What should men do if they are seeking a young wife with purity that that will clean and cook, and modern women are not willing to be and do that?

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I will be that kind of wife, but I'm an exception. Therefore, even if a man finds one, a lot of other men will be competing for her. In the USA a man seeking a wife, doesn't get purity. He doesn't get a wife that will cook, clean, and homeschool their children. And, he doesn't get a wife that will remain faithful if he loses his job and she believes she can do better.

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

You overrate the "pure" wife and underrate the modern wife.

First, the competent modern man also knows how to cook and clean because he was smart enough to live on his own and learn to survive with these skills. Furthermore, the men who can or will do these things are more attractive to pretty much all women because this means it is not all a burden on her.

But, also, the competent modern man isn't stupid with money and he knows to find a partner who isn't stupid with money either. He wants a secondary income to keep the family going just in case one of them loses a job. (*)

And that's what I did... I took my wife who was making minimum wage with a high school diploma and, together, she's now making over $100,000/year as a IT manager in a Fortune 500 company. So, if I lose my job (which happens because I am a contractor), her income is available and since I will have free time compared to her, I can do more cooking, cleaning, and shopping.

>>> It's a partnership which is as it should be.

(*) In engineering, there is a term called "single point of failure" or a "1-o-o-1 aka 1-out-of-1 failure". That means if this one component in a system fails, then the whole system fails. For example, suppose you are flying on a jet. Be happy that jet has at least two engines because engines do fail in flight, but a plane can remain aloft because of the second or more engines. If a plane has only one engine and it fails, that plane isn't going to be flying much more. When an engine in a single-engine plane fails, that's a "single point of failure" and, in the case of airplanes, will result in disaster.

Well, it's no different in a "traditional marriage"; if the husband loses his job and the wife earns no income. His loss of a job is a single point of failure. The system - that is, the family operating normally - fails. Operating normally means having the income for food, shelter, utilities, medical bills, etc.,... all the things that you need to buy to survive in the modern world.

So, the smart competent modern man understands this and so he is happy to find a competent modern woman so, together, the family can survive tough times.

Berethor · Accepted Answer

Virgins are more valued in Asia, so there more Virgins there, yea not easy to find a Tradwife.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Just letting you know that I absolutely had no idea what I was talking about when I was discussing marriage at that age. You don't know what kind of wife you would be unless you actually marry.

There's a woman on the internet who talked about how she will be the perfect housewife, gave fashion advice that spoke of not wearing frumpy clothing like sweatpants and instead wear clothes that flatter your feminine figure, and told everyone prior to having kids that she will not be the lazy slouchy mother and continue to maintain the house, dress well and attend to her husband. But after having kids now she is also wearing sweatshirts and cargo pants and all your clothing that she herself advised against, now that pregnancy has affected the appearance of her body, she regularly shares her breakdowns over having difficulty with looking after her kids and has pretty much learned the hard way that other moms aren't being "lazy".

You're overrating the fantasy of 1950's housewives when women had to rely on drugs to deal with their misery. Perhaps you should give modern women more credit than they deserve.

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

They should be the type on man a woman like that would desire.

BeMuse · Answer

I couldn’t tell you. I don’t know anyone that is actually looking for that in real life. Every guy I know expects women to pull their own weight in a world of rapid inflation regardless of how much he personally earns. That means you have a job that covers your costs and a bit more. That means you know how to cook and do it willingly at least half the week. That means you clean up regularly. That means you help him out when he’s doing weekend projects to fix up the house or whatever when he needs a helping hand. That means you take care of children. And guess what, you still have to stay faithful, be respectful, etc. Too much for you? Well that’s the world many of us live in. The median American worker is bringing home roughly $54K a year. To own an average home they need $80K cash on hand saved up and $80K a year in household earnings. This means an average American can not afford to even have a house, let alone have a housewife. Their wife needs to at least earn that extra $26K a year to have a pot to piss in and that’s before they can think about having children together. Even men that are earning $150K+ a year don’t want a women that just sits around the house. With rapid and maybe hyper inflation costs are always on the rise making the future very uncertain for most people. You have to be able to juggle life these days. Men are doing the same... If you want to stay home, then build a career that allows you to work remotely. That's really the easiest way to meet life's challenges and still be able to spend some time with your children at home.

Sleeper07 · Answer

As a 14 year old girl, you shouldn't really be too concerned with this because it's just a thing men should worry about.

But since you asked, the answer is simple, if you want a prudish wife, go to the places they are. Typically these places are impoverished and don't have too much access to social medial or radical beliefs.

It's not entirely healthy to subscribe to religious ideas of "purity" because there's no such thing considering we are all sexual in nature. Sex is a natural part of life, and trying to be excessively strict about it can lead to a sexually frustrating life.

Also, men have to masturbate, if we don't then we get wet dreams. And obviously when we masturbate we are thinking about having sex with someone.

That doesn't mean go out there and have sex with the planet, there are consequences for doing this, moreso towards your mental health and how you will see the right partner.

Again you're young and a girl, don't worry too much about this.

4ngelic · Answer

most guys dont want that, its only a specific kind of guy that wants that (a lot of them aren't the types of dudes youd ever want to do anything with and shouldn't). guys just want normal girls who aren't sluts but not trad wife virgins.

to answer the question if a dude wants that type of girl he got to look for girls in really religious circles, girls from very conservative backgrounds/origins or go to more conservative poor countries to find girls like that

if you go these stuff from tiktok/youtube, besides do yourself a favor and please stop watching cringe ass incels. most of the stuff they say is bs. by the way lots of the grown dudes who think stuff like that are pedos, strong overlap watch out

Msputiton · Answer

Look for one, or be single. Can't make a woman be something she don't want to, just to satisfy his preference.

Lionman95 · Answer

Change their standard or change their attitude towards women in a way that instead they don't have sex with every woman they go. Platforms like cam sex or onlyfans only work because there are guys willing to pay for it. So more women think it's a good way to get validation and money.
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Tstrbrainer · Answer

First, they should grow upto be a man who's worth a good spouse.

By the way, when you are an educated, skillful person, it's always better for yourself and your family and the society that you do something productive, that will help you earn income and add value to everyone around you

PointTaken · Answer

Very good question. Can I just watch to learn from replies? Sounds like a lovely woman.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Every marriage/relationship family is different. Grow a little more. Learn to live with another person. Cooking cleaning are the small things.

Taylor_C · Answer

Prepare to spend the rest of your life alone.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Why can't the woman be pure and the guy cook and clean? They're just chores people?

ElGato31 · Answer

If you are really 14, I would like to see you in 4 years time. Yes. I am cynical.

MementoMori777 · Answer

But to be fair, men aren't behaving too different from this either, I'm speaking about the loyalty part

DrawingBlanks · Answer

Hire a maid and go to hookers I guess. Or look overseas. What other options are there? Modern western women have become so lazy and entitled that there aren't many options for young guys.

OddBeMe · Answer

It used to be easier before Chris Hanson. That bastard.

Marked_Man · Answer

So many sluts coming on here raging about being a modern women lol.

DWornock · Answer

They need to marry a girl in her late teens and hope she is not a lying slut.

Stevefiveo · Answer

I found one in America but I'd probably have better chances going to a foreign country.

Anonymous · Answer

Please marry me! In this life and in the next 1000

genericname85 · Answer

Well not get with a woman they don't want.

Jennz6 · Answer

That’s not what I do

Pterodon · Answer

That isn’t true

Anonymous · Answer

Be prepared to wait a long, long time.

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