Is this still true for marriage today?

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If so, then why do most people ignore it?

Keyboardkat · Accepted Answer

Yes! My amazing wife and I have been married 51 years. We got engaged three weeks after meeting each other. And we have NO common interests! But what we DO have is common values, common faith, and complete devotion and care for one another. I know she'll always be there for me, and she knows I'll always be there for her, when the going gets rough. How? Because we've proven it to each other. Have I been attracted to other women at times? Yes, of course. But I am able to make the judgement that what I'd risk losing (including my own self-respect, and the respect of others, including my children) would absolutely NOT be worth the short-term pleasure I might get out of such an adventure! I want to be able to look in the mirror ten years from now and like the person I see! THAT's worth a whole lot! We're both in it for the long haul!

See, love is a conscious choice. It is a choice that says, "I choose you today, and I will continue to choose you in the future when neither of us is so attractive anymore." Love has to be backed up by more than just "feelings," because feelings are changeable and fickle. If it's based on nothing but feelings, you can feel one way today and another way tomorrow. How then can you trust yourself? How then could anyone trust you when you say those three little words? Maybe they won't mean anything a month from now!

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

I do agree with that. One major thing I don’t think I could get over is sexual cheating.

But I absolutely agree!!! You number one have to find the right person. Because you definitely don’t want to be with someone who makes you absolutely miserable.

But when you do find that special someone whose perfect. They’re NOT perfect and neither are you… The relationship won't always be perfect either.

Thanks

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I think the marriage quality depends on the morals and work ethic of the married couple. My aunt has an amazing marriage because she is intelligent and hard working and genuinely loves my uncle and my uncle is an honest man that does not cheat and loves his kids. My grandma had an amazing marriage because she was very very strict with her kids and maintained order at home, and my grandpa was a compassionate man who had clear priorities and boundaries so he was never mistreated by anybody in his family.

Emiliamazing · Accepted Answer

This is beautiful :-) thank you for asking this question! I believe it's the truth🥰. Some thing that I might add, is the ability to show the world your happiness, even in the face of a struggle :-)

AviatorTom · Answer

Marriage is hard. The attached text is still true today. FYI, my then-wife and I made it through 20+ years of marriage before an amicable divorce.

AimeeKyle · Answer

Happy, married couples…. it is still very true.

Two groups that don’t follow that advice:

Bitter, mean married couples just hanging on because that’s what you agreed to / are supposed to do….

And the married couples that ignore each other as much as possible to coexist. They too will stick it out in hopes one of them drops dead sooner than them.

SnowedIn · Answer

This is 100% true. 100000% more like.

They don't because that stuff is HARD. It takes work. Every day. Every minute. Gigantically rewarding and wonderful but it's work.

It's also not instant. It's not a heart on the last message. It's not a checkmark that it was read.

Also, life is hard. Hard enough without what marriage requires.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Yes it is true in my marriage. We've been together for almost 30 years.

Luopio27 · Answer

can't speak for others, but sounds like you gave the secret of long lasting love.

Daniela1982 · Answer

I agree, which is why I am not married yet. :(

clampfan101 · Answer

Always has and will be true. Why so many people ignore it is also something I’d like to know.

Sixgunsound · Answer

As true now as it always has been and will be.

najekim · Answer

Sounds about right. Married 25 years.

MuskratLove · Answer

Not even close.

Cubus · Answer

It's true

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