Would you marry someone who is physically unable to have sex (due to a disability)?

[Anonymous]

[cryscrys1]

Yes and no and maybe
Yes - if I met a men and get married but somehow something tragic happens I will stay.. it’s was destiny for a reason.
No - if I’m looking for a date and I chose someone unable.
Maybe.. I say maybe because well nothing is written in stones our hearts can change. Love is like water fluid and synchronization between hearts.. if something about him touches me and I can relate well fuck sex then. Even animals do it nothing special about it if you compare it that our souls walk in this earth temporarily.. we die and never be back in infinity ~~sex is nothing compare to making a soul feel love in this shitty picnic called life. If you remove the f life because an lie anyways ❤️

[Anonymous]

This is tough.

I have an older friend who married just for companionship and he said he only had sex with his wife once before they got married. But they have been married for 20 years now and never had sex. He’s all screwed up and kicked a long time porn addiction but he feels like he’s living in a constant slow grind nightmare.

However there might be medical issues that make people not want (or can’t) have vaginal sex. But there are workarounds for all of that.

I dunno. Personally I have a very deep grudge against a few women earlier in my life who I treated with chivalry/respect only to be treated like complete shit in the friendzone. That’s not the same as being married with no sex obviously. But I have to know a woman respects me if we have a platonic relationship and I’ve never truly had that experience. But again I know this is a different dynamic.

[DiegoO]

Sorry, I had enough with not having a sexual life. I can't imagine going down the same road. Although, you should review what you call sex. Sex is not only vaginal and anal. Sex can be oral. People with disabilities still have the drive and many have a sexual life.

[TenderFantasy]

Is he sterile? Is he having you know "Problems" down there? Was his Weiner chopped off? ? !

I may... if like @cryscrys1 said, it probably happend AFTER the marriage, but before? I mean, I wouldn't purposely be looking for someone who couldn't fullfill a desire of mine, especially if it was really important for me. An important quality. This is usually important when you're young though, but as you get older, like me, and stress, trauma, dwindling hormones, slimming prospects take underway/effect, then...

[Avicenna]

Nope, but she and I can be friends

[Babybunnygirlygirl]

So me and my partner have been struggling with vaginismus for the last year.

I was a virgin when we met so we really didn’t expect that to happen. We had already gotten engaged when we decided to have sex and it wouldn’t work.

We’re walking down the isle this summer and not for one split second has he doubted us, so yeah some people would and we are making slow progress.

Might also be worth mentioning, but his body count is in double digits and he would get laid this second if he wanted to but some people just value love over anything

[MaddyAsks]

Yes but no. Please let me explain. Love does not know disabilities. If we were already together and he was disabled due to some tragedy that occurred like a car accident then yes. But I would not go seeking that type of relationship, because I want kids, I want to be a mother. Unfortunately that does work well in those situations.

[OfMiceandMen]

She could still speak right? If she can talk and carry on a conversation then why not...

Especially, If I loved her already. They would have to be okay with me going elsewhere to satisfy my urges, but I would still love them and take care of them. Maybe get a friends with benefits situation to satisfy those urges, but my day to day life would be taking her places and spending time together.

[Thatpearl26]

I wouldn’t marry them from the fact that they have a disability. Now don’t take that sentence the wrong way but I know that taking care of people with disabilities can be very mentally straining. I don’t want my mental health to deteriorate while trying to love that person.

[DarkLegacy]

But what if you never had to take care of them. A lot of people with disabilities can take care of themselves

[Thatpearl26]

@DarkLegacy Well if that’s the case then most likely yes. I don’t see a problem with marrying a disabled person as long as they have no problem with me adopting.

[Mac-One]

@Thatpearl26 If you developed a condition where sex became painful or impossible for you would you want him to stop loving you?

[Thatpearl26]

@Mac-One No, my point is that I know it can be a struggle to take care of disabled people if it also affects their behavior. For example when I was in middle school I would volunteer after school to help disabled kids. During the times that I stay after school I would witness the pain that some families go through and I don’t know if I could bear the pain that comes with trying to love and take care of someone’s who is mentally and physically disabled. Although this question is pretty tricky because they didn’t specify which kind of disabled. This question can be interpreted many ways.

[FifiJones]

As in, had sex reassignment surgery and lost their natural nerve endings? Such a person cannot orgasm (if you call orgasm marriage). They can, at most, be befriended.

It is strange how people think sex can be reassigned without causing infertilitt and massive damage to nervous system.

They watch too many movies and medical companies keep quiet about it all being a knife that cuts and missing body parts (like in a severe accident).

[WonderBell99]

No. I would like to be intimate with my husband.

[Anonymous]

It would be hard, honestly. I know sex isn’t everything but I like it being part of my relationship and I like that it is a shared experience- we don’t seek other people for this.
If I really loved the person I’m sure I could figure something out. But part of me would be a little disappointed.
if my current SO and I married and he became disabled to this degree somehow, I would stay with him and be loyal. I can go solo but I like having a sex life too.

[Raaj4you]

No, I can't marry a girl who has any health issues or who is infected with any diseases. I have high sex drive, I can't spend my life with a girl who has low sex drive or has problem with her sex organ. I am interested in a girl who is interested in making our own babies.

[Raaj4you]

*If something happens to her later after the wedding. Then I will be with her. I just can't runaway.

[Kaneki05]

Shockingly I can love without sex unlike some people who don't know what love is. So yeah I am fine with this. Needing sex to love someone is truly a sad thought.

[Anonymous]

I would. If the woman is unable to have sex she can still perform oral on her partner. A man unable to have sex can still perform oral on his partner. You can work around the problem. If there's no sex there are other ways to show love and affection.🙂

[Gent207-2]

No and if roles were reversed I'd considered options to kill my sex drive because that sounds like litteral hell

[Amy10223]

Probably not, but that's never happened to me, so really, I may or may not. I'm leaning on "no".

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I don't know. Sex isn't an important thing to me, I haven't had it in roughly eleven years, but Id wonder what disability this is. A wheelchair bound partner maybe difficult due to my inability to drive as I can have a seizure at any time.

[happyfoetus]

Yes- Falling in love involves heart and I want to be with someone with a good heart.

No- If he is a bad person

[mark000h]

No. Making love is an important part of being in love and marriage.

[Sour-rose]

Depends... can they put up with my dumbass? If so, yes.

[DizzyDesii]

If it happened after marriage, i’d stay married. But if before, im not staying

[Berethor]

You want a brutal honesty? the answer is no, what the point in being in sexless relationship?

[jshm2]

No. Stop breeding disabilities and Americans

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Disability ain’t something to breed. One can always adopt!