Would you date a man/woman with a disability?

[Anonymous]

Be honest but would you ever date and or sleep with a man or woman with a disability

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Wow well first Thanks for all the opinions some was great some very harsh and I hope some of you would feel different on your view about people with disabilities if it was a brother, sister, a family member or a kid of yours but Thank you everyone for all the comments

[jean_A]

I really wouldn't mind. The disability is just a part of the person. It's just as important as any other character trait they have.

[tysthename]

Yes, I'd date a woman with a disability

[LilytheHorcrux]

yes, why would i not?

[Asker]

I agree with you

[lemonsaresosour]

what if it was a mental disability? (eg mild autism which isn’t obvious at all, slight down syndrome, bipolar etc)

[LilytheHorcrux]

@lemonsaresosour If I genuinely loved them, I don't think mental disabilities would matter

[lemonsaresosour]

hm that’s true i agree with you!

[lemonsaresosour]

@LilytheHorcrux

[JellyDonutguy96]

@lemonsaresosour don't compare autism to down syndrome

down syndrome people are embarrassing and complete failures

[Ellie-V]

I would

[JellyDonutguy96]

you would date an autistic man

seriously

[Ellie-V]

I don’t see why not, as long as the person learns how to not be an asshole. Unfortunately, there are a lot of high functioning autistic people who still behave as jerks. But no one is perfect. If they’re willing to learn I’m willing to be patient

[JellyDonutguy96]

yeah but other jerks can get dates

[Ellie-V]

Being a jerk means that only stupid and insecure girls are willing to degrade themselves to be with you.
Being a jerk is not a compliment on your part.
But hey, if sad insecure girls are your type... more power to ya bro

[JellyDonutguy96]

they're not though

I'd rather it be genuine and real

[JellyDonutguy96]

I'd rather be the genuine boyfriend to her

[Logorithim]

It really depends on what her disability is. I like doing a lot of outdoor activities and traveling, and that is difficult with some disabilities.

I talked to a 35 year old woman earlier this year when I was looking for a girlfriend who had some medical issues and it was abundantly clear that she would not be able to go hiking or do travel that involved a significant amount of walking, so I knew it wouldn't work (I'm not the Kind of guy who can sit on a couch and play games all day).

Here's an exception: if a girlfriend became disabled after I started dating her, I would not leave her because of the disability because that would be messed up.

[OlderAndWiser]

Every woman I ever dated had a disability, and none of then were physical! But. . . I suspect that many girls would say that every guy they ever dated was disabled, but not physically disabled.

All of us have disabilities, flaws, failures shortcomings etc. A good relationship is one on which you love your partner so much that you are willing to tolerate and live with their flaws, and they feel the same way about you.

[Anonymous]

I mean it really depends on what it is? I really have to be put into that situation I guess. I think that as long as they're similar to me mentally and we can hold a conversation then I really wouldn't care what it is that they have and I would try to help them in any way possible so that we can have a happy and healthy relationship. When it comes to physical disabilities, I don't think that's much of a problem as long as they have an amazing personality and they're a good person because I think that's so much more important than looks or any disability.

[ShortCircuit]

My answer is going to match 99% of the respondents: "depends on the disability". What else did you expect?

I'll attempt to give my response a bit more value though...
As long as the disability meets the following standards, it is not a deal-breaker:
- is non-terminal
- does not interfere with communication
- does not interfere with having sex
- does not negatively impact appearance
- does not cause chronic behavior that would negatively impact the relationship (such as clinical depression, bipolarity, autism, etc.)

[JellyDonutguy96]

how would autism negatively affect a relationship,
I mean they have ugly faces but how would it still harm it?

[ShortCircuit]

@JellyDonutguy96 Sorry, I should've specified: *severe* autism. In the context of a romantic relationship, autistic people--by definition--are ill-equipped to express their emotions (which is obviously very important). If its manifestation was mild, I could perhaps tolerate it, but I would rather avoid unnecessary responsibility. Also, as far as I know, autism has no effect on physical appearance, so I don't know where you got that idea.

[JellyDonutguy96]

what about high functioning autism though,
does it have the same ill effect

[ShortCircuit]

@JellyDonutguy96 High functioning is what I meant by "severe", so yes, it has the effect I was referring to.

[JellyDonutguy96]

that's not severe though

people who are high functioning can be in relationships and can learn to express themselves emotionally

learn the difference
www.verywellhealth.com/high-and-low-functioning-autism-260599

[JellyDonutguy96]

so basically they're going to unloved because normal people want to discriminate?

[ShortCircuit]

@JellyDonutguy96 Look, like I said, I don't care what the disability is as long as the behavior doesn't interfere with the relationship. If you claim that high-functioning autism doesn't do so, then fine. I only included examples to give people an idea of what I meant.

[JellyDonutguy96]

yeah I understand man

people with down syndrome clog up the support networks
I hate those with down syndrome if anything

[Dragonz1]

@JellyDonutguy96

That's really harsh to say you hate people with downs syndrome. Many of them are extremely sweet and innocent.

[JellyDonutguy96]

@Dragonz1 yeah but they'll still never get a relationship though

[Dragonz1]

@JellyDonutguy96

I'm sure they meet a lot of others with downs. You should do the same if you have problems with autism, find a girl with it.

[JellyDonutguy96]

@Dragonz1 everyone with autism is ugly

and are yo assuming things about me?

[JellyDonutguy96]

@Dragonz1 don't put autism and downs in the same sentence

[Dragonz1]

@JellyDonutguy96

I'll do what I want.

I didn't assume anything.

[JellyDonutguy96]

@Dragonz1 first of all downs people are more embarrassing than autists are

and people with downs clog up all the support networks they're not developmentally disabled they are a genetic malfunction

[Bribree18]

Definitely depends. I mean, this hits home because I have a disability, Epilepsy. So, I hope nobody is saying no to something like that because that is ridiculous. With my disability I’m not confined or restrained, sure I have some extra obstacles but other than that I’m peachy. But, I wouldn’t date somebody who is special needs or something.

[JellyDonutguy96]

why not you're just like them

what kind of normal guy is going to want someone who's epileptic

[JellyDonutguy96]

you are special needs though

[MaryAnn210]

I dated a guy in a wheelchair... It was pretty normal, i mean we couldnt go anywhere but besides that it was normal love

[gowtham12]

That's sweet of you

[MaryAnn210]

Thanks! But is not big deal... He was like any other guy. Actually better cause he was sweet and mature

[gowtham12]

Cool.. Is it relationship or more like casual dates

[MaryAnn210]

Oh no... We were serious but we broke up long ago

[gowtham12]

Oh ok.. What is the reason for breakup can I know if u don't mind I like to hear it

[MaryAnn210]

Sure... I had to move to Spain so we lost touch

[gowtham12]

OK yeah that happens when people occupied to work

[MaryAnn210]

Yeah... We tried long distance relationship but it does not work at all

[gowtham12]

Yeah I had LDR but it doesn't work really

[MaryAnn210]

Totally

[MaryAnn210]

It ends with someone cheating

[gowtham12]

In my case I was constantly rude to her so she gave me a twist lol

[MaryAnn210]

Jajajaja! Nope... I cheated on him. It was my fault

[gowtham12]

Lol ok. I appreciate your confession

[MaryAnn210]

He didn't tho jajajaja!

[MaryAnn210]

Why where u rude to her?

[gowtham12]

She doesn't listen to me sometimes.. She acts stupid. She confused herself and confuses me

[MaryAnn210]

Yeah... I know the feeling

[MaryAnn210]

Thats the problem with LDR

[gowtham12]

Yes and one more thing she was influenced by bunch of Muslims in facebook and she is secretly following Islam but she is Christian by birth.. Her parents didn't know about it... Her life is really in danger really

[MaryAnn210]

Omg! Thats a lot of drama... It sounds like a movie or something

[gowtham12]

Yeah she is in this site.. You know what now no one can change her including her Muslim friends cuz she stucked up in religion

[MaryAnn210]

Poor girl! Well im sorry for her and you too... Sounds like a very complicate matter

[gowtham12]

Yes thanks

[MaryAnn210]

Anytime... I Like to talk!

[gowtham12]

Cool. Can u follow me so we can talk

[MaryAnn210]

Sure!

[gowtham12]

Ok cool

[karabird]

Yes of course. I actually met a guy a few months ago who was quadreplegic and I was very attracted to him. Heart of pure gold, incredibly intelligent and handsome :)

[Moonchild714]

Depends on the Disability. Confined to a wheelchair, no I wouldn't date a man confined to a wheelchair. Nor would I date someone who already has an Illness that will get progressively worse to debilitating them.

[Drener]

If my boyfriend became disabled I would never ever leave him...

[MusicMayhem]

I have before but wouldn't do it again. They didn't get hit on much so were insecure about not being good enough; needed constant reassurance that I liked them so their neediness got annoying and I ended it after 2 months.

[Burgerboy21]

As much as I truly want to say yes, I have to be honest and say it depends on the disability.
Luckily my disability goes only as far as one-sided deafness so I feel it doesn't affect me in the dating world.

[MiladyQueen1313]

Probably yes, but it depends. If they are autistic and I feel like I'm babysitting a five year old all the time probably no but other than that I probably wouldn't mind

[JellyDonutguy96]

not all autists are like that though

and yes those types of autists should be alone
they're just a burden on everyone else

[JellyDonutguy96]

so does autistic mean ugly to you?

[MiladyQueen1313]

Not at all

[JellyDonutguy96]

down syndrome is worse than autism though

[JellyDonutguy96]

I think down syndrome people should be banned from relationships

they're way to happy all the time

[MiladyQueen1313]

I've never really dealt with people who have a disability in which they don't really act like normal people. At most I've dealt with the rare drooling kid at my school. As long as they can function with a clear head and can be understood clearly and they could understand me, I wouldn't have any problems dating someone who had a disability

[JellyDonutguy96]

you don't want to they're fucking embarrassing and smell like crap

[JellyDonutguy96]

why put him through school if he's a drooler
he's obviously is going to make nothing out of his life

[ummmcourtney18]

If I was single of course they're no different than anyone else. Unless they csnt use their dick or a dildo i need dick.

[heartsteala]

Depends on the disability. Physical, yes. Mental , no

[JellyDonutguy96]

why not mental though

they're people who want love also

[JellyDonutguy96]

but everyone should just deny them because they have a mental disability,

[heartsteala]

If its minor maybe. But if I'll have to look after them no

[JellyDonutguy96]

some mentally disabled guys can look after themselves

does everyone just assume they're all manchild's

[heartsteala]

If they're no and can hold a convocation no problem

[JellyDonutguy96]

are you retarded or something?

it's conversation, not convocation

[heartsteala]

IDC if he can converse he's fine by me

[JellyDonutguy96]

love is an emotion though

but communication fuels it

[heartsteala]

Exactly

[trick1988]

I have before. Would date a women with a disability agin if we hit it off.

[ROCKS128]

Sometimes depends.
But straight i would say no.
If my partner becomes disabled then i may not leave her.

[DakotaNorth]

I have a disability and use a Walker. Date me. I'm also s cougar.

[Dragonz1]

It depends on the disability and if we would be compatible in life.

[JellyDonutguy96]

there's nothing lovable about them

they can all drool in a group home together
keep the filth confined to their own cage

[Glasses]

Yes he's cute and we have stuff in common