Why should men be the head of the household?

[Anonymous]

Why the man get the final say? Why he gets to spank me as punnishment and not me?

My ex was religious and he would be the ruler i dont like that.

Men should be the head of household (EXPLAN please)

Women should be the head of the household (EXPLAIN please)

It should be equal

Updates

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If men are the head of the household does that mean his value is higher than mine?

[MementoMori777]

thats how it should be, cause the man is the stronger vessel, i know it sounds fucked up but its the truth and im not here to argue, just stating my opinion, im not saying women aren't important, im not participating in ego games trust me, i just believe the man should not only be the head of the house but he should protect the woman while the woman plays the part of supporting the man which is importsnt because for example a woman can help a man keep a level head and look at it this way, if the head of the house is fucked up then the whole things falls apart so if the woman has the power to support the man and help him keep a leveled head then her part is important, a man needs a woman and the woman needs a man, its just how the human design was created, we need each other, its like peanut butter and jelly, both seperately is alright and function but both together completes the sandwich.

[Asker]

The sandwish thing was funny😅

What do you mean by the stronger vessel? Like the man is physically stronger? Yeah sure but why the man gets to make the final say. Is there a reason behind the man doing it all?

[MementoMori777]

you do know support i dont just mean as keeping him level headed, there's many parts a woman plays and making decisions is one of them dont think that its that simple where the guy just does whatever he wants cause in a healthy marriage the guy should speak to his woman about the decisions because a woman can make points and women change mens minds all the time, its all about making the right decisons for the relationship and marriage and family so it thrives, not about who makes the decisions, the guy is the one thats suppose to act on the decisions but they aren't suppose to exclude their woman out of them, and yes they are phsyically stronger but lets speak about designs of the minds of the two genders, every heard of people say women react more on emotions and guys react more with their thoughts, well there's partial truth to that, women are more emotional, but thats because god design them that way because reacting with emotion can be very important, same with reacting with thought and these two sets of thinking together thrive, which thats why its important for a man to have a woman and a woman to have a man, the importance is equal but the positions are different.

[Asker]

Yeah that makes more sense.. but men can be emotional too.

What is your opinion on punnishment in marrige then?

[MementoMori777]

men can be emotional of course, they have feelings but they have better control of them and its why you see many men suppress them, which they shouldn't and thats another form of support a woman plays, emotional support, they shouldn't suppress them but a woman can help them through them, like i said, many forms of support that a woman has 😆

and for the punishment, thats just not thing, it shouldn't be, that all just seems more of feeding a fantasy or lustful thought, whoever this guy was, was hiding behind the religion card, in Christianity you dont punish a woman, its just not a thing

[Asker]

Alright that makes a lot of sense I like that more.

Thats good! Weird tho I've heard Christians say pastors have recomemded it for people in marrige. You are Christian?

[MementoMori777]

no thats a false preacher and a false prophet if they are spanking their woman, now if the woman is into this sexually and the guy is fullfilling a desire of hers willingly from both of them i guess what they do behind closed doors is their thing but no in Christianity the christians dont punish or spank their woman, thats some nonsense, and yes im Christian, a real one lol

[Asker]

My ex was muslim. But yeah that sounds better! A lot better..!

[MementoMori777]

yea i heard about islam, there's several things that rub me off wrong, the privilege they give the guy over then woman is insane and unbelievable to me, i could never agree with it, cause i dont believe an all loving god would do that, i heard a muslim man can marry a Christian woman but a muslim woman can only marry a muslim man, not only that, men can also have up to 4 wives if im not mistaken and women can only be married to one man, it just all seems unfair and someone else told me that apparently all women go to hell, that doesn't show loving at all in my opinion, christianity sounds like the truth to me and thats the loving god i know and love 🙂🙏

[Asker]

Yeah Islam has a lot of issues... I dont want anything to do with it. Im closest tp Christianity anyways.

But really all women go to hell in Islam? That doesn't make any sense

[MementoMori777]

thats what i heard and it doesn't make sense to me either, so women are disposable? nah my mind can't make sense of that now a woman being created for a man makes for sense to me 😂

[MementoMori777]

-for

[Asker]

"Muhammad ibn Jarir al-Tabari mentions that all righteous women, however old and decayed they may have been on earth, will be resurrected as virginal maidens and will, like their male counterparts, remain eternally young in paradise."😂

Who the fuck wants to be a Maid? Live your whole life a perfect way just to become someone maid

[Asker]

Yeah am glad Christians aren't like that😂

I am closest to Christianity but I still believe in science. Like men come from women cause of the XX and XY chromosome.. I still believe in big bang. And that we all come from monkeys. But I believe in Jesus and God and so on.. its confusing

[MementoMori777]

im sayin smh, it makes no sense, also i think they believe when they die that in heaven there will be a bunch of virgins or something like that, what? so its sinful to have sex down here with random virgin women but up there you get a bunch of virgin women, i dont get it, now feeling nothing by happiness, no sinful urges sounds more like it, fruits that aren't on earth and changes on the trees everyday, sounds good 😂

[MementoMori777]

Christianity doesn't bash on science by the way, science bashes on Christianity, science is explanations for whats already there, it didn't create anything, actually thanks to god giving people brains and intelligence, people discovered and created science lol

[Asker]

Yeah I agree. It makes no sense. Men get 72 virgin maids😂 sounds like some sexist incell came up with.

How do you view christinaity? Do you believe everything in the bible or you still believe in science?

I'm not good at reading a whole book... I want too but I started getting daily bible quotes on my phone as a start..

[MementoMori777]

i believe science can be wrong because it has been many times before but i dont not believe in science, or at least a lot of it

[Asker]

Okay so then Adam and Eve and women being made from mans rib is all not true?

[Asker]

Alright I understand

[MementoMori777]

no thats all true, i believe us evolving from monkeys being false actually lol

[MementoMori777]

if it was like that then monkeys wouldn't exist cause they would all be humans lol

[Asker]

Agree to disagree:)

[MementoMori777]

for sure anon lol

[Asker]

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[Asker]

Why you changed your profile pic😭 i had a little stupid crush on you lol. It was better before..

[MementoMori777]

you dont like the spotlight bitmoji picture? 😂😂

[Asker]

... your face was better😌

[MementoMori777]

thanks anon, ill change it back in a big 😆

[MementoMori777]

bit*

[Asker]

Cool👍🏻

[Asker]

yayy! Thank u!

[MementoMori777]

np 😂

[Asker]

hehe😌👌

[Asker]

Please check update

[MementoMori777]

you know the answer to that, obviously not lol

[Asker]

ok..

[OfMiceandMen]

I think it's important to share the head of the household position. It's nice to hand the crown off to someone and take a break.

I often pass the crown off to my daughter, so she can learn to make good sound decisions.

[Asker]

Sounds like a wise man!

[OfMiceandMen]

Thanks, my mom taught me well.😊

[Asker]

Yesss😊👌🏻

[Asker]

Please check update

[OfMiceandMen]

As per update: I believe in equality, you make decisions together and share the responsibilities, two heads making decisions is often better than one. The money you make is all one pot that pays the bills and the rest is for savings, etc.

[Asker]

nice!

[LazerBean]

In a perfect relationship, a household where the man takes on all the responsibility of the families success is going to run more smoothly because adequate men view things with logic more often. That only applies to good men, which there aren't many of anymore. In reality most men aren't fit to be married or lead a household because they don't want to take responsibility for any failure that occurs.

[Asker]

This!!!

[Anonymous]

They shouldn't. Two mature adults discuss and compromise and come to a decision when they disagree. The idea that the man has to be in charge is archaic. The men often want to cling to this imaginary power they think they're entitled to though. In reality, they just like the idea of having a slave and calling her a wife so it doesn't sound so bad.

[Asker]

Yeah I somewhat agree!

[ColHathi]

"Why he gets to spank me as punnishment and not me?" - You know, you're right! The girl should spank herself as punishment. Why do I have to do it? I'm not the one being punished.

[Asker]

Excuse me?

[ColHathi]

Sorry, bad joke I guess ^^ I know what you meant, but it sounded like you thought it should be you who got to spank you as punishment.

[Asker]

Oh okay haha... so you dont agree with spanking your wife?

[Asker]

And being the ruler of the household and so on?

[ColHathi]

No, not at all ^^ I voted for it to be equal. I don't believe in corporal punishment either (at least not outside of the bedroom).

Though if both the guy and the girl want one person taking the lead, I don't see a problem with that either.

[Asker]

Okay I got that

[Billlewis]

I'm a firm believer that a woman should always be in complete charge in a relationship with a guy. This is my opinion only.

[Asker]

Oh😎👀

[Billlewis]

Women tend not to be as egotistical as men and when they're also in control of their sexual relationship with their husbands or boyfriends, there seem to be fewer problems and uncertainties.

[Asker]

Oh okay.. I see

[Anonymous]

Because many women choose it. You don't want then don't choose it. But keep in mind if you want equality you got to take the bad as well with the good. You don't to conveniently say "but I'm a girl" when life gets too hard.

[Asker]

Okay. And what situations could that be?

[alearningboy]

Im a submissive boy my girlfriend does the financials and plannings in our relationship. Ofcourse she asks me but she loves to have the latest say. She knows also whats in house and not.

[Asker]

i see

[alearningboy]

I love this kind of relationship.

[Asker]

Am glad you have it!

[alearningboy]

Thank you😊

[Asker]

🙂👍🏻👍🏻

[alearningboy]

Do you like boys that listen to the girlfriend or wife. I hear a lot from people.

[Asker]

Nah I like equal

[Anonymous]

Ideally it should be equal.

[Asker]

Agree

[gothbxtch]

they shouldn’t