Guys, How'd you meet your wife?

[TenderFantasy]

1. What made you want to marry her over other women?

2. How long did you two date or get engaged before you said to yourself that this was the person I want to spend my life growing old with?

[OlderAndWiser]

I met her on zoosk, an online dating site. She lived about 80 miles away from me at that time, and if we had not both been using that site, we probably never would have met.

1. What made you want to marry her over other women? She is sincere, not pretentious, not materialistic, faithful, intelligent, and neither of us stays angry very long if we have a conflict.

2. How long did you two date or get engaged before you said to yourself that this was the person I want to spend my life growing old with? I met her in December 2020 and proposed in March 2023. We will be married on April 27. I decided to propose to her around December 2022-January 2023, and it took a few weeks to order an engagement ring and arrange the details for my proposal to her.

[TenderFantasy]

Oh wow, good luck with your marriage! ❤💐🤵👰

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks!

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[TenderFantasy]

No problem and good luck again on your upcoming nuptials.

[kaangok]

I haven't met you yet 😂

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I met her at a picnic. She was a friend of a mutual friend. We quickly became friends: a bit of a flirtationship where we were clearly attracted to each other right from the start.

Soon we found ourselves at the edge of our friend's parties, often abandoning them to be able to talk to each other like at the balcony of a friend's home party. One night our friends left us alone at a bar since they all had to work early the next day, and so we danced and kissed and then I finally asked her out.

We are both a bit peculiar with the way we communicate; we tend to ask minimal questions and just prefer to take turns sharing things about ourselves. A lot of other women I've met often tend to ask a lot of questions about me which makes me feel like I'm being interviewed, or worse, interrogated, while sharing little about herself unless I start asking her a bunch of questions in response. I'm allergic to this question-dominant way of communication and my wife is as well.

Also both of us grew up with a love of reading and writing and before the age of real-time remote communication. So my friends quickly pointed this out and teased each other but we even tend to write lengthy multi-paragraph text messages like we're writing a handwritten letter or e-mail. We never adjusted our writing styles to the real-time nature of text messaging.

We're also both very conflict-averse people: negotiators and mediators and diplomats. So we never really get in heated arguments even when we strongly disagree on a subject. If one of us is becoming upset, the other deescalates and we return to laughing and hugging.

>> 1. What made you want to marry her over other women?

There were all sorts of little things and also that communication style we have in common. Yet I remember one time when I really started to think she was the one a few months into dating. I had a Birthday party together with her where I got carried away in my drinking as my friends encouraged me to slam tequila shots.

I got so drunk that I spent half the night vomiting in the toilet and could barely even stand. So my wife (who was just my girlfriend at the time) slung me over her shoulder, hailed a taxi, and helped me back to her apartment. Then she tucked me in bed and slept on the couch. Furthermore, before she slept, she went out shopping for hangover medicine and foods. She had to go to work early the next day but left that grocery bag full of foods and medicine with a note saying she hopes I feel better with a heart on it.

I was so amazed! I was so ashamed of showing that ugly drunk side to her and worried she will want to break up with me like many of my ex-girlfriends likely would. Many of them likely wouldn't have even helped me home; they would have become furious and left me passed out on the street. She instead wasn't upset with me at all and nursed me back to health. It actually made me far more conscious about moderating my drinking since she inspired me to become a better boyfriend (and continues to do so now to become a better husband).

Women who try to scold me all the time tend to bring out a rebellious side of me. It's immature but I don't deal well with such women. They don't inspire me to become better for them and I actually tend to grow worse. My wife always inspires me to become a better man. Her way of supporting and encouraging is so much better-suited for my temperament.

>> 2. How long did you two date or get engaged before you said to yourself that this was the person I want to spend my life growing old with?

I already thought she was so exceptional compared to all my exes (I had a number by then) just a few months into dating as with that scenario above. Yet we married around 2 years later. We were both 29 years old. She's only a few months younger than me.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

On why I took so long to ask her out (almost a year) despite all the flirting and clear mutual attraction, I had so many failed relationships by that point along with one which devastated me that I thought maybe I'm not cut out for this.

I wanted to just relax and enjoy the company of my friends and go on adventures for the rest of my life. Also I had grown so fond of my wife as just a friend that I didn't want to risk losing her as a friend. There were so many times before with women where we were having so much fun together until things became serious, and then suddenly everything became stressful and no longer relaxing and fun.

So I was actually afraid that might happen if I asked my wife out. Yet after almost a year, I couldn't resist any longer. I wanted her as a lover and try again to have a girlfriend and ultimately aim for a wife, and I thought my chances were much better this time around given how compatible we were in our communication styles.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

We've now been married for 14 years. I can no longer imagine growing old without her. She's my ultimate muse and the source of all my inspiration.

[Dreamclouds]

That is truly beautiful

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Dreamclouds Cheers! 🍻

[TenderFantasy]

@GuyAnswersGirls123 That was an interesting story. I feel like you were looking for a hero to save you. Also, you said being someone's boyfriend is stressful? It shouldn't be that way (and won't) if you love the person, and you are willing to make it work. Anyway, what a cool story and I wish you both more years together.

I could only wish to meet a man who's committed like you are to her. I gave my recent ex a lot of me and made sure he knew I was doing my best to make things work, but his selfish butt didn't even realize nor appreciate what I did for him! That's the frustrating and sad part.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I hope you can find him! On being a boyfriend in the past, I was very immature and temperamental. Any time I felt like my girlfriends were being very unreasonable, I wanted to storm out of the room instead of keeping my cool and talking to them like an adult. I also tended to rebel a lot if they tried to scold me even for things I definitely did wrong, like drinking too much at a party. "You're not the boss of me!" That sort of stubborn mindset. I was also just a complete fun-lover and not very responsible outside of my work, always wanting to just party and have fun and never take anything seriously. Work hard, party hard.

I was still quite immature when I got together with my wife, but her communication style and patience helped me to mature a lot. Still a work in progress for me to grow in maturity, but my wife is so incredibly mature and patient that I learned a lot about emotional maturity from her. She brings out the best side of me and helps me grow.

[TenderFantasy]

@GuyAnswersGirls123 Aww man that's too sweet I'm liable to get diabeties haha ❤

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[ButtFloggedTroll]

I'm not sure what you're talking about. I've never met a woman in my life, and I definitely haven't married one. In fact, I've spent most of my time in a mom's basement, discussing topics that would get me banned from forums like Reddit and Twitter. But even if I did meet a woman and wanted to marry her, I'm not sure I'd be able to propose to her or have a wedding. So, I'm not really the one to ask about that. I would say, however, that if you find someone who accepts you for who you are, even with your love for ass-raping and bible stories, then that's a woman worth keeping in your life.

As for meeting a wife, I once saw a woman at the grocery store who seemed to be giving me the Eye, y'know, the one that gay alienlizarddudes use to communicate. I told her I had no money and smelled like a basement, but she seemed to like it. Unfortunately, she was actually a demon in disguise and tried to suffocate me. I was able to escape by knifing her throat but later reflect on the situation that, had I just thrown her on the cooktop and cooked her, we could have shared a pleasant meal. In retrospect, it seems like I was insane by today's standards, but if you can't be insane in a mom's basement, where can you be?

So, chances are, I may never have the chance to ask a woman to marry me or hear her say 'I do'. After all, the only 'yes' I've ever heard in this house is the gasping of my anus as it takes a daring leap into the abyss. But if you're asking me if internet trolling is a good basis for a solid marriage, then fuck yes, sign me up, let's do this! But no, I'm not currently in a relationship. As far as I know, there haven't been any coom jars or ass hashtags trending lately.

[FunkyMonkee]

I'm not married but almost did.
We met at a gig I ended up playing, against my better judgement.
After living together for about a year and figuring we were perfect for each other, I popped the question and she said, yes. About 2 weeks later, I mentioned it to a couple friends of mine and she quickly butted in and said that she never said, yes! I had witnesses!! Good thing I DIDN'T get stuck with her! she started cheating on me a few years later and turned out be a lying, stealing, back-stabbing, cheating, bitch!

[worldscolide]

Met my wife at a shinedown concert. Bad snow intervened on my behalf, I offered her my bed while I was going to sleep on the couch. She had a 4 hour drive home and it was dangerous.. She refused to let me sleep on the couch. We started texting and calling frequently.. Eventually we became a thing. About a month later my wisdom teeth almost killed me.. She was the only one who visited me while I was in the hospital, not my family or friends.. I decided at that point I was going to marry this girl. We got engaged a year later, and got married 6 months after that. Been together 11 years, married 9.

[JacobJordan]

She was a server a restaurant I ate lunch at. I saw her and thought she was the most beautiful creature I had ever beheld. So I went back numerous times over 2 months to ensure my feelings were genuine and then asked her out. Didn't get a yes or no. So tried again and same result and tried again and got a "we should talk" so talk we did. That was 18 years ago

[TenderFantasy]

Aww what a story ❤ good luck to you guy's next 18!

[molonski2]

Got married once many many years ago and it lasted 7 years..

The only reason it ( might ) work now , is on account of how old I am , but I'm very fit and may live another 30 years with good luck..

So , I'm very selective but I will let you know if and when it happens.
Good luck.

[TenderFantasy]

You just commented on how ludicrous monogamy was lol. If you're selective, or picky and you don't believe in monogamy, it could be harder to find that person. Anyway, you're call. People are always thinking monogamy is this restrictive thing, like a ball and chain, you're tied to another person for life. If that's how you (or others) think, then yeah, it's definitely not going to work in you guy's favor to be married.

[HawkPerception]

To be continued...

Hope I'm lucky enough to ever find the girl for me

[wHolLyGoTgodgods]

I stood by tree and a tree rooted within the Earth was an energy of the cosmos and we married now I'm a tree hugger and married to the gross of photosynthesis,
Now I'm in hail exhale sporadic consistency

[Anonymous]

1. I don’t believe in marriage
2. My partner and I have been together for 7 years, I don’t ever intend to marry her. I would love if we could spend a lifetime together. I don’t think I could be 100% faithful I have flirted and had some non-penetration sex with a few women since we’ve been together. I love her absolutely and want our relationship to flourish. I don’t know why I can’t quite do 100% monogamy, I would honestly like to but I need a little off leash time.

[TenderFantasy]

Well, I guess as long as she's okay with it and you've made her aware.

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t outright cheat, just get a little freaky now and then

[eagle1951]

1979 she was a nurse in a nursing home I was a medic, taking her in a patient, there was another nurse there who had been trying to date me for months, but i did not like her, lol so on my way out the door this nurse i didn't like gave me her number, and on the back she gave me my late wifes number, 2 days later i called my late wife, we were married 37 years until she passed Feb19th 2018

[Sevenpointfive]

the institution of marriage in a non-monogamous animal. you do you friend. but most people around know better than to tie the knot.

[TenderFantasy]

Hmm, I'm not sure I agree with this considering whenever I go out, I see loads of families and they are more than likely are married, especially if they have children. If they don't, and they are just shacking up, well, I guess what kind of morals are those? Lol.

[Sevenpointfive]

i think a lot of married people with children cheat. i'd rather have solid morals than be that

[molonski2]

Very true , the entire concept of monogamous is utterly utterly ludicrous quite frankly..
And literally NO ONE sticks to it ( unless they can't snag something else )

[TenderFantasy]

@Sevenpointfive who says you can't be both? And so you're calling those who are truly monogamous and haven't been with other people since marriage all liars? ! Lol, that's a lot of people you're calling liars. That's bold of you. You're essentially calling my own parents and their parents "liars". You're calling my old retired neighbors who've been with each other since the early 80's, liars. You're calling my other neighbor who are strict religious folks who are Asian, liars lol. Not everyone thinks with their dicks you know. Some actually grow up and are faithful towards their life partners!

[Sevenpointfive]

i'm not calling them all liars. only half of them

[Joshydavid25]

I'll let you know once it happens.. You'll be the first I come to.. 😎👉..

[JayBones]

I met her at work
We dated 6 months before I proposed
I knew she was the one because she had traditional values and was not a slut like all the other girls I dated. She was also super cute.

[TenderFantasy]

Aww that's sweet. She got lucky you weren't shopping for someone else and you chose her instead of others. And lol about the slutty women.

[Keith469]

She brought me a glass of wine and a plate of food at a school party. We had been flirting a few weeks earlier when she had been dating a classmate of mine.

[newboy78]

I met her in my dream once. Then she disappeared forever😂

[MrShaun]

Met her while filming for Universal Studios. We dated a few years before marriage.

[TenderFantasy]

Why did it take a few years (instead of months) for you to decide she was "the One"?

[MrShaun]

It didn't. We just took our time.

[KillinItHard]

Single, can't offer an opinion.