How is a narcissist man in a marriage?

[crystalline0909]

[SolsticeSnow]

Hard work.

They may use narcissistic truangulation: examples of this include, comparing you unfavorabley other women (eg: their ex). They try to make you feel like they might feel you are not 'enough'.

The do hurtful things and you find yourself trying to explain to them why these obviously hurtful things are hurtful. Only to be met with a blank stare. Or told you are oversensitive. You think 'if only I could find the right words to make them understand and empathise'.

They never let you feel comfortable. You're always on edge that they will do or say something to ruin the day. Especially on special occasions and events like holidays away or your birthday.

They cause issues between you and your friends and family.

They... smirk. and you catch it sometimes and it's horrifying. Because they often do it once they've just hurt you and they know they have. Right before they tell you you're overreacting usually.

They run things you like.

They tell you your successes aren't earned or aren't as good as their successes.

They laugh at your 'silly' hobbies.

They take opposite opinions to you all. the. time just to be argumentative.

They don't have your back when you need support

They are extra needy when you are busy with something important that isn't about them. Eg: studying for an exam.

Everything feels like a competition, an argument. Like they need to 'win'.

etc... etc...

[sage2021]

You should go to Quora. com if you want information about narcissists. They have a lot about them.

[Finchie40]

When everything is about him, he is never wrong always right , he can't admit he is wrong , crazy to say everyone of us has some type of narcissistic trait or traits inside ourselves , some just have more than others , so the chances of you dating a full blown narcissist is very rare. Usually the person that says you are a narcissist is the person that is the narcissist because they can't admit to themselves that they are wrong

[crystalline0909]

I'm a psychology major. I think I know what a narcissist is. I'm doing a survey here based on people's experience

[Finchie40]

I only read up on it on Google lol so yes you probably know more than me on it since you are in school for it. All I know about it , is what I experienced in some of the relationships I been in with girls’ that seemed they were narcissists , it just turned into a battle about who is the narcissist , pointing fingers at each other , I would love to hear some of your experiences and knowledge of it

[Anonymous]

What exactly does he do that makes him narcissistic?

[crystalline0909]

Study! You'll find out

[Opinion Owner]

Study what?

[crystalline0909]

About narcissism

[Opinion Owner]

lol so you claim he’s a narcissist but when someone ask a legitimate question as to what makes him a narcissist you tell them to study what it is. Which means you really don’t know. You’re just saying his behavior is narcissistic the way a lot of women do when they don’t like something a man does. If you had some intelligence you’d explain. I don’t need to study it, I work in psychology. There’s various stages of narcissism, so in order to try to help you w your question I asked what he does to get a better idea of what stage he’s in to better answer your question.

[crystalline0909]

I'm a major in psychology sweetheart. You want my reasoning DM. And if you want a better idea of the man's stage, there is a better way of questioning.
By the looks of you, you don't seem like a practitioner.

[Opinion Owner]

lol then you would know why he’s in a marriage. Why even ask if you are “majoring” in Psychology. You must not be that good at it.

[crystalline0909]

I was hoping for you to say that. I have mentioned here to someone else in comments too. I'm here for a survey. To hear out people's experience.

[Opinion Owner]

The issues is you let your feelings take over, you felt I was attacking you by asking. Which shows a lot of immaturity. Crazy to think someone who can’t control their emotions is going into a field that deals w things like that.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok you could have worded this question better as well. It doesn’t sound like it’s a survey. It sounds like a legitimate question based on someone you know whether it’s the narcissist or the girl who’s married to the narcissist.

[crystalline0909]

Shocking! Cuz you started your comment with "lol" and being an all male supporter. Looks like the moment I told you to study, you felt threatened and started commenting paragraphs trying to attack by claiming yourself to be the specialist.
But that's fine, you can say, do and believe whatever helps you sleep.
I'm not going to waste my time on proving my degree to you. I've a book to complete. Goodluck

[Opinion Owner]

Lol lol

[Al_Musafir]

Wouldn't pay much attention, will be selfish, apathetic, demand more things from his wife than giving anything in return.

[crystalline0909]

If the wife happens to be famous and busy in her work?

[Al_Musafir]

It means that she won't be catering to his narcissism as much as he'd want it to. Marriage wouldn't work this way either.

[Gent207-2]

I imagine for both sexes they are abusive, manipulative to the extreme and should be avoided at all costs

[FunkyMonkee]

I guess he finds a girl that either doesn't mind that aspect of his one is just as much of one as he is and then, they get married.

[DryGermanGuy]

Like in all other forms of relationships: It's constantly about me, me, meee.

[Smartman5]

Regardless of whether they are men or women, such people should never be preferred.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It happens but don't be too certain it will last long

[ThrillSeeker01]

Pretty bad I imagine. Like a pain in the ass to deal with

[BLP11520]

That was my dad and he negatively affected all 4 of us

[Green96]

Tell me more about that.
How did he affected all of you? What did he do?

[BLP11520]

@Green96 anything and everything was about him. We were all like subjects and kingdom. We had no life because he dominated the family and every aspect is cruel and mean to us our entire childhood

[rosemilk]

because the woman puts up with it

[crystalline0909]

I asked how is he.. not why is he

[ImHere22]

I’m guessing he’s narcissistic?

[mandyfire98]

Run.

[DJB72]

Pure hell I'd imagine

[Alex8736]

Controlling and blaming

[FenixG45]

A manipulator! Everything is about them!

[boggboss]

Narcissistic

[Anonymous]

An annoying fuck!

[Kyr0s]

He'll be selfish.

[Anonymous]

Generally abusive.

[Anonymous]

I'm fine
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