Why am I fond of my ex girlfriend again? Should I date women without the thought of marriage?

[Anonymous]

I know the relationship with my ex girlfriend was not the right one for me, that's why I broke up with her. After the breakup my life massively improved. However, we've recently met randomly and we had coffee together. After the meeting I realised that we really cared about each other, but things just didn't work out because I expected too much of her: being a potential wife instead of a girl I experiment dating with. We had great sexual chemistry, but our values were not aligned. I don't want to go back to her, but I thought it would be better if from now on I wouldn't expect my girlfriends to be wife material.

[IAmAzzurra]

That’s pretty normal, especially if nobody is currently doing it for you quite the way she did.
All the bad stuff fades away eventually, and we are only left with the feelings we had for them, which were always at the core of it all.

I used to date a guy who treated me like sh! t, but when things were good, they were as good as they got. Our relationship was so bipolar. It went from one extreme to the other, there was no in between.

He came to see me about a year ago and wr has a really nice chat. It was just a catch up. It wasn’t anything deep. Any bitterness that had been around us after we broke up for good evaporated.
We see each other around every now and then and we get along so well. I adore him, but we are bad for each other.
Feelings are feelings, and nostalgia tends to heighten them, but that’s all they really are.
It’s rare to feel nothing for an ex.

[On_cloud_wine]

Unless you just wanna fool around, I’d go with that mindset, but if you’re seeking miss right and looking to settle down and marriage is in your horizon, then continue to raise your standards, and thank your ex for revealing herself as fast as she did so you’re not wasting your time

[Jamie05rhs]

You're going the opposite direction, my dude.
Thinking about her seriously was not where you messed up. Your mistake was having sex with her.