Not necessarily, though society puts pressure for a man to be the head of the household. Like in school my wife took care of me during my last year, I cleaned, cooked, taught her to cook, set up our finances so we could start saving for a house then, and have a joint account for that.
After graduation that dynamic stayed about the same with me working odd jobs for a couple years until I made use of my degree, and got back to being the "earner" my last job was very corrupt, and just plain awful, fast forward to now and the corona stuff, daycare is closed, I've had to turn down better jobs than what my wife has because who knows how long they would last? She likes her job, it pays the bills, I'm the housewife right now.
It takes some communication and getting over yourself to truly accept that dynamic as a guy. Or at least it did for me.
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The most functional household would be man is head of the house. Anything else is dysfunctional to some degree.
Kinda defeats the whole point of a partnership if one partner is superior to the other.
Noooooooooo.
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Nope nopey nope.
MY husband went through a stage where he would have the final say on things and it made me worthless and unimportant like my opinion did not matter.
We work together now and it's 100% better. - u
Only if that is what both partners want. I want a partner who will be an equal partner.
In the bedroom the man can be whatever he wants... and around the house too LOL
No. Couples can do what they want though.
Traditional roles work best in my opinion. The man should make investment decisions, car safety decisions, insurance, car maintenance costs etc. Women should make the child care decisions, color choices/decorating, childrenās school and child care etc.
Both have say on each but the ones responsible make the final call, almost always with everyoneās concurrence. Other choices such as vacation destinations are joint or who ever has the best idea that year. Each should listen to each other no matter what though.
This has worked for millennium, only the Millennials will screw it up for themselves. Live and learn you unhappy generation.I think a man should be the head. Usually in 50/50 relationships, one of them ends up taking over, and it's the woman since her voice is the loudest. I like the idea of gender roles because everyone knew their place and what to do. This 50/50 thing just makes things complicated. Also, even in a two-parent households, deadbeat dads can exist and if you don't have a strong father, the kids can become degenerate. If the mom is always intervening, since she still has that nurturing side of her, she's more sympathetic and doesn't like when the dad puts his foot down, disciplining the kids will be a nightmare.
There is no reason why men should always be head of the household. A woman could be head of the household.
But a healthy relationship has no hierarchy. Why should one person be the boss of someone else? I don't know why anyone would put up with such crap. It's not a relationship when one person thinks they are superior to the other. In a healthy relationship, people share duties and responsibilities, they respect and care of each other, they have conversations, see each other as having equal intellect and value.In a relationship and by extension marriage both partners will lead depending on the responsibility and activity. Its only logical because each person has different things they are good at and different life experiences to be able to better lead depending on the task at hand.
This becomes more important as the relationship matures because once they become parents they become role models for their kids. Raising children and showing both strong feminine and masculine roles and the harmony between them is key to them growing up with a healthy respect for everyone they will encounter in life. If instead the children were raised in an abusive house where the husband ārules by fearā over his wife the children will learn thatās normal and it will negatively affect their future relationships with men and women.Officially, yes. However...
I was raised upper-middle class. The men were predominately professionals or small business owners, whether dirty or clean hands. They worked long hours. Very often, the Soccer Mom minivan pilots ran the household with Dad's making "executive decisions", often from Mom's previously researched choices. The system required trust and dedication that is largely gone now.
As we got older, so did they and the Soccer Moms evolved into The Old Broads, in that same role, but there were more zeroes in those decisions and The Old Broads did high end entertaining as well as travel and second residence management and retirement planning. It is this exact system that built America out of the Depression into the most prosperous nation in human history. And after the 90's, we started pissing it away.It's better for the state of the relationship in terms of happiness for the man to be a strong leader, end of story. Most failures men face in relationships is a failure to lead.
If a woman feels as if her man isn't a strong leader or questions whether or not he has her best interests in mind there will be a lot of bickering and questioning of his authority as a leader.
Men want to be supported in their decisions and respected. That respect basically is only conferred if she trusts your leadership. Women want a man to be the man and will not be fully happy otherwise, because now they HAVE TO take action where they don't want to.I believe that gender roles are for insecure beings with little sense of purpose who need an instruction manual in order to feel complete and productive.
Nothing wrong with that. So I feel that if two equally compatible people decide thatās what they need, then they should go after it. In that case, yes, the man should be the head of the household.
When applied to other couples who are not insecure in that specific way, there is no one way they āshouldā exercise their relationship.The man is always the head. It is his God-given duty. And nobody has the right to take it away unless he willingly gives it away. This is why men have lost their place in the world, and women who bare it all are more miserable.
I see several argument about how respect is important to men so men should lead. So all I see is they donāt respect women so canāt possibly understand respect is important to everyone.
and even still isnāt this question about efficacy not feelings 🤔I don't believe in such thing. The man and the woman are working as hard to have a roof over their heads. Who makes more!!! I don't care, we are equal, we are one.
Who should be the head of the household? All the people that lives in that household.I prefer when men are the head of the household. In my family, my dad is the breadwinner but mom is basically the head of the household because my dad won't stand up to her, and that sucks. My family would be so much more functional if my dad was in charge and my mom was a little more meek and obedient. I am happy to not be the head of the household when I get married in the future.
yes a man should always be the head of the household for God made Adam first ! although God did make Eve for God realized that man needed a help mate so God made Eve ! the sad part seems to be that man thinks women are his slave and we will not be a man's slave any more ! for women can vote now ! thanks
Not always.
Infact even if he is a head , he is mostly like the company's chairman.
He doesn't really run the show, the women do.
However both have their own special abilities. If my wife is a fiancnial adviser , oll listen to her about finance.
If I am a chef, she should listen to me about how to cook.nah, I don't think there needs to be one absolute 'head of the household'. I mean... assuming both parties are contributing financially and both parties have their own strengths/interests (like cooking, yardwork, decoration, financial things like dealing with bills and being comfortable with digital platforms to do so), it makes a lot of sense to share household duties and keep order in the house together.
Obviously not; what would single women and lesbians do? Traditional gender roles exist for a reason, and we as a species are genetically adapted to them. In practice, you'll often see married (heterosexual) couples adopt the traditional model (or something very similar to it). I say let people do what works for them.
Hell no. It's my house too and I'm an adult. It's a partnership, him having a penis is not a right to my say in the house I live in. We compromise and we deal with things toegther
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