What is a need that you never knew you had until your love gave it to you?

[RoseySarah]

Mine is nightly but rubs and attention to my chest!

Mostly just snuggles need them every day!

Touch

Romantic words

Snuggles

Massages

Someone special always with me

Wonderful listener 😊

For the guys... Sex! Lots of good sex!

[BoopBoopBeep]

Rescue kittens. Never knew how important they were until my ex got one. When they said I was dying and i needed to focus on what was most important to me to try to keep fighting, I thought of when she wants me to play chase or fetch with her, and how she'll pout if I keep working or whatever. I thought how horrible it would be if daddy never chased her again.

My ex may have been a train wreck into a dumpster fire, but she taught me about rescue kittens, and for that I'll always owe her.

[RoseySarah]

Awww made me so sad 😭

Wish I added pets to the list! Ty

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Glad I read your opinion, I'm staring at our pup right now. Even if no one else cares if I'm home, she does :-)

[BoopBoopBeep]

She's a little black kitten. She was abandoned for being a runt. When she was found she was caked in feces, terrified, underweight and full of fleas. Now she walks around like she owns the place, which, if she outlasts me one day she will, as the house goes into a trust in her name with a stipend for her care. Black cats have a harder time being adopted in the U. S. The second one is a little white one who was raised by ducks on a farm after her mom abandoned her for being the runt. She waddles and quacks and follows me around, so I call her Little Duck. I would chew my way through a wall of rioting convicts for them.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Bless you for loving them. I don't know your health situation, but I hope they continue to help you through whatever ailments you are working out of.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@MiddleAgedClimbee Thanks buddy. Big part of my heart is dead. The rest has to work extra hard to make up for it. When I was in cardiac rehab the goal was to walk 100 feet without passing out. My brain wasn't getting enough blood. For somebody who has always been super active, that was humbling real fast. In any event, I told them that wasn't going to work for me, because my rescue kitten likes to be chased, and for more than 100 feet so we'd obviously need to shoot a little higher. 10 months after my heart attack I completed my first 5k (well... first after cardiac rehab... not "in life"). Now we're looking at 18 months after this all started. I do all my races carrying 32-40lbs. I've done thirty-four 5Ks, twelve 10Ks, three half marathons, one full marathon, a 20-miler and seven odd-distance races. I've got 8 more races this calendar year. In spring I'm going to Boston for the Tough Ruck and on to Indianapolis in May for a Mega Mini challenge (combo 5k then right into a half marathon). I have eight half marathons planned for 2024 and thirty 10Ks. There will be more, but it's too early to be able to register for all of them.

Every time it sucks I think of my rescue kittens. Every time it's hot/cold/wet and I don't want to get up, much less throw on all that weight and spend 3 hours plus in it, I think of them. Every time I hit a hill that just really sucks the motivation out of me, I think of them sitting by their favorite toy waiting on me to get home.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I had a whole bunch of people tell me I'd never be able to ruck again, much less in a half marathon. People who were supposed to be supportive. Mind you, my cardiologist has cleared all my races ahead of time, and he's the only one with veto power. They told me I'd never make the distance, I'd never "be ready" to do it with that much weight again, and I'd never be fast enough to make the cutoffs. The day I did my first half marathon nobody was there to cheer me on or welcome me over the finish line. I was just told "I'm not ready"... got a chuckle or two... was told I "didn't appreciate how much that was going to suck and I'd give up once I figured that out." F that noise. I finished my first half marathon, turned around and rucked back to the start, and that was my first experience with 26.2 miles. Did it suck? Hell yes it did. And I signed up for another one a week later just so I could ask all those people "if they thought it'd be harder this time around?" I had signed up for an ultramarathon just to spite my prior-marathon runner friends but bad weather curtailed it to 20 miles, so I've signed up for three of those as well. At least one should make it the full distance.

Am I slow? Yep. Was I slower before? Yep. Was I too slow to qualify for some of the races I've done? Sure was. Did I get faster so I COULD qualify? Yep. Every single time. And it sucked with every step sometimes. Did a few people along focus on that and brag about how their time was lower than mine? Yep, they sure did, until I reminded them "I was carrying 35lbs (or whatever I carried that race), how much did you carry?"

[BoopBoopBeep]

Guess who I don't talk to anymore. Gives me more time for my rescue kittens.

I say all this to say that no matter what happens to you in life, don't ever focus on what people tell you you can't do. Long before all of this I made a pretty successful career doing all the things for the government that people said I'd never be able to do. Never let those who talk about what you can't do stand in the way of you doing it, because those are the people standing in place and you'll pass them on the way to victory and won't hear their noise any more. What you WILL hear is a rescue kitten (or whatever version of that you have) saying "daddy chase me!" and you dig deep, as deep as you can, then you dig deeper and you say F all the noise that isn't "How to chase a rescue kitten" and you chase the shite out of 'em if that's what they want.

[DaveJord]

I think one day my ex-wife gave me a compliment... up until that moment I never realized how little she ever did and much I liked to hear it. But by then it was too little too late, even to this day I have a hard time just taking a compliment... guess I am traumatized. Voted Romantic words... really happens.

[RoseySarah]

It really is a need for guys too! So few do

[Kokoaquest]

Wonderful listener, I thought my ex used to listen to me but he was wasn't really. I realise that he was just listening to try and solve the problem. My boyfriend actually just hears me out and chips into the conversation to progress it, I hear him speak and it's just such a great flowing conversation. I didn't know what I was like to have someone listen to me properly.

[RoseySarah]

So needed my hubby tries to help but also knows when I need to vent just get it all out!

[Anemone978]

Snuggles and petting my head but he hasn't pet my head in years now it is kind of depressing..

[RoseySarah]

Well better remind him about it!
Head petting is weirdly amazing when done right!

[Anemone978]

Yes it is amazing.. and I have told him.. he used to do it when I was sad but I guess we are too much of enemies now he won't.. lol

[RoseySarah]

Enemies?
Poor thing here is a hug what happened?

[Yannae]

It's the cuddles, man. It's her love language and it's something I would never reach out for. But I like it, I'll admit. I come home and she's there. CUDDLE. Gaming session was rough? I can get up go to her, and she's there. Since it's something she already does to show affection, she's always happy when I reach out for it.

[RoseySarah]

So sweet and romantic how many years have you two been married?

[Yannae]

Glad you think that way but no, it's a very new relationship. But if this is what the first year has in store for us, I can't wait for the next.

[Jbear27]

Snuggles and cuddling. I was married for 20 years and while me and my ex had sex all the time, we never cuddled in bed. She was always uncomfortable and said it was too hot and sweaty or some kind of excuse. So we slept near eachoher but not on or entwined with one another. Anyhow divorced and now with a wonderful woman and she is a big cuddler. Everytime I stay the night we cuddle when we watch movies, after sex, when we go to bed. Before her I’ve never fell asleep or waken up with a woman in my arms and it’s one of the most satisfying experiences I’ve ever had in my life. I love it and I love her so much.

[syncheart]

A girl once showed me how she could me useful in helping me keep my thoughts in order. Unfortunately that was the only good thing she did, and she was extremely, and I even felt dangerous. So we didn't last any longer then a few weeks.

[RoseySarah]

O that is cool and yes extremes are fun but hard to date!
What extremes did she have? In bed or mood swings

[syncheart]

She didn't always act her age. Sometimes she would wine at me like a little kid. Also she was sexually frustrated and kept trying to get me to do something that I wasn't comfortable with. She was also controlling and didn't say the nicest things to me. If I didn't deliver the way she wanted she would get mad at me. Also she also forced me to hug her about 20 times a day. Plus she would call me everyday and even at work.

[RoseySarah]

What were you not comfy with?

[syncheart]

I don't like feeling like I'm being controlled. And I don't like being pushed to have sex, or the person gets mad at me if I don't feel comfortable doing it yet. I never seen any woman act like she did!

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

She is a very good listener and has taught me to be a better listener, very helpful in parenting. :-)

[RoseySarah]

Your such a great couple ❤️ and that is a huge need in a relationship 💕

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

@roseysarah you are very sweet and a great friend on this forum :-)

[RoseySarah]

You are too
Glad we met 😊

[MissStrawberry912]

My ex used to take care of me after a long day or stressful times.

[RoseySarah]

Like wonderful massages snuggles and making you food?

[MissStrawberry912]

Haha I wish he cooks! He buys me food, order me my favorite drink, take off my shoes for me, snuggle me, walks me to our room while hugging me or holding my hand since we lived together, does chores for me, puts me to bed😂 etc

[NathanDavis]

homemade, baked Cheetos...

[RoseySarah]

So yummy9

[Unknown8264]

I never had urges to have sex until I had it.
Now it’s very difficult to have urges while you’re single.

[RoseySarah]

It's very hard to do hard to control! Before being married never had any now after! And some before I feel like I'm exploding 🤯 and need it!

Here is a big hug I'm sorry it's been so hard on you!

[Unknown8264]

Thanks

[RoseySarah]

Welcome and here is a follow you can vent to me about what ever you need! It's so hard being single I hate it!

[Saiesh30]

I had pretty much made my mind I don't need anybody and I'm gonna go all the way by myself. I don't even need anyone to share anything with but I was very wrong. After meeting her, I realised how much sharing one's thought is important. It's significant for our mental health to have at least one person to talk with and who listens to you.

[Iron_Man]

I love slow back, rubs with fingernails. It makes me really mellow that I could actually fall asleep. It’s so calming so relaxing. I haven’t had that in over 20 years.

[Anonymous]

i'm here for the daily massages that i can never do myself

[Joshydavid25]

I didn't think I would like snuggling, but I kinda do barring it's not hot and sweaty.. Also getting some for Valentine's Day.. Didn't think I would enjoy it so much..

[RoseySarah]

Barring

[Joshydavid25]

Huh?

[libsaretards]

Touch for me. I am not a fan of people invading my space and touching me, but if it is a woman I really love, her touch can be super comforting.

[DizzyDesii]

I was never big on cuddling but now its most of what i like

[exitseven]

Somebody special always with me. I was always sort of a loner

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Sex of course haha, but for real though, BANTER can be so much fun with the right girl

[Anonymous]

Before i started having sex i thought it was unnecessary/ unattainable/ only for marriage/ for babies

Then i discovered it was essential, like food and sleep

[RoseySarah]

It's still way more for babies! Don't forget that way to many one night stands kids

[Opinion Owner]

what u mean

[LunarEclipse433]

Rubs and attention to your chest? Like breast massages?

[Jerre]

Lots and lots of good sex

[RoseySarah]

We need it also too!

[Jerre]

If we ever got together, you would get lots and lots of sex.

[RoseySarah]

Lmao 🤣
Can't be better then the amazing mind blowing sex I'm getting now with my handsome and intimate hubby.

Gave us a laugh reading

[Jerre]

Enjoy his cock, lol

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Snuggles

[LavLavLuv]

Wonderful listener