Is the honeymoon phase over after only a year?

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Hi all!

Lately I have been feeling very anxious about my relationship, but for no specific reason. My boyfriend and I had a VERY quick start to our relationship. We decided at four months we were going to live together because he got a new job that required him to move away. He asked me to go, and I said yes. I switched jobs, we have a townhouse and an adorable puppy. We have been living together for about 7 months now and it has been great. We don't fight. We have little disagreements or misunderstandings, but nothing major. One thing I am worried about is that he is going to get bored. We have no friends or family here. Aside from work and occasional trips, we spend all of our time together. I have noticed that we do not cuddle (or have sex) as often as we used to (we still have sex 2-3x weekly, but it used to be more frequent), we are starting to prefer to be doing different things at night (him playing video games and me watching TV) and we just aren't as overall "lovey-dovey" and romantic with each other.

I think I am having a lot of anxiety because we have only been together a year and I already feel like the honeymoon period is over. I love him more than anything, I just want to know if anyone has any advice on how to get through the "ending of the honeymoon phase"?

Also, this is entirely me overthinking I'm sure. I haven't discussed anything with him yet, but overall I tend to me a bit more emotional and (dare I say) needy.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I believe that the honeymoon period is different for everyone. Some end their period after a few months of living together while others take many years to finally end that honeymoon period.

I would agree that bein on top of each other 24/7 does actually reduce the honeymoon period but having sex 3 times a week is more than enough in a normal relationship. Some couples don't have that kind of activity more than once or twice a week.

If you have the feeling that something is not working the way it should in your relationship, then I suggest you prepare a list of issues you believe are possible problems and next to each problem, you bring up a solution you think is acceptable to your boyfriend. Ask your boyfriend to do a similar but independent list from yours. Finally, you sit together and go over both lists finding a consensus that is acceptable to both.

You can also set specific days aside for different activities. Mondays for example is together time watching TV while Tuesdays is video game evening for him and whatever you like to do by yourself.

Overthinking is not helpful because you start imagining things. Rather than overthinking, you need to communicate with your boyfriend on those topics. Good luck.

Bethany22 · Accepted Answer

Try wearing wigs of different hair colors and hair types while you have sex, and try different styles of sex than what you normally do. Apart from that, though, I'm sure that he's fine with the peaceful relationship that you seem to have, based on what most men say about this.

bamesjond0069 · Accepted Answer

Honeymoon phase is basically infatuation (added to love and intimacy etc). Sex takes work. Constantly put in effort for your sex life and keep things hot and the honey moon phase can last forever.

You always want to stimulate the other person so they always basically fantasize and desire you. My longest relationship was 9 years and we maintained the honeymoon damn near the whole time.

If you just Missionary then doggy and fall asleep 30 min later 2x a week... fuck that honestly. Buy some lingerie and have him spank you. Then when that gets normal find something else or up the ante. There is always new things to do or try even in very long term relationships. Also go to the damn gym, you should be getting hotter and hotter not uglier and uglier.

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

It can be. Like relationships, like marriage itself, a "honeymoon" takes work. It can fizzle or die or be kept going. But, here's the thing. A honeymoon is really about newness. Newness goes away. And that's okay. It doesn't mean there isn't love or dating or giggles or whatever else was part of the dating/chase/courtship/engagement/honeymoon period. It just means that you've been together for a while. You're one. The couple then have to work at that spark with dates and notes and whatever it is that works for them. Some want flowers, others want rock concerts. Find what works for you.

AviatorTom · Answer

It's called honey moon because it should only last one month (moon). Lasting a year is a long time for a honeymoon phase to last... be happy it's lasted that long.

Guy13 · Answer

Yep…IF, you did not S O s…. Live together…then yep 👍.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Kindness and honesty and compassion does not get old.

JessicaEarl · Answer

Much of this is just entering normal life. However, nothings stopping you from planning a date night every Friday. Making Monday night a board game night. Finding special things that make sure you guys enjoy hanging together. Highly encouraged

Anonymous · Answer

I wonder how serious young women and women in general are when it comes to marriage these days. I don’t know if young women simply want to be with the guy like some marriage fling and divorce him for half. I can’t trust girls and women these days. I admit I don’t trust women. To any girl who reads this and gets triggered, just remember I’ve listened to girls for decades say “I don’t trust guys” and normalized that. Well, as a guy, I can say that about y’all females to.

A_Bell · Answer

Yes. I've been married almost a year and s half and now it's a different kind of love. Strong by being deeper instead of burning brighter.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

There's no set timeframe, but it generally lasts a little less than a year.

In_Trance · Answer

not necessarily

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