Not necessarily, though society puts pressure for a man to be the head of the household. Like in school my wife took care of me during my last year, I cleaned, cooked, taught her to cook, set up our finances so we could start saving for a house then, and have a joint account for that.
After graduation that dynamic stayed about the same with me working odd jobs for a couple years until I made use of my degree, and got back to being the "earner" my last job was very corrupt, and just plain awful, fast forward to now and the corona stuff, daycare is closed, I've had to turn down better jobs than what my wife has because who knows how long they would last? She likes her job, it pays the bills, I'm the housewife right now.
It takes some communication and getting over yourself to truly accept that dynamic as a guy. Or at least it did for me.
Nope nopey nope. MY husband went through a stage where he would have the final say on things and it made me worthless and unimportant like my opinion did not matter. We work together now and it's 100% better.
There is no reason why men should always be head of the household. A woman could be head of the household. But a healthy relationship has no hierarchy. Why should one person be the boss of someone else? I don't know why anyone would put up with such crap. It's not a relationship when one person thinks they are superior to the other. In a healthy relationship, people share duties and responsibilities, they respect and care of each other, they have conversations, see each other as having equal intellect and value.
In a relationship and by extension marriage both partners will lead depending on the responsibility and activity. Its only logical because each person has different things they are good at and different life experiences to be able to better lead depending on the task at hand.
This becomes more important as the relationship matures because once they become parents they become role models for their kids. Raising children and showing both strong feminine and masculine roles and the harmony between them is key to them growing up with a healthy respect for everyone they will encounter in life. If instead the children were raised in an abusive house where the husband ārules by fearā over his wife the children will learn thatās normal and it will negatively affect their future relationships with men and women.
Traditional roles work best in my opinion. The man should make investment decisions, car safety decisions, insurance, car maintenance costs etc. Women should make the child care decisions, color choices/decorating, childrenās school and child care etc.
Both have say on each but the ones responsible make the final call, almost always with everyoneās concurrence. Other choices such as vacation destinations are joint or who ever has the best idea that year. Each should listen to each other no matter what though.
This has worked for millennium, only the Millennials will screw it up for themselves. Live and learn you unhappy generation.
I think a man should be the head. Usually in 50/50 relationships, one of them ends up taking over, and it's the woman since her voice is the loudest. I like the idea of gender roles because everyone knew their place and what to do. This 50/50 thing just makes things complicated. Also, even in a two-parent households, deadbeat dads can exist and if you don't have a strong father, the kids can become degenerate. If the mom is always intervening, since she still has that nurturing side of her, she's more sympathetic and doesn't like when the dad puts his foot down, disciplining the kids will be a nightmare.
It's better for the state of the relationship in terms of happiness for the man to be a strong leader, end of story. Most failures men face in relationships is a failure to lead.
If a woman feels as if her man isn't a strong leader or questions whether or not he has her best interests in mind there will be a lot of bickering and questioning of his authority as a leader.
Men want to be supported in their decisions and respected. That respect basically is only conferred if she trusts your leadership. Women want a man to be the man and will not be fully happy otherwise, because now they HAVE TO take action where they don't want to.
I believe that gender roles are for insecure beings with little sense of purpose who need an instruction manual in order to feel complete and productive. Nothing wrong with that. So I feel that if two equally compatible people decide thatās what they need, then they should go after it. In that case, yes, the man should be the head of the household. When applied to other couples who are not insecure in that specific way, there is no one way they āshouldā exercise their relationship.
Officially, yes. However... I was raised upper-middle class. The men were predominately professionals or small business owners, whether dirty or clean hands. They worked long hours. Very often, the Soccer Mom minivan pilots ran the household with Dad's making "executive decisions", often from Mom's previously researched choices. The system required trust and dedication that is largely gone now.
As we got older, so did they and the Soccer Moms evolved into The Old Broads, in that same role, but there were more zeroes in those decisions and The Old Broads did high end entertaining as well as travel and second residence management and retirement planning. It is this exact system that built America out of the Depression into the most prosperous nation in human history. And after the 90's, we started pissing it away.
The man is always the head. It is his God-given duty. And nobody has the right to take it away unless he willingly gives it away. This is why men have lost their place in the world, and women who bare it all are more miserable.
I don't believe in such thing. The man and the woman are working as hard to have a roof over their heads. Who makes more!!! I don't care, we are equal, we are one. Who should be the head of the household? All the people that lives in that household.
I see several argument about how respect is important to men so men should lead. So all I see is they donāt respect women so canāt possibly understand respect is important to everyone.
and even still isnāt this question about efficacy not feelings 🤔
I prefer when men are the head of the household. In my family, my dad is the breadwinner but mom is basically the head of the household because my dad won't stand up to her, and that sucks. My family would be so much more functional if my dad was in charge and my mom was a little more meek and obedient. I am happy to not be the head of the household when I get married in the future.
yes a man should always be the head of the household for God made Adam first ! although God did make Eve for God realized that man needed a help mate so God made Eve ! the sad part seems to be that man thinks women are his slave and we will not be a man's slave any more ! for women can vote now ! thanks
besides , with men being the head of the house hold any bill that does not get paid is the mans fault and not the woman's ! maybe it would be better if the man brought in the money and the woman paid the bills and such to take the bill paying off of the mans mind ! thanks
I don't think there is a head of the household. despite the word. Any functional household I've seen has a functioning & real partnership with each deferring to the other in most decisions - or maybe that's only the way I think it's supposed to be & I'm wrong.
Not always. Infact even if he is a head , he is mostly like the company's chairman. He doesn't really run the show, the women do.
However both have their own special abilities. If my wife is a fiancnial adviser , oll listen to her about finance. If I am a chef, she should listen to me about how to cook.
nah, I don't think there needs to be one absolute 'head of the household'. I mean... assuming both parties are contributing financially and both parties have their own strengths/interests (like cooking, yardwork, decoration, financial things like dealing with bills and being comfortable with digital platforms to do so), it makes a lot of sense to share household duties and keep order in the house together.
Obviously not; what would single women and lesbians do? Traditional gender roles exist for a reason, and we as a species are genetically adapted to them. In practice, you'll often see married (heterosexual) couples adopt the traditional model (or something very similar to it). I say let people do what works for them.
Hell no. It's my house too and I'm an adult. It's a partnership, him having a penis is not a right to my say in the house I live in. We compromise and we deal with things toegther
Definitely not coming from a household were my dad believes what he says goes just because he's a man has made me have a the strong opinion but bouth parents to be held responsible when it comes to making decisions in the house hold. I've met to many people my age with useless dads (and mums) with self-destructive behaviours and i think it be better if the house hold decision would be made by both parents or the most responsible parent
Yes without a doubt. I'm speaking from experience and what I have seen so far. Women are manipulative, controlling and they posses zero empathy. When they're handed too much power or leadership to something they become psychopaths. I'm certain a few women are going to attack me for this but I don't care. It's just the truth so deal with it!
Having one head of household can be a partial decision for the other partner... The husband and wife should both be the head... Neither one of them should be given permission to take any decisions ont heir own... Any decisions should be discussed first and then must be acted on...
And yes, I think there should be a head. Flat hierarchies don't work particulary well. Not to mention that flat hierarches have some other issues with human sexual dimorphism.
Personally like to see a partnership as a Pilot/Co-Pilot thing. The Co-Pilot is as competent to handle things, but if there is a final decision it is on the Pilot having the fully responsibility.
If I'm married and have kids, I wouldn't want to teach my children (especially daughters) that I am the head of the house because I am a man. A marriage is a partnership. My wife and I have an equal responsibility when it comes to running the house. We are the heads of the household.
We have kids to look after. That's motherhood. A woman is always the head of the house. The man is the head of the family. Woman may have to quit her job to look after her kids but a man won't het pregnant and do that, but he will be a strong pillar , a protective one to support his family.
Regardless of what the person's actual gender is, I think that whichever partner is "masculine" partner, tends to be the one in charge. I know plenty of women who take charge in their relationships, but the men they are with tend to be submissive guys
Well the husband and wife should work together, but the husband (unless heās a deadbeat) gets the final say. It maybe to sexist but letās be real: a manās self-esteem is deeply tied into respect. If he lets himself feel emasculated then he will lower confidence and she will lose respect for him. The man has to at least FEEL like heās in control.
Yes the man always has to be in charge otherwise both the man and the woman will be miserable. I think men should only marry women they can lead rather than women they have to look up to. Most men are doing that I guess since professional women have such a small pool of eligible men.
The man should always the head of the house but there are time where a woman should be if her man ain't a real man and he just couldn't a head but can barely be a tail and that's where a woman takes his place, very similar to our current world where women wants to lead and are always glorified that they are better than men!
In reality they are bettee than males and not men because a real man always leads and the woman is very happy to follow...
That depends entirely on whos wearing the pants in the relationship... these little woke fuckers couldn't qualify for head of their safe space... if we hear glass break in the middle of the night.. Im not sending you down the hall to check it out... and im not gonna hide in the closet hoping the cops save us either... but what exactly is head of the house... im not trying to keep a hostage right... and anything that involves her is her choice right
Well in times of panic or hell breaking loose what do 90% of girls do? Either scream and wave their hands in the air like a mgic wand will save them or they go to the man and say "What do we do". So seems to me in the heat of the moment when instinct is the only thing there the woman herself says the man.
@VIVANT Oh I do actually never counted but at least 5000 and of those 5000 90% followed that pattern. Not 3 billion silly you see in science that's how we do that we get a drug test 100 people then 1000 people then 100,000 people etc etc and if 90% come back with the same result we then know for the 8 billion population that is the estimate we use guess you never did any math or science in school.
Iāve no interest in being head. As long as he respects me and doesnāt control and is loyal me I donāt care about the rest. I was raised by a woman single handedly so thatās pretty dysfunctional anyway.
All depends what the household is naturally comfortably with. In some the guys are, in some the gals are. With the wife and me, I make any major decisions with her input. Day-to-day stuff I give her the options and she decides which one to go with unless she comes up with a better option.
I think it depends on the couple and what works best for them but there should always be a balance of responsibility and respect for each other. I personally like the idea of looking to my husband as a leader.
In what I know of as traditional the man is the one to actually make the decisions for the household but only after discussing it with his wife and coming to agreement with her.
I would not accept a woman being in charge it's either me or a equal deal. I would never forfeit my opinion and freedom of choice. Neither would I expect her too.
Yes. Look throughout all of history. How did we get to where we are? With men being the face of the family. They dealt with the outside world while women raised the family. The second we stop doing that, the second we lose all the progress humanity has made over countless generations. You wonder why this world is so degenerate now? Because people, men and women, forgot their place.
Yes, when I get married, I see my future husband being the head of the household while I stay at home and take care of kids and eventually take up a part time job or try for a career.
Yes, a man should. It is the natural order. A woman will test a man constantly. If she becomes the dominant party, she will cease to be interested in him and look for another man.
If that's how the couple wants it. Otherwise in our household we are both the head. We are partners not one higher than the other. And it works that way for us.
Yes, man is a natural head of the household. Cooperation is fine, tolerance is good, compromise is sometime, but at the end of the day, the man is a leader in the house. So women should find a good leader for them and men should choose a good companion for them.
at least for me, yes I still hold the traditional view when it comes to this but opinions of others in the family still matter being head of the house does not mean he can to dictate everything
No... The house hold should be run by both husband and wife. If the man works more, the woman should make it a must to manage the household. And vice-versa.
In scotland, the woman is always head of the house even of the man is the breadwinner
It's just the way it is. not a bad thing I have great parents who I'd like to think did he best when raising me to know right from wrong and try to be nice to everyone no matter what
A man should be the head of his family, and the woman should be the heart of her family. Should. Doesn't mean they'll do a good job, but that is one of the ways men and women naturally complement each other.
Of course, as a married family man, I know all about being head of the household. But I want to make sure you understand what you're asking. So why don't you describe this role?
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