What do you think about getting married?

Question

People in my family always said they never would or couldn’t imagine it. Now all of them are married over 10 years now.

AmeriRiver096 · Accepted Answer

I see marriage as more than just a legal or romantic commitment. To me, it’s about forming a life partnership—a team where we navigate life’s challenges together with respect and mutual support. It’s about building a strong foundation for enduring companionship and shared growth.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Marriage has been the greatest adventure of my life. Over 8 wonderful years so far with my hubby.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It's easy to talk smack about marriage when you don't really need to face that question for real at the moment. Develop a long term relationship and have a guy propose, and then you'll discover how you really feel about getting married.

AviatorTom · Answer

I was married for 20 years, with 3 kids. Ended in an amicable divorce. For us, the marriage was good, but I understand marriage isn't for everyone.

TenderFantasy · Answer

I believe marriage is hard. Most people are selfish and it's hard for them to put aside their own wants and needs (usually) to cater to someone else a lot of times, unless they really love the person. At least that is what I have learned from all my years of dating.

My parents married "early". They were only 23 and 24 when they married and are still married today. Mostly because they knew what committment meant and stuck to those vows. Nowadays, my recent ex included, a lot of people DON'T know how to do that! Either that or I picked another "good one" aka another asshole.

a lot of people also view dating as an elimination process.

I think my parents only datedd for a short time (I think slightly under a year), maybe even engaged for some of that year.

Most people these days take a while to mature unfortunately. They would rather take their time growing up! My ex, he's 40 and still lives with his folks, plays a lot of video games. Sure he has his own job, but, that job doesn't play well truly (he did Ubereats and Grubhub)... but also, that job has a lot of competition and you have to be lucky to be able to get it, and I think they're getting stricter, the qualifications of it.

I think it also depends on the generation unforutnately, because like I said, my folks have been together since 1976 so that's almost 50 years together. A lot of the younger generations, don't really know how to do that or to compromise for the sake of your partner, etc. That requires MATURITY! That requires really loving and supporting your partner through thick and thin! It's not an easy thing to do obviously.

Plus, maybe a lot of people (my ex included), like variety. I don't really know. All I know is that I've never been married (fortunately/unfotrtunately), I became ENGAGED once, but it didn't come to fruition just because he really wasn't what I wanted (Divorce, with a child he lost custody of, anger issues and homelessness lol), but that was when I was a lot younger. I've changed my preferences lol. Anyway..

Lliam · Answer

I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. Those were infatuated, monogamous, long term relationships. But I was too young, unworldly, inexperienced and mentally immature to even consider marriage. And I had no interest in committing my life to the responsibility, expense, worry and heartache of having kids.

It wasn't until my mid-30s that I started think about seeking a life partner, settling down, and starting a new chapter in my life. By then, I had done a lot of living, seen and done a lot, had a secure job, accumulated assets, and become more mentally and emotionally mature.

I didn't want to live the rest of my life alone.

But I always considered marriage to be a once in a lifetime thing; a solemn promise; a vow of honor; the most important commitment I would ever make. So I had to be as certain as possible when I made my choice.

I had two more girlfriends from that point, up to the age of 38, but those didn't work out.

I met my future wife when I was 40 and we totally clicked. I eventually decided that we were not only a good fit, but I could trust her completely. Trust is the essential ingredient.

We had both lived full and fulfilling lives before we met and knew what we wanted.

We got married when I was 42. She is 2.5 years younger. We've been happily married now for almost 27 years, had LOTS of fun, and built a wonderful life together. We adore, respect and love each other. We trust each other completely. She has proven her total loyalty many times. She is as committed to the sanctity of marriage as am I.

We work together as equal partners to have happy lives and a secure retirement.

I would be lonely and miserable without her.

by the way, we're happy that we don't have any commitment to kids.

sawno · Answer

I'd do it if it benefits me from a legal point of view, if it just puts me at risk while providing nothing for us I'm not going to be ok with the increased risk. The system is to imbalanced and I don't want a court case over my belongings if she decides to leave.

Now if she is really wanting the fairy tale I'm fine marrying symbolically or if the proper paperwork is done.

In my last relationship marriage was required so we'd be able to live together in the same country. So in her case i'd have absolutely done it since then the benefit far outweighed the risk.

I basically take marriage as the legal contract it is and judge if it benefits us as a couple instead of it being leverage to hold against me.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I want to get married, but I'm not sure I will. Lately, I feel like young woman just want to sleep around and it makes them devalue sex, and it also tends to make them bitter. Woman expect things from men and every man they fall in love with who doesn't work out, they're only going to expect more. If nothing else, probably out of fear.

In a nutshell, I don't think most woman want to be equal with a man and be a part of a family with them. And it's hard for me to have marriage level respect for a woman isn't someone I see as extremely secure and comfortable with family values.

As much as I believe in the man being the leader, the woman needs to be one too and if she's so worried about herself that the marriage is always in jepordy... Who wants that?

aceleon · Answer

i can't talk for woman.

but for man it is either for guys who are possesive (as they should be) and hopes to keep woman to themselves with marriage or weak man who is either not good or desperate with woman and gaves up on everything life has to offer and their own freedom and resources for at least keeping 1 girl with them in hopes of having a regular lay, someone to split chores and not being alone thinking marriage is not a lonelier place than singlehood. instead of trying what they can they settle for acceptance and i can get that because it comes easier but again it is still beyond pitiful, it is pathetic.

Miristheiss · Answer

I did it. 2 kids. However, I found one of the rare unicorns. Most of modern dating is just a cesspool. Most people are not worthy of marriage, marriage laws (for divorce) are awful. Most people are too selfish to be married and will just divorce. Most people don't have values, duty, loyalty, devotedness, they are just me, me, me, I'll do whatever I want and feels good. Everything with modern people is about what feels good 24/7 and they'll divorce the moment the get bored or feelings aren't as "fun". They have all slept around so much they cannot really bond with anyone and bail the moment they don't get their way.

In theory marriage is great. In modern times? Yikes.

Kaamraj · Answer

For a man, given the current laws it's not a good idea. Over 50% marriages end in divorce, 80% of divorces are initiated by women, most of the divorces are for financial reasons. Most child custody is awarded to the mother, most alimony is paid by men. A man gains nothing additional except for some tax benefits in marriage that he does't get in a relationship. In fact this fact has been known for long so there are common law states where if you cohabitate with a woman long enough, you will be considered married in the eyes of the law.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I don't. Because I'm not even dating. And that's like worrying about page 100 of a book when you're still on page 1.

But another way of looking at your question. one of my sisters always said she would never get married. Then one day she met the right guy and seemingly overnight that opinion changed. I think sometimes in life we can't imagine something that seems so far away from us because we've never had reason to even consider it.

LittleMelissa9614 · Answer

I wanna be married someday!!! I think it's a beautiful thing! Spend the rest of my life with my future husband, live life and get through it together, making memories and having fun, having a family someday, raising them and watching them grow up together, going through the good and bad together, in sickness and in health, till death do us part!❤️😊

Justin4563 · Answer

I love being married. I have learned that since my wife has the vagina I usually go along with whatever she wants

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

A lot of men my age don't see the point in it especially with all the things you see on social media. I think marriage is great and valuable, I intend to marry and have children one day. That said I will want a prenup with several stipulations to protect both myself and future wife. That doesn't mean I don't value it though.

DextroShade · Answer

Marriage is essential for a functioning society but the way it is practiced in the US with no-fault divorce and corrupt misandrist family courts incentivizes women to divorce and wreck their own homes which in turn disincentivizes men to marry in the first place. It is a disaster and we have feminism to thank for it.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

Yeah I plan to have a traditional life like my parents before me. Get married, buy a house, raise two kids, watch em grow up while we plan our retirement

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I surely plan on it, I think marriage would be good for my soul.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

All the time.. I look forward to it one day..

Simslover92 · Answer

If I could get married today I would because I love him so freaking much!

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I would love to get married to a man that loves me and is interested in having a peaceful life. I have become content with the idea I might be a single mom though.

sean1234 · Answer

Oh what a coincidence, me to... EXCEPT for the fact that I'm still single and always have been.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Honestly I'd love the idea if not for the laws passed by the third party to the marriage, the government.

HouseMoat · Answer

I don't want marriage. It's a legal sham. I also don't want kids. They're a financial disaster. I can't find a woman who agrees with me

Paul09 · Answer

I think it's religious and silly. If you're really in love, why do you need a huge display and a piece of paper to prove it?

jahaims · Answer

Most people are too stupid to handle the commitment

Heolurt · Answer

Never going to happen so I don't ever think about it.

serious · Answer

I am never getting married.

sheikalana · Answer

I love being married.

Booklover_90 · Answer

I want to be married one day. 😊❤️

systemsareyo · Answer

Glad I never got on the wagon train 🚂🚃

Likes2drive · Answer

Been there done that, it never usually lasts

dolemite58 · Answer

I’d rather gargle with drano

Account · Answer

It is not for me.

Slim57 · Answer

I didn't want to for a while but I'm ready now

jimmy2 · Answer

Love it but she passed away Now time is short

Bendi21 · Answer

Pointless

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