Did he ask for my hand in marriage?

[Anonymous]

He claimed to have asked for my dead mother’s blessing a few months ago. Recently my father has randomly started calling his parents my “in-laws” when we aren’t even engaged yet. He brought them up as my “in-laws” after my partner and I had a miscommunication.

[rosemilk]

? my parents called my partners parents "in-laws" when we weren't married or engaged at that time and vice versa... it's just easier to say.

[Asker]

I personally find it annoying. Especially when we aren’t even engaged; let alone married. What do you think about that?

[rosemilk]

then tell them you find it annoying

[Gent207-2]

Odd behavior

Different cultures?

[Asker]

Yes. Completely different cultures.

[Gent207-2]

That could explain why
I would recommend deeper conversations on values, beliefs and traditions

[Asker]

Can you elaborate on what you think about the situation?

[Gent207-2]

Two different vultures are bound to result in conflict it's best to head it off in advance

[Asker]

Head what off? What do you think though? Is that what he’s planning?

[Gent207-2]

I recommend talking about your differences before getting married

[Asker]

Do you think he asked for my hand in marriage though?

[Gent207-2]

Perhaps but you need to ask him

[Asker]

My boyfriend or my dad? I asked both of them.

[Asker]

Apparently, a few months ago, my boyfriend asked for my dead mother’s blessing, when writing a speech for her birthday this year.

[Asker]

That’s what he told me, at least.