Should I marry Chinese or Lebanese?

[Anonymous]

I love both races, and both looks, I love the small cute Asian eyes but i also love the Arab blonde with green eyes but the problem is that I love those 2 races equally as much so please help me decide which 1 to marry

[CalmUntilAbused]

Forgive me if I'm wrong, but as far as I remember what I was told by one of my Friends, I think Islam makes the choice a little easier for You by providing You with hierarchical guidelines. I think it went on like this:

• Religion (other than Islam, Christianity and Judaism are also fine, and supposedly it works for both men and women, though it's supposedly considered better through tradition for a Muslim woman to only marry a Muslim man)
• Lineage
• Beauty
• Money

Though I'm not sure about the correct order of the last two. The fun thing is... It basically corresponds with my own, more private, less institutionalized hierarchy, with minor tweaks, mostly regarding some naming differences.

It's supposedly said that some people might put beauty first and it's fine, though life might get much harder (honestly, one look at the world at large will serve as a proof of the validity of this precaution), but since You are definitely conflicted here, there's another pretty obvious guideline in Your case that makes the decision an instantaneous one.

And if You want to stray a little from these rules... I guess just flip a coin, neither choice is a bad one, anyway. Just bear in ming that getting accepted by a Chinese family might prove to be a little harder.

[Gent207-2]

What use I'd their beauty when their personality is lousey or their values are incongruous with your own

[KatherineJ]

It’s not like deciding what to have for dinner. You are actually talking about another human being.

[Asker]

I know, but in Islam we have arranged marriage but I don’t want to choose 1 over the other and Islam allows 4 wives but I’m against polygamy please allow me to make up my mind

[KatherineJ]

You do you, but remember that actions and decisions have consequences, regardless of your beliefs.

[KostasKouvalis]

Marry the Chinese, because I want the Lebanese for myself