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Do you believe that if you get married you're forfeiting your freedom?
I wouldn't call it "forfeiting" your freedom. You are agreeing to a partnership, which means that you can no longer think only about yourself and do whatever you want. Rather, two partners have to be concerned about each other's happiness, welfare and sense of fulfillment. They work together as a team.
You still have freedom, but you also have a trusted best friend who loves, admires and cares about you. You can collaborate, confide and do things together, build a happy life and plan for the future.
I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. They were wonderful girls, but I wasn't ready to settle down and I had no interest in commitment to a family. I needed to see more of the world and experience life. Yes, I wanted my freedom. It wasn't until my early 30s that I thought I had done everything I wanted to do and was ready to begin a new chapter with a life-long companion. I met my future wife when I was 40 and married her two years later.
We've been married for almost 27 years. We have had a LOT of fun and built a wonderful life together. We have helped each other to grow. At this point, I'd be lonely and miserable without her.
I did not lose anything. I gained.
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If you marry a woman then yes, since women control men these days and quite often use sex as blackmail to get their own way.
No. In fact, I have discovered more personal freedom while I've been married than when I was single.
I've been codependent for a long time, and this is my first healthy relationship. We've taken the time to both go to therapy, and grow as individuals.
I found an immense amount of freedom in that. Now I'm able to go do my own thing without worrying about my partner, or how long I am going to be apart from them. It's very freeing.
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Yes, of course. But love is pretty cool. He bought me a vacuum for Christmas. It had eight million attachments. I loved how excited he was to show me the eight million attachments.
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If you have chosen the right partner. . . I believe that a committed relationship or marriage requires a compromise on the degree of a person's unfettered autonomy, in exchange for having love, affection, and companionship with a devoted partner. It is a compromise I am willing to make.
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The answer is no.
Any commitment you make it forfeits freedoms for more freedoms. Everyone who honestly thinks getting married is nothing but a trap doesn’t know what it’s like to be in a real relationship when you take good care of each other for our own well beings.
I’m not going to say that all marriages are healthy. What I will say is a true healthy marriage is like marrying someone who takes care of you and preserves everything that makes you, you.
One of my biggest fears of living alone and single was being incredibly sick or seriously injured. Who will take care of me? Who will feed me?
As an athlete who competes in world championships I’ve sprained my ankle 4 different times. Having to take care of myself during all of those times was the biggest pain in the ass. I knew I couldn’t keep doing this as I grew older. Being married was definitely one of the best moves I’ve ever done in my life. -
Not at all. In fact, it’s quite liberating. I don’t have to spend time trying to connect with any girl I find remotely attractive. I don’t need ti attend every social event invite hoping to meet some woman worth my time. I don’t have to constantly self-evaluate if I’m bringing my best A-game to every female I meet.
I can enjoy the slow pace of life (when I can find it) with someone who knows me and cares for me. I can focus on the life we want for ourselves. I can politely decline every social event or avoid interactions since I stand to lose nothing. I can freely spend my time backpacking or diving or smoking a cigar, confident that I can come home to share my story and a warm meal with someone I love. When I have a weak day I find support. When they have a weak day, I can be there for them.
It’s absolutely liberating.
Sure, I lost the freedom to go chase ransom chicks and party until 0300 but truth be told, that gets frigging old after a while. -
Only if you marry the wrong person. If you marry someone with similar values to you, have mutual respect, and good communication, then you should have a healthy marriage without feeling 'trapped'. The old ball and chain meme that boomers like to spread aren't really true if you truly felt out your options and dated long enough to know yourself and what you want from a relationship, and are with someone who did the same. Of course, there are sacrifices in any relationship, but the pros outweigh the cons.
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Nope. You're just declaring that you're committed to each other, more so than when you're in an exclusive relationship. You're getting numerous laws like tax, medical, and other things into effect, also as a man, you could also put yourself at risk in a divorce situation, but that depends on the government.
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Only in the sense that you're a partnership now. Simple life decisions that were solely your own have to consider your partner if you want the partnership to remain successful. Most aren't that tough if you married right. But nobody no matter how close thinks exactly alike. If you truly view marriage as loss of freedom you probably aren't ready for it. And I'm not talking "cold feet". Everyone gets that right before. That's natural.
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Yes of course because the other person will have expectations from you and you will need to do things for their happiness at some point you will have to listen to them and make adjustment
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In some ways you will have to compromise in a relationship, which I guess could be seen as losing some aspects of your freedom but ultimately if you marry the right person and communicate well you shouldn't feel like you lose anything.
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Not if you're marrying the right person. The right person would enhance your life in such a way that you would feel worse without them in it. You would feel free with that person and insanely happy (most of the time.) Until you meet that person, don't marry.
If you feel like you're forfeiting your freedom in a relationship, then it isn't the right person.
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Not only that but also your assets.
Call me crazy but why have i seen marriages ruin both men and women on multiple occasions? more than those, that don't look like human ruins. i see them and think to myself " don't be them ".
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As a guy, yes, but women should always receive unlimited freedom to date other guys whenever they want, in my opinion.
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Not in every case but for the way the marriage laws are set up it can absolutely end up that way.
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No, but you no longer are alone in the world. I had trouble adjusting to that. All of a sudden I had somebody in my life that I was responsible for.
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Yes, it's LITERALLY the EXACT same thing as burying yourself in a landfill.
Exactly the same, not figuratively, LITERALLY, that is what marriage is, marriage means burying yourself. -
If you don't lose that game of Russian Roulette by being lucky enough to find someone you can trust, you're fine. If not, you're gonna have a bad time.
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You can't do what you bloody well feel like can you?
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I will lose it by the time she walks down the aisle. But I’ll be free to love her and get lost in her smile.
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Especially if she's a ball-breaker or she's gonna basically be a gold-digger, is pushing for offspring, or is a terrific liar 🤗😆
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such topic gotta be discussed before marrying so no one would be confused or forced afterwards -
If you truly feel that way, it’s best to stay away from marriage.
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