Was I wrong for thanking him for his from way back now that he’s married? Why didn’t he respond?

[Anonymous]

I had reached out to a guy from years ago at a camp thanking him for being kind to me when others weren’t. I do think he had an interest in me and his mother asked my mother about carpooling.. but he listened when others didn’t, changed the page to my book when I was lost, he even complimented me.. but those gestures meant a lot at that time:

I had a cousin whom I confided in about him when we were teens.. anyway she followed him on facebook and they followed eachother on all platforms.. I was so naive to think they weren’t talking.. but it didn’t matter. I tried to follow him years later but he didn’t respond so I left it alone

Anyway I thought about him and my cousin mentioned him getting married. So a few days ago I reached out to him thanking him for his kindness, wishing him well on his union and saying that I hoped his mom and twin sister was doing well.. and he never responded..

was I wrong?

[Finchie40]

You weren’t wrong , but don’t take it personally by him not responding back to you. He is probably being respectful to his wife , and doesn’t want to put himself in any situations that could possibly add fire to his marriage , especially from a girl that he hasn’t heard from in a long time. Some guys’ are
That way when it comes to commuting himself to a girl he loves and cherishes. I was in relationships with girls’ that would get worried if another
Girl tried contacting me on social media , and she would immediately say Who is that bitch!! lol whether his wife would say that to him or not , he is probably being respectful just choosing not to talk to you because he loves his wife and doesn’t want her to get worried. Even though you are just being friendly? He might not be looking at it that way

[Asker]

I understand his wife looks like she can curse me out

[Finchie40]

Yea she is probably strict with him and made it clear to him that she won’t tolerate him flirting with other girls’ Especially with the way society is today most people are scared to get into committed relationships to have their heart broken by a lying cheating bastard. Sadly it’s just the way it is these days

[Asker]

True I respect that

[Asker]

How is it that it was not appropriate to send that text but he follows my cousin on social media to this day half naked shaking her ass… and actually I confided in my cousin about him and then followed eachother on social media… for years every since I told her about him

[Finchie40]

That’s weird , was he friends’ with your cousin online before he got married

[Asker]

Yes he was but she only knew him because I told her I liked him and she followed him

[Finchie40]

That’s shady of your cousin to do? Are
You sure your cousin didn’t say anything to him to make him not want to reply to you? Because that is very weird

[Asker]

I know he stopped showing interest so I’m sure but he’s married.. I mean back in the day

[Finchie40]

Yea but back in the day your cousin might of said something to him , to make him not want to add you as a friend or continue talking to you

[Asker]

I wonder what… what do you think?

[Asker]

Someone said the same thing?

[Finchie40]

The fact that she added him is weird , especially if she didn’t know about him until you mentioned him to her. Did she find him attractive and throw you under the bus , so she could have her chance at him?

[Asker]

Probably she’s def found him attractive… I guess he’s a jackass

[Finchie40]

Well your cousin is to if she did that to you

[Shiprex]

Not wrong but I think you are pining for a memory of him that perhaps you want to become something more. That's unfortunate but something to come to terms with. He may not have had the same sensations as you at the time and was just a kind person who saw someone in need and helped you.

[Asker]

Yeah true but I still wanted to show gratitude

[Shiprex]

That shows you are a good person then. Not responding may mean that he doesn't know you well enough to respond or just hasn't gotten around to it.

[Asker]

Oh okay

[jahaims]

That was random/ creepy on your side

[Asker]

Wasn’t my intention