Would you marry someone who is physically unable to have sex (due to a disability)?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This is tough.

I have an older friend who married just for companionship and he said he only had sex with his wife once before they got married. But they have been married for 20 years now and never had sex. He’s all screwed up and kicked a long time porn addiction but he feels like he’s living in a constant slow grind nightmare.

However there might be medical issues that make people not want (or can’t) have vaginal sex. But there are workarounds for all of that.

I dunno. Personally I have a very deep grudge against a few women earlier in my life who I treated with chivalry/respect only to be treated like complete shit in the friendzone. That’s not the same as being married with no sex obviously. But I have to know a woman respects me if we have a platonic relationship and I’ve never truly had that experience. But again I know this is a different dynamic.

DiegoO · Accepted Answer

Sorry, I had enough with not having a sexual life. I can't imagine going down the same road. Although, you should review what you call sex. Sex is not only vaginal and anal. Sex can be oral. People with disabilities still have the drive and many have a sexual life.

cryscrys1 · Accepted Answer

Yes and no and maybe
Yes - if I met a men and get married but somehow something tragic happens I will stay.. it’s was destiny for a reason.
No - if I’m looking for a date and I chose someone unable.
Maybe.. I say maybe because well nothing is written in stones our hearts can change. Love is like water fluid and synchronization between hearts.. if something about him touches me and I can relate well fuck sex then. Even animals do it nothing special about it if you compare it that our souls walk in this earth temporarily.. we die and never be back in infinity ~~sex is nothing compare to making a soul feel love in this shitty picnic called life. If you remove the f life because an lie anyways ❤️

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

Is he sterile? Is he having you know "Problems" down there? Was his Weiner chopped off? ? !

I may... if like @cryscrys1 said, it probably happend AFTER the marriage, but before? I mean, I wouldn't purposely be looking for someone who couldn't fullfill a desire of mine, especially if it was really important for me. An important quality. This is usually important when you're young though, but as you get older, like me, and stress, trauma, dwindling hormones, slimming prospects take underway/effect, then...

Avicenna · Answer

Nope, but she and I can be friends

Babybunnygirlygirl · Answer

So me and my partner have been struggling with vaginismus for the last year.

I was a virgin when we met so we really didn’t expect that to happen. We had already gotten engaged when we decided to have sex and it wouldn’t work.

We’re walking down the isle this summer and not for one split second has he doubted us, so yeah some people would and we are making slow progress.

Might also be worth mentioning, but his body count is in double digits and he would get laid this second if he wanted to but some people just value love over anything

MaddyAsks · Answer

Yes but no. Please let me explain. Love does not know disabilities. If we were already together and he was disabled due to some tragedy that occurred like a car accident then yes. But I would not go seeking that type of relationship, because I want kids, I want to be a mother. Unfortunately that does work well in those situations.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

She could still speak right? If she can talk and carry on a conversation then why not...

Especially, If I loved her already. They would have to be okay with me going elsewhere to satisfy my urges, but I would still love them and take care of them. Maybe get a friends with benefits situation to satisfy those urges, but my day to day life would be taking her places and spending time together.

Thatpearl26 · Answer

I wouldn’t marry them from the fact that they have a disability. Now don’t take that sentence the wrong way but I know that taking care of people with disabilities can be very mentally straining. I don’t want my mental health to deteriorate while trying to love that person.

FifiJones · Answer

As in, had sex reassignment surgery and lost their natural nerve endings? Such a person cannot orgasm (if you call orgasm marriage). They can, at most, be befriended.

It is strange how people think sex can be reassigned without causing infertilitt and massive damage to nervous system.

They watch too many movies and medical companies keep quiet about it all being a knife that cuts and missing body parts (like in a severe accident).

WonderBell99 · Answer

No. I would like to be intimate with my husband.

Anonymous · Answer

It would be hard, honestly. I know sex isn’t everything but I like it being part of my relationship and I like that it is a shared experience- we don’t seek other people for this.
If I really loved the person I’m sure I could figure something out. But part of me would be a little disappointed.
if my current SO and I married and he became disabled to this degree somehow, I would stay with him and be loyal. I can go solo but I like having a sex life too.

Raaj4you · Answer

No, I can't marry a girl who has any health issues or who is infected with any diseases. I have high sex drive, I can't spend my life with a girl who has low sex drive or has problem with her sex organ. I am interested in a girl who is interested in making our own babies.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Shockingly I can love without sex unlike some people who don't know what love is. So yeah I am fine with this. Needing sex to love someone is truly a sad thought.

Mitchikko16 · Answer

I mean we could always find a way to pleasure each other. i mean my spouse would have to be like burn to a crisp. with no mouth and nothing below the waist and even then i can still find ways

Anonymous · Answer

I would. If the woman is unable to have sex she can still perform oral on her partner. A man unable to have sex can still perform oral on his partner. You can work around the problem. If there's no sex there are other ways to show love and affection.🙂

Gent207-2 · Answer

No and if roles were reversed I'd considered options to kill my sex drive because that sounds like litteral hell

Amy10223 · Answer

Probably not, but that's never happened to me, so really, I may or may not. I'm leaning on "no".

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I don't know. Sex isn't an important thing to me, I haven't had it in roughly eleven years, but Id wonder what disability this is. A wheelchair bound partner maybe difficult due to my inability to drive as I can have a seizure at any time.

mark000h · Answer

No. Making love is an important part of being in love and marriage.

Sour-rose · Answer

Depends... can they put up with my dumbass? If so, yes.

DizzyDesii · Answer

If it happened after marriage, i’d stay married. But if before, im not staying

Berethor · Answer

You want a brutal honesty? the answer is no, what the point in being in sexless relationship?

happyfoetus · Answer

Yes- Falling in love involves heart and I want to be with someone with a good heart. No- If he is a bad person

jshm2 · Answer

No. Stop breeding disabilities and Americans

DermalPunch · Answer

No, I couldn't. But there is someone out there for such a person.

MsElizabeth96 · Answer

No because I want to have children. Apart from that I'd consider it, I don't really care about sex that much

Pete671 · Answer

Yes of course if I loved them, I'd just masturbate in their presence, and jizz all over their body,,,

Jazzy54 · Answer

No. I’d have to be able to make love with my husband.

cth96190 · Answer

No, because a marriage without sex and children is without purpose.

LovingJo · Answer

Depends if they were able to use their tongue and fingers. 💯

Borden365 · Answer

If It were true love (unsure if that's even a real thing ) absolutely. My one and only mind blowing intimacy experience was with a person I never had sex with. Sex is like a piece of salt when it comes to what marriage is about.

Anonymous · Answer

There are only a few disabilities that don’t allow you to have sex. I imagine someone would know already that their partner has a severe disability and that, at least, it’s possible they’re unable to have sex.

Juxtapose · Answer

If she doesn't even have strength to give a handjob then she has so many problems that I don't think I can help her

ColHathi · Answer

Absolutely. Insane that this is even a question.

Pohjolan · Answer

That would mean that they are disabled to the extent that they can't even use their mouth. Pass.

David4358 · Answer

No if you can't have sex then all would could be is friends

LiamJHayden · Answer

I'm not as good of a person as Ken Tada, so no.

Valso · Answer

No. We wouldn't have a relationship, let alone getting married.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Yes. I would still say no to sex, unless they’re sterile. We can always adopt for children!

OfDeath · Answer

No. Not to offend people with such a disability but I need action from time to time.

Anonymous · Answer

If she's cool with me having sex with other girls, why not? If she can source hot ones for me even better!

Greenbins · Answer

Unfortunately no.. I would probably end up cheating on them.

Blues36 · Answer

Sadece cinsel ilişki, sarılmak, öpmek, okşamak olmayacak mı?

EmmaMary · Answer

No, absolutely not.

supercutebutt · Answer

Like a broken snatch?

tesniolite · Answer

Yess I could live without it

slatyb · Answer

No, I wouldn't.

siseñor · Answer

Yeah that's pretty cool 🆒

fonduegirl · Answer

I won't marry a disabled person. Sorry.

Dargil · Answer

My complex answer... No.

exitseven · Answer

I would say no.

BrookeS · Answer

Of course, i have hands

Anonymous · Answer

They're probably still better in bed than I am

Anonymous · Answer

No, I couldn't do it.

Luopio27 · Answer

Im too shallow piece of shit for real love.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I guess this is aimed at women.

In_Trance · Answer

What kind of disability?

WolfDM · Answer

Hell to the NO! What would they be good for?

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. I’m not sexual, so that would be great

misogynistic_pig · Answer

No. .

Agape93 · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

BIG, NO!

Aphrodite801 · Answer

Never

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