What is you thought about marriage?

[teamvic]

So for guys I hear most guys say marriage is a trap and that the only ones who benefit from marriage are women. Because if you get divorced they can take everything from you. Which you have to admit, that's one hell of a point they got there. But I do understand if you're not getting married to a girl you" love" because you think she might leave you and take everything from you then id say do you really trust the girl? and if you got doubts then why are you getting married in the first place? BUTTT at the same time you could also say it's not about trust but you never know what could happen, what if they cheat or something. I dont know. But my question is what do you think, from a girls point of view, about guys not wanting to get married because of all these potential risks and the possibility of girls taking everything?🤔

[XHopelessRomanticX]

The keyword is trust. And trusting someone is a very risky thing to do, but without it relationships crumble. A lot of men, from stories I read and hear about, what they want most is loyalty. The thing they fear is their woman cheating, and then leaving and taking everything with them. Women, on the other hand, want safety and security. They want the assurance that their man is not going to abuse them, or leave them to fend for themselves.

These worries are valid, but if we enter relationships expecting the worst from someone, those relationships are doomed to fail.
Marriage is not something I would want to do with just anyone, it would be something I would want to do with someone I trust. Someone who I know would have my best interests at heart, and someone I would be willing to uplift and encourage.

[teamvic]

And what happens if those guys go in and trust and then, shit happens and then she takes everything?🤔 see the problem is you're saying they need to trust but if shit hits the fan well thenn, fuck, sucks for them I guess. you know what I mean? The girl has all to gain nothing to lose so it's easy to tell the girl to trust but to tell a guy you need to trust with 0 security. Well that's a lot harder. Now you could bring up, make her sign a prenup. Which I think its the best way to meet on equal grounds. But the problem there is you're already going in without trusting the girl again. Which falls straight back into do you really trust that girl to begin with🤔

Which is why I brought up this question to begin with. Because it's a lot more complex than just telling a guy to trust her and also it's more than just telling a girl to sign this prenup cause then it seems like he don't trust her. To me it's a tricky situation.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

A prenup is a good idea when there’s a vast disparity between the couple. Richie Rich who makes 6 figures and has 3 properties would be wise to get a prenup with Mary Sue who buses tables for a living.
But if Joe Shmoe is thinking of getting a prenup to protect the $4 he has in the bank, then he probably shouldn’t be getting married.

Marriage is supposed to be a couple building a life together, a partnership. If you’re worried about divorce, then protect what you already had before marriage. Don’t worry about whatever assets come after marriage because that will be the part you split if you do divorce.

[thatkawaiiemogirly]

Smh most guys I have encountered just wanted to have their cake and eat it too. Most want to be promiscuous and have sex without commitment. If both parties aren't mentally stable especially one of them. It can and will cause a relationship to fall and fail. Most guys I have encountered just wanted to get around until they are almost up in age to settle down. A lot of people these days want to please the media who is very toxic. They don't have their backs. They are being deceived. Most men and women lack maturity especially in their youth. Smh it's very important to past the bloom of youth. There is so much more and insight that I see within people. It goes a very long list really..

[PeachyPie93]

I think its stupid since marriage is supposed to be about love and trust.. If you can't even trust people anymore to not want to destroy your life, why even attempt to date at all? Tbh I think guys have just become broke and weak if all they worry about is losing their money which often isn't much to begin with.