Is it normal to be a little less affectionate after the honeymoon phase has ended?

[nurse]

My sister has just came back from honeymoon but she says she feels a little bit less affectionate. Have you ever felt the same after the honeymoon phase?

[octopus]

It's pretty normal for the level of affection to change a bit after the honeymoon phase. That initial period in a relationship, often called the honeymoon phase, is like being on a natural high. Everything feels new, exciting, and you're both probably putting a lot of energy into showing affection and being super attentive.

But as time goes on, it's common for couples to settle into a more sustainable pattern of showing affection. It's kind of like how a new song you're obsessed with eventually becomes just another good track in your playlist.

Here are a few things to consider:

Comfort and Security: As you get more comfortable with each other, that constant need to be super affectionate might ease up. It's not that you care for each other any less; it's just that you're secure in your relationship and don't feel the need to constantly prove your affection.

Life Gets in the Way: Real life, with all its responsibilities and stresses, can impact how much energy you have for overt displays of affection. Work, personal stress, or just being tired can mean you're not always in the mood for cuddles and lovey-dovey stuff.

Different Love Languages: Maybe one of you values quality time over physical touch or words of affirmation over grand gestures.

Communication is Key: If you feel like the decrease in affection is bothering you, it's super important to communicate that to your partner. Sometimes, people don't even realize they've become less affectionate.

It's a Cycle: Relationships often go through cycles. You might find that there are times when you're super affectionate and other times when you're a bit more independent. That's totally normal.

Remember, every relationship is different, and what's normal for one couple might not be for another. If you're both on the same page and feel good about where things are, then you're probably doing just fine!

[AmeriRiver096]

Single here! I value the deeper connection and long-term aspects of a relationship over the initial honeymoon phase. Building a strong foundation and genuine understanding can indeed contribute to a more meaningful partnership.

[Nikki1989]

Our honeymoon phase has been going strong for years, so that doesn't sound normal at all.

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

Affection should generally be constant like some form of physical contact from a comforting touch to a light kiss each day or an act of kindness with no expectation of anything in return (e. g. he polishes your car so you get to drive around looking mint or she irons his work clothes so he makes a good impression at work). No affection is kind of taking one another for granted and speaks of disinterest. It doesn't matter what you do but as long as it is something that comforts or reassures your partner that you care, is mutual/reciprocated without asking, and is initiated without asking.

Sexual activities wax and wane like the moon and that is normal. Some couples have sex 2-3 times a week, others once a week and some once a fortnight/month. No sex is a red flag unless you're waiting for marriage and you're both on board with that.

[Massageman]

The post-honeymoon letdown is when the reality of "real daily life" starts to settle in. About 3-4 months after we moved into our first house , I just laid on the grass for a minute, contemplating life in the house. A neighbor called out, asked if I was all right. Must have gotten lost deep in thought ABOUT the thought!

[Apple1996]

The honeymoon phase should never end if the couple is truly meant to be together it should go on forever

[JHAYES317]

Yeah that doesn’t happen…

[Apple1996]

@JHAYES317 it does happen for some couples. My parents have forever been passionate and can't keep their hands off each other

[JHAYES317]

That sounds exhausting tbh…once you are like 70 you’ll want to slow down…

[ColHathi]

I assume that's what happens after the honeymoon phase. Isn't that the whole reason why they call it that? You get more comfortable and used to how things are with your partner, and you've had a good fill of affection, I figure.

[stratford]

Unless you're trying for a baby, it's only going to go in one direction I'm afraid. Unless one of your opens up about a kink or fantasy and you're both open minded to keep things fresh.

[Anonymous]

The honeymoon phase isn't literally the honeymoon after the wedding.

[matchrestore]

Sex might not be as frequent, but its just as passionate or more the longer we're together.

[Crankor]

No it's not normal. Is it common? Possibly. It's about how you interact with each other. Should always act like your always dating even when your married. Being married on its own is just a title

[OddBeMe]

I’m pretty sure that’s the reason irs called that. Almost like a reality check. Luckily my wife and I live in realty all day as pessimists. So no surprises, but shitty existence. Lol

[sheikalana]

So she’s newly married. Came back from honeymoon and doesn’t feel the same? Hmm interesting.

[Guido]

Not right after the honeymoon but after a number of years together, life has a way of getting in the way and priorities in life change.

[Jamie05rhs]

Maybe she's tired from the trip. Travel can be exhilarating but also exhausting sometimes.

[eagle1951]

being married period can do that, I know my late wife and I had that problem.

[exitseven]

For me it happened after we had kids.

[Jennz6]

That’s not good

[Girlisasking]

:'(((

[meh51]

That's kind of a red flag. She should be worried

[jjj101010]

Do u mean affection or sex has died off?