But the moment anyone tries to pressure me into anything, I'm out.

[hellothere90]

Sure. I also believe in courtship. I will meet the guys suggested to me. We will get to know each other for a period of 3 to 6 months to see if we are compatible but there isn't going to be any physical intimacy.

[sirderpsalot123]

Terrible idea. You can't just marry anyone and expect it to work.

[Simslover92]

That's true. I'm for getting to know someone first before heading into a marriage.

[sirderpsalot123]

Arranged marriages are also kind of werid. I know they aren't all forced and they can say no, but it's just weird lol

[Simslover92]

Lol true it is

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

If I don't like the guy, I couldn't. ☹️ Maybe if I learn to love the person in time.

[PapaJedi]

maybe you can learn to love me someday

[DishLady]

Nope. I've seen it work, and I've also seen it backfire really badly, so I would never personally partake.

[ProbablyClueless]

I've had really unpleasant dating experiences. It seems like doing things for love's sake doesn't work.

Arranged marriages sound nice, in theory

[slatyb]

No thanks. Very few other people understand me, and they would no doubt suggest women that are completely unsuitable.

[Agape93]

Fuck no. If I'm going to fuck up my life, then I'm going to be the one who decides can fuck it up.

[Jerre]

Not a chance in the world I would ever do that.

[Simslover92]

Me either.

[Jerre]

Good for you! What are you looking for in a man?

[Simslover92]

I already have my guy. He's awesome.

[Jerre]

Good for you!

[Anonymous]

I could do it. Provided she ticks all the right boxes.

[CriticalCatDad123]

I would never go through with it. I’d feel like a slave to whatever woman was being arranged to me. I’d make her life a living hell on purpose

[TonyMetal___86]

In the end it's you who accepts the person or not and it's tour decision if you will accept to continue or not...
I don't see where's the problem if it's an arranged marriage!

[Bklynbadboy12]

Hell no! If I'm gonna be with someone for the rest of my life it's gonna be the person that I want

[Simslover92]

Agreed.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Smart girl can you imagine someone picking the man the your supposed to spend the rest of you life with

[Simslover92]

No I can't. That would just be really weird.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I agree

[soe11]

• Yes and No
• Yes, arranging marriage is ok with mutual consent and consultation.
• No, with blindfold and blindly.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Seriously stupid.

Parents aren't going to be the ones stuck with a person they most likely don't even like nor find attractive.

[LiamJHayden]

I dislike the idea because I believe in personal liberty.

[jack1924]

It is a disaster, but some places people there have no other option

[dolemite58]

It’s really sad treating a marriage like a business arrangement

[handsomelad70]

H**L NO !!! Imagine if despite my cover boy good looks, my parents had (because I'm black) tried to set me up with some fugly black broad? EEEEEEWWWWWWW!!!

[Nikki1989]

Pure Fruit-Loopery.

[patois]

You must be crazy.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I definitely wouldn't be able to do it.

[Pupweb]

Absolutely not

[sheikalana]

I could do it.

[laly520]

doesn't seem like good idea

[NathanDavis]

not my thing

[CubaPirate]

Not for me thanks

[msc545]

They are very weird.

[Anonymous]

This is not done in the west.

[Simslover92]

Well except it is on that TV show Married at First Sight.

[EmmaMary]

Absolutely no way... Thank you.

[WhitneySnow]

Not my thing

[bowenw]

Not for me.

[Iron_Man]

No chance

[jahaims]

Primitive

[NetherlandsNar]

Nevet

[BLP11520]

Oh heck no😂

[straightmax12]

Hell no.

[eagle1951]

no way

[itsclearlynicholas]

Hmmm 😏🤔